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We live in a small town in the Southern United States, and there are, I hate to say, a lot of close-minded ******** here who can't fathom two things: 1. That I wouldn't want to name my daughter something completely boring and typical 2. That I prefer gender neutral (or even masculine) names for my baby girl.<br><br>
Our first child is due October 1st, and we found out a few weeks ago that it is a girl. Regardless of the sex, my husband and I really love the name Rowan Graham, and we had been planning this as our top pick for either a boy or a girl. (Graham is DH's middle name). To me, it doesn't seem like it is even that odd of a name, really. When our families--especially his--found out that this was the name, they had all kinds of rude comments: "You mean like R-O-W-I-N-G a boat...hehehe..." "Well, that was okay for a boy. What are you going to name your <i>girl</i>, though?" "I'm just going to call her Lily because it is delicate and pretty like a little girl should be." ARRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHH!<br><br>
What is it with people? They all got to name their children, and if I want to call my baby Rocketship Monkeypoo, then I very well will. (Okay, I'm just kidding on that last one, but you get the point...)<br><br>
Anyone else had this experience?
 

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Aaaand now you know why I'm not sharing our name with anyone but you guys. I got so sick of the crap I got for dd3's name (Rory, my mom's family is totally incapable of saying it right <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll">) People tend to keep their mouth shut if you wait until the baby is actually born to announce the name.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2">
 

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Cherry: First of all, I LOVE the name Rory. I wanted to keep our name a secret, but my husband let it slip to the MIL back before we knew what the baby would be. This is the same woman who "accidentally" told everyone I was pregnant when I was only 5 weeks in. What I wouldn't give to take that all back! I've learned my lesson for the next pregnancy!
 

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grrrr. i just had a really irritating comment on my fb from an extended family member about my name preferences: "just don't forget that she'll be pre-judged on her resume and how mean kids are these days". o, right--how irresponsible of me. we should all just name our babies jennifer or something similarly safe so they'll always fit in and be accepted by the "mainstream", or otherwise, close-minded.<br><br>
i'm not telling anyone our name choice but you guy's, either.<br><br>
And Rowan's beautiful, as is gender neutral names, especially on considerably beautiful people, which no doubt she'll be. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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DH shared one of the names we were thinking about with his family, and I was amazed at quickly it was shot down, and for such petty reasons! I'm glad it wasn't a name I had my heart set on because I was honestly a little hurt by how dismissive they were. I wonder if people who have already had kids tend to forget how painstaking and sensitive a process it can be?<br><br>
DH now knows not to talk about names with anyone. I'll probably come up with some completely off-the-wall name to tell people when they ask if we've decided on one since those questions will likely come up a lot. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br>
I think the name you've chosen is adorable!
 

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I agree with CB. We have not shared any of the names we are thinking about with anyone but my sister (whom would never spill the beans) and you guys (dh doesn't even know that i have done that).<br><br>
This is OUR baby and WE will decide what to name the little one. I think when you tell people the name they think that means you want there opinion no matter how rude it might be <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked"><br><br>
We named our first daughter, Aislyn (A's - lyn), it was a take from the name Ashlynn. Everyone was like "huh" and now they can't imagine her being anything but an Aislyn.<br><br>
We gave out second daughter the middle name, True and again people thought we were goofy. Now they see Abbi True is who she is.<br><br>
And FWIW, I think Rowan Graham is a wonderful name <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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I think Rowan is a beautiful name.<br><br>
Whenever my family offers opinions or suggestions for names I always point out that they got to name their children, so back off and let me name mine.
 

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Yeah, I had to specifically tell my dh not to tell ANYONE, or he would have let it slip. He still might, who knows <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll">
 

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I know how you feel. DS has a very Irish name and where we used to live (very rural and in the deep South), we got a lot of flack. We also got it from our families as well, so this time around we aren't telling anyone our name choices.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Aaaand now you know why I'm not sharing our name with anyone but you guys. I got so sick of the crap I got for dd3's name (Rory, my mom's family is totally incapable of saying it right <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll">) People tend to keep their mouth shut if you wait until the baby is actually born to announce the name.</div>
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This is what we do, too. Of course, I don't know if anyone in our families would actually criticize a name choice, but I'd rather it just be a done deal by the time they find out.<br><br>
Of course, with both kids we decided on the names at the last minute, so there wasn't really a chance to share them anyways.
 

