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so if you search my threads you'll see a common theme of me posting about having another baby question, haha, now I know this is only something I can decide but its seems we mama's spend so much time contimplating this it sometimes helps not to feel so alone<br><br>
we have 3 wonderful (stressful) passionate girls, and DH and I both want #4, whats stoping us?<br><br>
1. finances, I know its shouldnt be a major factor but lets face it it is, if we have #4 it will bring us paycheck to paycheck which is fine but then unexpected $ issues would kill us, right now we live with a super small cusion but at least its there and 1 less thing hanging over our heads<br>
2. this is a crazy/scary world and I wonder what the next 100 years will bring forth for the children I have, do I bring yet another child into this world to endure hardships?<br>
3. the economy, well this goes back to #1 again so really no need to repeat it I guess!<br><br>
why to have one more<br><br>
1. we dont feel done, we have always wanted 4<br>
2. we want to see who else we can create together, what other little character is just waiting to grace us with thier presence<br>
3. we love the big family life and noise and family and love the more the better<br><br><br>
so thats my story, 2x this week we've "almost" gone ahead and left the condom in the drawer only to grab it at the last mintue! haha<br>
one night I just started thinking about labor and that put me off haha and then the next morning I was sad we didnt, and then we go back and forth, we have been doing the back and forth thing since #3 was born, so we either need to just do it or get sterlized because we cant keep messing with our brains like this, I am going to be 36 and DHis 37 and we dont want to have children older then this age so it is now or never for us, no option of waiting 2 years or 5 years then revisiting it, for us this is our time or not<br><br>
thanks for listening!
we have 3 wonderful (stressful) passionate girls, and DH and I both want #4, whats stoping us?<br><br>
1. finances, I know its shouldnt be a major factor but lets face it it is, if we have #4 it will bring us paycheck to paycheck which is fine but then unexpected $ issues would kill us, right now we live with a super small cusion but at least its there and 1 less thing hanging over our heads<br>
2. this is a crazy/scary world and I wonder what the next 100 years will bring forth for the children I have, do I bring yet another child into this world to endure hardships?<br>
3. the economy, well this goes back to #1 again so really no need to repeat it I guess!<br><br>
why to have one more<br><br>
1. we dont feel done, we have always wanted 4<br>
2. we want to see who else we can create together, what other little character is just waiting to grace us with thier presence<br>
3. we love the big family life and noise and family and love the more the better<br><br><br>
so thats my story, 2x this week we've "almost" gone ahead and left the condom in the drawer only to grab it at the last mintue! haha<br>
one night I just started thinking about labor and that put me off haha and then the next morning I was sad we didnt, and then we go back and forth, we have been doing the back and forth thing since #3 was born, so we either need to just do it or get sterlized because we cant keep messing with our brains like this, I am going to be 36 and DHis 37 and we dont want to have children older then this age so it is now or never for us, no option of waiting 2 years or 5 years then revisiting it, for us this is our time or not<br><br>
thanks for listening!
