[roses25]

Is anyone else extremely annoyed with family, friends, or co-workers. I would love to hear about it.

I'm once again extremely annoyed by mom. Everytime she talks to me she tells me to be careful about what I say to my oldest sister because she's having a hard time right now and may not be able to have anymore babies. I seriously get tired of hearing that every single time I talk to her, and I finally told her to stop telling me that because until my sister tells me that herself I won't believe her (my mom). She also told me she was jealous, and when I asked my sister about this she denied being jealous. She told me that I said that I'm not going to have toxemia, and I said that I didn't say that, but what I did say was to stop telling me that I better have everything ready because my baby could come anytime. She tells me that everytime, and I told her that I'm not planning on having a baby at 35 weeks and everytime she tells me that I feel like she's sending me negative vibes and that she should wait until I'm 37 weeks to tell me that. I do worry and wonder if things will happen to me like they did with my oldest sister. I'm glad to be past my 35th week almost since my niece was born in the 35th week due to my oldest sister having HELP Syndrome. So it's not that I don't worry, but I get tired of my mom saying that to me over and over when I'm only 35 weeks, 34 weeks, etc. She told me that her nurse was in there to give her a bath so she had to go (she's currently living in a nursing home), and I told her to have a good bath, but to stop putting words in my face that I haven't said. I felt bad after saying that, but she does irritate the heck out of me when I feel like I can't enjoy my own pregnancy because of LoRene's life.

That's the story of my life right now. I just get tired of listening to my mom tell me that every time we talk (2-3 times a week).

Carolyn

 

[JD5351]

Yeah, I get annoyed. Big time.

My mom especially. I love the lady, but my grandma raised me. My mom was 17 when she got pregnant with me. There ARE teenagers who step up and are great mothers, but she was not one of them. She was absolutely not ready and not interested in growing up. Having a baby was FUN to her, when it was convenient. She did what she wanted to do, and my grandma took care of me. I was a total grandma's girl, and she was awesome.

Now that I'm having a baby, all she can do is giggle and talk about how she can't wait to babysit, and show my baby off to all of her friends. She told me that i should take a vacation this summer, and she will stay at my house and take care of him for a few days. When I told her that won't be possible, that I am not interested in leaving my son any time soon, and that I am breastfeeding anyway, and so he would starve to death. She said, "You already said you're going to pump when you go back to work!" I said, "Yeah, enough to get him through the 8 hours I'm at work, and a bit to spare in case of emergency. I am NOT leaving him. If I go on vacation, he goes too!"

Plus I brought up that he will have a lot of diapers to be changed, and I'm not sure she's up for that. She said she has no problem with diapers. I've seen her retch and gag cleaning up dog pee, I'd LOOOOVE to see her handle a big smelly diarrhea diaper.

Or the messy toys, fingerprints, etc. She lives with her sister, and keeps her sister's dogs confined to the tiled areas of the house because she doesn't want dog hair on the carpet or the furniture. How's she going to stand a slobbery curious baby touching everything?

Moral of the story. My baby is not for showing off to her friends. He is not for fun, and *I* am the mom. She can be grandma, and see him when she wants to, but on my terms.

 

[lotus.blossom]

I think tolerance levels really go down when you are pregnant. Although people have a way of putting their feet in their mouths to pregnant women!

Try to just ignore everyone and put up a bubble of peace around you!

 

[Error_kitten]

I will admit that I have been fortunate enough to not have anyone rag on me to hard, but I had the same problem with "But your going to pump so that means the baby can stay with me"
My MIL thinks that because I plan on pumping and having a stash that I should leave my baby with her like all the time.
Hes not even here yet and shes telling me how I'm going to want my space blah blah blah.

I'm lucky that I was able to get everyone to shut up about the fact that I'm having a home birth with a midwife.
My dad had given me a bit of grief on the fact that I keep trying to keep a positive outlook that its not going to be painful but intense and that I can do this its all mind over matter.
So finally one day I snapped at him "You think I'm not worried I can't handle it?! Of course I'm worried but I am not going to let my worry or fear control me. The more positive things I tell myself the more they will become reality so you can either keep telling me I'm delusional or you can be supportive and help make it a reality"
Fortunately for my both my parents are/were into that whole "the secret" thing so it shut him up real fast and hes not said a word about it otherwise.

 

[burm_keep]

Yes. I'm annoyed with family. They all seems to have an opinion on everything and I'm just not interested at this point.

I think I'm being overly sensitive pregnant woman.