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Yep this is why we are not telling our parents any of our name choices, especially DHs side, Im not telling my parents because I dont tell them anything!<br><br>
The MIL made a comment about not naming our kid anything weird DH just said well you named me something that was considered weird and its our child so we will name them whatever we feel fits. She hasnt mentioned anything since.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">We live in a small town in the Southern United States, and there are, I hate to say, a lot of close-minded ******** here who can't fathom two things: 1. That I wouldn't want to name my daughter something completely boring and typical 2. That I prefer gender neutral (or even masculine) names for my baby girl.<br><br>
Our first child is due October 1st, and we found out a few weeks ago that it is a girl. Regardless of the sex, my husband and I really love the name Rowan Graham, and we had been planning this as our top pick for either a boy or a girl. (Graham is DH's middle name). To me, it doesn't seem like it is even that odd of a name, really. When our families--especially his--found out that this was the name, they had all kinds of rude comments: "You mean like R-O-W-I-N-G a boat...hehehe..." "Well, that was okay for a boy. What are you going to name your <i>girl</i>, though?" "I'm just going to call her Lily because it is delicate and pretty like a little girl should be." ARRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHH!<br><br>
What is it with people? They all got to name their children, and if I want to call my baby Rocketship Monkeypoo, then I very well will. (Okay, I'm just kidding on that last one, but you get the point...)<br><br>
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You know, you had a great point there with Monkeypoo. From now on every time they ask, just say Monkeypoo with a very serious look on your face. When they stare in disbelief just keep saying yeah, MonkeyPoo- its sweet, endearing and she can go by Poo if she prefers. Do not stop repeating Monkeypoo-eventually they'll stop asking!<br><br>
Rowan is darling by the way!
 

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Rowan is a lovely name! (It's on our list for either boy or girl, as well.)<br><br>
We have the same issues with closed-minded people with a long list of mental rules about what are and are not acceptable names, further subdivided by acceptable names for each sex. It's more than a little annoying.<br><br>
We haven't chosen names yet -- we think we'll work up a short list of names we agree on for each sex and decide after the birth -- but so far we've been doing a pretty good job of deflecting criticism by using "The Monkeypoo Method." <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"> Well, not Monkeypoo exactly, but Aethelflaed. Aethelflaed was an Anglo-Saxon princess and ruler in her own right, and we both actually love the name, but don't really love it <i>enough</i> to saddle our daughter with it. And it would be "saddling" around here... people would misspell and mispronounce it out of malice if nothing else. So anytime anyone asks about names, we say, "We haven't decided yet, but we really love the name Aethelflaed for a girl. Strong and feminine at the same time..." It's only because I actually DO like the name that I can say this without laughing; that would be a real problem with Monkeypoo! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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I love Rowan! Especially with Graham.
 

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I think Rowan is adorable also! THis is exactly why we're not telling anyone either.
 

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Apparently the name we have picked if it is a girl sounds like an "old lady" name. Really funny because when my dh asked how many old ladies named xxxx does she know.....she replied "none" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll">.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Aaaand now you know why I'm not sharing our name with anyone but you guys. I got so sick of the crap I got for dd3's name (Rory, my mom's family is totally incapable of saying it right <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll">) People tend to keep their mouth shut if you wait until the baby is actually born to announce the name.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"></div>
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This is worth repeating!<br><br>
We gave up one name and everyone hated it. That was it until after my showers and I made them work to get those names.<br><br>
We probably won't tell anyone until the end next time, either.
 

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We named our son Jikavi, and now people like it and think it fits and is pretty, buuuuut before it was hell. This time i let slip I liked Matilda for a girl and people are hating on that. I don't have a clue what we will name a girl this time.
 

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I love the name Rowan for a girl! We do not share our name choices with anyone b/c I really don't want to hear what others have to say (IRL anyway! LOL). People rarely comment on a child's name AFTER they are born...at least not to the parents.
 

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I have shared the names I've picked out with friends but not family because I think family will be more likely to be honest if they don't like the names.<br><br>
Also, I tend to like boring, traditional names. I guess that makes me a *******.
 
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