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Family came by for a visit yesterday. Got some annoying comments regarding my choice to breastfeed:<br><br>
1) You're going to breastfeed for two years! Your breasts are going to sag! (I heard this wasn't true.)<br>
2) Why don't you just wean at a year like formula fed babies?<br>
3) Why do you have to nurse at night? Why not teach your baby to sleep through the night?<br>
4) If you nurse until your baby is two, he'll become too dependent on you and never learn to feel secure and independent.<br>
5) You should have started solids already. (Baby is seven months but can't sit up completely stable w/o help yet). Your breastmilk isn't enough for him anymore.<br>
6) Your baby shouldn't be nursing that often. That's further proof that your breastmilk isn't enough (my baby has always nursed every 45 min to 2 hours).<br><br>
My family is waiting for me to fail with this whole breastfeeding thing. Any good articles I can use in my defense on any of these points.
 

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Well here goes.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br>
1) You're going to breastfeed for two years! Your breasts are going to sag! (I heard this wasn't true.)<br>
Pregnancy makes your breasts change it's not just a BF thing.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:<br><br>
2) Why don't you just wean at a year like formula fed babies?<br>
Have they not noticed that the formula companies now have " Follow up formulas" for babies past a year? I guess they have figured out that they do need something beyond a year?!<br><a href="http://www.kellymom.com/bf/bfextended/ebf-benefits.html" target="_blank">http://www.kellymom.com/bf/bfextended/ebf-benefits.html</a><br><a href="http://www.kellymom.com/bf/bfextended/ebf-links.html" target="_blank">http://www.kellymom.com/bf/bfextended/ebf-links.html</a><br><br>
3) Why do you have to nurse at night? Why not teach your baby to sleep through the night? Because babies need to eat at night to get all the nutrients and calories they need.<br><a href="http://www.kellymom.com/parenting/sleep/sleep.html" target="_blank">http://www.kellymom.com/parenting/sleep/sleep.html</a><br><a href="http://www.kellymom.com/bf/weaning/weaning-night.html" target="_blank">http://www.kellymom.com/bf/weaning/weaning-night.html</a><br><br>
4) If you nurse until your baby is two, he'll become too dependent on you and never learn to feel secure and independent. What a load of Whoey! If babies are comfortable and secure it give them the stability to branch out and confidentally try new things.<br><a href="http://www.kellymom.com/bf/bfextended/ebf-benefits.html#social" target="_blank">http://www.kellymom.com/bf/bfextende...ts.html#social</a><br><br><br>
5) You should have started solids already. (Baby is seven months but can't sit up completely stable w/o help yet). Your breastmilk isn't enough for him anymore. I think it was in on of dr Spocks books that there was a note of interest saying that thaey never used to start solids until after a year. The avent of infant cereals came about the same time as home made infant milks lacking iron. All those generations before that didn't starve obviously! We are still here.<br><a href="http://www.kellymom.com/nutrition/solids/delay-solids.html" target="_blank">http://www.kellymom.com/nutrition/so...ay-solids.html</a><br><a href="http://www.kellymom.com/newman/16starting_solid_foods.html" target="_blank">http://www.kellymom.com/newman/16sta...lid_foods.html</a><br><a href="http://www.kellymom.com/nutrition/solids/solids-when.html" target="_blank">http://www.kellymom.com/nutrition/so...lids-when.html</a><br><br>
6) Your baby shouldn't be nursing that often. That's further proof that your breastmilk isn't enough (my baby has always nursed every 45 min to 2 hours).<br>
Breastmilk completely digests in about 90 minutes. Also that is how babies bring your supply up to what they need. Supply and demand or in this case demand and supply <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><a href="http://www.wiessinger.baka.com/bfing/howworks/hungry.html" target="_blank">http://www.wiessinger.baka.com/bfing...ks/hungry.html</a><br><a href="http://www.lalecheleague.org/NB/Law45com.html" target="_blank">http://www.lalecheleague.org/NB/Law45com.html</a><br><a href="http://www.todaysparent.com/article.jsp?content=1266685" target="_blank">http://www.todaysparent.com/article.jsp?content=1266685</a><br>
HTH<br>
Krista
 

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1) You're going to breastfeed for two years! Your breasts are going to sag! (I heard this wasn't true.)<br><b>Yes, they are. That is from being pregnant not nursing! Maybe they can give you a gc to VS?</b><br><br>
2) Why don't you just wean at a year like formula fed babies?<br><b>Because that isn't the right choice for our family.</b><br><br>
3) Why do you have to nurse at night? Why not teach your baby to sleep through the night?<br><b>Because that isn't the right choice for our family.</b><br><br>
5) You should have started solids already. (Baby is seven months but can't sit up completely stable w/o help yet). Your breastmilk isn't enough for him anymore.<br><b>When baby is able to XYZ we will start solids. Breastmilk is the best food for him until then, it has all the nutrients he needs.</b><br><br>
I have one for #4 too but must attend to my baby.<br><br>
6) Your baby shouldn't be nursing that often. That's further proof that your breastmilk isn't enough (my baby has always nursed every 45 min to 2 hours).<br><b>Because breastmilk is the best and most efficient food it goes through the system quickly, unlike formula.</b>
 

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when people ask me how long i will bf (which is very rare since that is such a person question) i tell them as long as she seems to need it. for me that could be years, but most people think months which is fine with me cuz that is my business and no one elses!! i have found that sharing less wards off ignorant questions and comments. plus, i have no idea how long she will want to bf so to put a time frame on it seems like jumping the gun to me. maybe more, maybe less.
 

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From personal experience, I nursed Alivia for 27 months and she is VERY independent and secure. When she's WITH us though, she's shy...sometimes. But pretty independent.
 

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DoratheExplora, I just wanted to send some sunshine your way. I'm sorry that you have to deal with negative, unsupportive family members. Bfing is challenging enough without folks getting on your back about it. As you probably already know, there is LOTS of support for you here at MDC! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> Me though, I tend to skip all the talk & go straight to "it's not up for discussion." So much easier! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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It is very frustrating that people don't understand breastfeeding and just how special and important it is for so many reasons. I do not have supportive family as far as extended nursing, at a year all of the support was gone.<br>
When pressured to wean I said:<br>
"I understand that our society does not value and support breastfeeding past a year but I've done a lot of reading on the subject and it is natural and perfectly normal for babies to continue nursing beyond a year, in fact, most babies in the world nurse past 2 years. Extended breastfeeding has so many benefits, if you want me to give you some information on the subject I'll be happy to do so."<br>
Kellymom is a great source of info.<br>
No one has ever taken me up on my offer for more info (I wish they would, but they don't), but this has stopped them from asking me again.<br>
It's so hard to stand up to societal pressure and just do what you know in your heart is right. You're doing a good thing for your baby!<br><br>
BTW: My daughter is so independent, most moms with kids the same age are amazed at her independence despite all of the babywearing, cosleeping and nursing.
 
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