 

[AustGirl]

So far I think I've really kept my emotions and hormones under control during this pregnancy. I live with my husband and a good friend of ours who was planning on moving out originally in December last year. Now that I've got 4 weeks to go, we're a little worried that if bub comes early we'll have too many people in the house. But really, it's not something that bothers me, which surprises all my friends when they realise our housemate is still here.

I did have a little sook at work the other night when I thought my FIL (technically my boss for this casual job I've been doing for 8 or 9 years) didn't appreciate that the only reason I kept doing the job was so that I didn't leave him without someone in that position.

If something bothers me I do blow up a bit, but far less than I thought I would be at this stage!

 

[Ldavis24]

I will happily complain about my family, friends, work!! Thanks for giving us the venue!!

My MIL drives me crazy on a daily basis and I haven't even seen her in over 2 months!! She only lives 5 minutes away so that is quite a feat I think....

DH told her that I wanted DH's step-mom to be at the hospital with everyone else after the baby is born (no one's coming until after the birth itself) because she is part of the family! So MIL starts to cry because hey even though she got divorced from DH's dad over 10 YEARS AGO!! she still acts like it was yesterday...

So she is crying and actually said, "how could Lauren hurt me like this?" (me being Lauren

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DH didn't even know what to say he just kinda got off the phone as quick as possible...I told him, if she causes any kind of a scene I will happily have her booted from the hospital without even seeing her grandchild, if she in any way tries to make DH's step mom feel unwelcome or is snarky it is so done...This woman is seriously misbalanced and we all know this but I am not feeling so tolerant these days as other PP have noted...

I would also like to give a shout out to my cat Loki, who is going to die if he isn't careful because yesterday I discovered he sprayed the carseat we bought for DD!!! I don't know what I am going to do to clean it, or if it is even possible but that cat is in serious trouble. Anyone want a cat btw?

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oh yeah and DH said last night he knows that mentally I can handle natural childbirth and has complete faith in me that way but is concerned I will still end up with a C-section because I have extremely narrow hips and according to him, I am very small down there TMI, whatever that means? Thanks for the support honey.

 

[JenniferLovie]

Yesterday I was ready to pick a fight at work because I was mad my clothes aren't fitting as well. I'm mostly getting annoyed with strangers who are experts on pregnancy. I really want to hear another person tell me when I'm due and how there's no way I'll make it to my due date. I've quit being polite.

 

[lotus.blossom]

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Originally Posted by Ldavis24 oh yeah and DH said last night he knows that mentally I can handle natural childbirth and has complete faith in me that way but is concerned I will still end up with a C-section because I have extremely narrow hips and according to him, I am very small down there TMI, whatever that means? Thanks for the support honey.

You can tell him that thanks to 'relaxin' your hips are movable! And what does he think, most women have a waterslide down there?

Oh and the cat thing- eww I would be steaming mad. I have heard that Nature's Miracle works great for smells.

 

[mamayarn]

Yes, I have the preggo rage.

It comes and goes.

 

[Asher]

I'm just overall twitchy. I couldn't even sleep last night b/c I was going through conversations/confrontations in my head that I planned to have.

 

[SunCB]

Annoyed with certain people around here. Been posting in the chat thread about it but I guess this is the vent thread now.

I wish I could politely just say shut your mouth bc it is none of your freakin' business and if I wanted you to know then I would tell you! Of course, when I want to say it that is certainly not how it would come out.

People know what they need to know and they do not need to continually ask over and over again when they know the answer. I do not mind when long distance people ask questions bc I do not communicate with them on a regular basis seems okay bc they are not asking stuff how much weight I gained or what the baby's outfit is and then telling me how I am wrong for not showing them. They usually just want to know baby and I are doing okay.

I will just come here and vent more so it does not build up if I need to, LM

 

[j_p_i]

I'm not so much annoyed... as I seem to have a shorter temper. Not that I get angry much, but I get frustrated and cranky easily. Sometimes I know it's over something silly, but that doesn't necessarily make it easier! I try to keep things in perspective, but that's easier said than done at times.

 

[Ldavis24]

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Originally Posted by j_p_i I'm not so much annoyed... as I seem to have a shorter temper. Not that I get angry much, but I get frustrated and cranky easily. Sometimes I know it's over something silly, but that doesn't necessarily make it easier! I try to keep things in perspective, but that's easier said than done at times.

I think the shorter temper thing is universal. DH occasionally reminds me that I don't need to snap at every little thing, or to take a breath and think about it for a second...Sometimes it works, sometimes I just yell at him...

I want what I want and I want it now and god help anyone who gets in this pregnant lady's way!

oh thank you lotus.blossom for the suggestion for Nature's Promise. I cannot believe the cat peed on my pretty new car seat...It makes me wonder if he is going to try to pee on the baby?! I know primarily this is because he is not yet neutered, thats happening in 2 weeks so if he can just handle not p.i.s.s.i.n.g on everything in sight for the next two weeks I might not kill him! Peed on my crocs too, discovered that this morning and spent 20 minutes washing them out.

 

[Auraji]

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Originally Posted by Ldavis24 I would also like to give a shout out to my cat Loki, who is going to die if he isn't careful because yesterday I discovered he sprayed the carseat we bought for DD!!! I don't know what I am going to do to clean it, or if it is even possible but that cat is in serious trouble. Anyone want a cat btw? : : : .

I see my cat is not the only one who's gonna die! He has sprayed everywhere!!! Dss's car seat, which I have used everything to take the smell out. I even let it sit out in the rain and then dry again. Still smells!
He has sprayed the carpet, this very pretty JJ Cole diaper organizer I got for the baby

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I just want to kill him. Everytime I walk into my house, Im received by his wonderful smell, it brings me down immediately. I keep cleaning, but it NEVER goes away. We even got him fix last week, which was something I didnt want to do and felt bad about, but seriously it was not only the spraying, but the meowing ALL night. He's a bengal and they're waaaay low. He has mellowed out, but is still spraying.

Let's see who else? DP's best friend. Who still has a million things here that I want him to take 3 months ago. I need the space, to store things. He said he would be coming this week to get them and if he doesnt, Im just putting it in the street. I dont care. This is also the same friend that whenever he comes he eats a slice of pizza and leaves the plate with the crust in the couch, or leaves the wrapper of fast food on the table. Not only it's annoying to be cleaning up other adults mess, but I have a cat that will attack these things.
He also seems to always be needing to make a comment about my pregnancy. Like "I hope you dont pop your baby tonight, this is Jackie's night". When we were going to his gf's goodbye party. I said, I hope I dont "pop" my baby tonight, because Im only 32 weeks pregnant.
The last time he was here, he started walking all clumsily with his hand like he was holding a big belly, meaning that I was huge. That was supposed to be a joke

Im not even that big, everyone that sees me, doesnt believe me that my due date is may 13th.
Then when we were in the dinner, he says to me as Im eating if my belly is my crumb catcher. I mean seriously? Im already annoyed at you for having all your stuff in my house and keeping me from organizing things how I want them to be, you better shut up.

Then there is dss's mom, who has been saying she's gonna do a baby shower for me and to not buy anything and STILL hasnt done anything. To give her a list of the things I want/need. The list is here, waiting. I think Im just gonna go and buy myself everything, I mean is 3 weeks until my EDD and Im missing a LOT of the basics.

I'm sorry, I really needed a vent thread.

 

[Auraji]

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Originally Posted by Asher I'm just overall twitchy. I couldn't even sleep last night b/c I was going through conversations/confrontations in my head that I planned to have.

Sounds like me! I hate confrontations so I need to plan how the conversation is gonna go ahead of time.

 

[trauerweidchen]

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Originally Posted by Ldavis24 oh thank you lotus.blossom for the suggestion for Nature's Promise. I cannot believe the cat peed on my pretty new car seat...It makes me wonder if he is going to try to pee on the baby?! I know primarily this is because he is not yet neutered, thats happening in 2 weeks so if he can just handle not p.i.s.s.i.n.g on everything in sight for the next two weeks I might not kill him! Peed on my crocs too, discovered that this morning and spent 20 minutes washing them out.

Simple Solutions is another good product, and actually OxyClean has worked really well for our carpets (we have a problematic kitty too--Lancelot--although I guess one out of four isn't terrible!). Getting your cat neutered should help a lot, especially with "upright" spraying. I doubt very much that he'll pee on the baby, but cats don't like change and so you might go through a transition period with him with the new addition. I worked at an animal shelter for a year, and I've seen more than one family cat brought in because they are having adjustment issues as a result of a new baby. At our shelter, if the cat sprayed, we couldn't adopt them out again to a different family because we had so many cats trying to find new homes already. I hope that your Loki shapes up for you. I'm nervous about our four cats adjusting to the baby, but I've seen time and again with change around our house that giving the cats time and being patient does wonders, and I'm highly motivated to hang onto our wonderful kitties! There are days, though, that I seriously consider finding Lance a new home.

In fact, the most irritable part of pregnancy for me so far has probably been that cat.

Lancelot is very charming to guests; he's a really outgoing, engaging cat, but he's challenging. When I talk to my mom on the phone, she says it sounds like I have a toddler in the house because I need to keep such a close eye on him. This cat really isn't a cat at heart. He can open cupboards, he tips over the garbage, he hauls food off of counters, he fetches, he can walk on his hind legs... his curiosity knows no bounds, and he's very, very smart. He's the kid that misbehaves all day, but at the end of it, he looks up into your eyes, rolls over, and purrs his heart out.

Slightly more on topic, though--I've been trying hard to be fairly even-tempered this pregnancy, but I think when your belly reaches a certain size it's impossible not to be a bit irritable. Luckily for me, my family and in-laws are very understanding people, and even though they're close, they respect our space. Most of my friends are just amused at me, since most of them haven't had children, and my husband is just so cheery and supportive that it's pretty much impossible for me to be mad at him.

 

[Xerxella]

My sister is the one driving me nuts. She calls at least once everyday (she never used to do that). "Soooo, hooww'ss it ggooiinnggggggg? Anything going ooonnnnnnnn??????" It frigging drives me nuts. There is absolutely NOTHING going on and to tell her this everyday makes the fact that nothing is going on even more annoying!!!! Believe me, I WANT to have this baby! And, I'll tell you when I do!

I stopped answering her calls one day. Now, I was at work, mind you, and actually on the phone doing work when I see her calling. So, I ignore it and I know my voice mail says I'm on another call if I'm on another call and please leave a message. It's a different message than if I just don't pick up. So, she knows I must be at work, right? So, she calls my cell phone 2x's and my work phone 3x's and I don't answer any of them. Well, I guess she then calls my dad (who will be babysitting DS when I'm in labor) and is frantic saying I must be in labor because I'm not picking up.

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Yeah, right, I'm sitting on a business call at work and I'm in active labor, 3 weeks early.... gggrrr

Thanks for letting me vent...

 

[Ldavis24]

I know we are hijacking the topic with our talk of cats, but it makes me feel a lot better to know that I'm not the only one having kitty problems!

Lancelot btw sounds like a charming menace if that makes any sense...

I didn't want to get Loki neutered either, he is a strictly indoor cat (next to road/coyotes) and I have this thing about fixing animals. If it's castration in a human why isn't it that with an animal?

Unfortunately it is this step or give him to our friend if we can't get him to stop..I have had cats all my life and I know there are problems when babies come but I am determined to make it work...

It's odd though, Loki is generally a lovebug to my DH, DH has always been his favorite but in the last 4 months he has become downright nasty to DH and loves me. Sleeps on me all the time, follows me everywhere purring constantly. Then DH walks by and the poor man gets swiped at...Who knows

I think kitty is genuinely being protective of me.

Although he will need protecting if sprays anymore baby stuff! Not even allowed in DD's room until after he is neutered. Gah stupid animals.

PS. Im sorry to hear about your car seat Aurjai!! I am hoping I can get my car seat cleaned/desmelled before DD arrives otherwise we will have nothing to bring her home from the hospital in!! I am nervous now if you have had so much trouble with yours though? I am starting that as soon as I get home!

 

[Auraji]

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Originally Posted by Ldavis24 PS. Im sorry to hear about your car seat Aurjai!! I am hoping I can get my car seat cleaned/desmelled before DD arrives otherwise we will have nothing to bring her home from the hospital in!! I am nervous now if you have had so much trouble with yours though? I am starting that as soon as I get home!

Yeah, get to it soon. I took it outside and I have this special spray for cleaning pet odors. I used that and this other all purpose cleaner. Sat down on the backyard with my gloves on and scrubbed like there's no tomorrow. It didnt make much of a difference and it has seriously been outside ever since. Rain and sun and it still smells. I was trying to figure out if there was a way for the lining to come out and throw it in the washer, but I dont know.

Did I also mention that we now need to buy a new couch because the one is completely ruined? How I love my cat

, we call him the jungle beast, because that's what he is. He has also learned to open our bedroom door. He's not allowed in any of the bedrooms anymore.

Who else Im annoyed at? My doctor and her condescending tone. "Nobody is going to do anything that will hurt you or your baby". This was when we were discussing my birth plan. I said "I know, it's not about hurting me or my baby, it's about preferences". I also had to sign that stupid paper that gives them permission to do a million things, I felt horrible about that.
The thing that made me feel good is that she said that they're pretty laid back, they dont want to cut me, no episiotomy, they want me to have a vaginal birth and blah blah blah.