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Thank god, she was released before she was harmed. How horrible for her and her brother that they are being 'raised' with such ignorance and cruelty.<br><br><br><a href="http://www.nbc5i.com/news/16704201/detail.html?rss=dfw&psp=news" target="_blank">http://www.nbc5i.com/news/16704201/d...s=dfw&psp=news</a><br><br><i>Deputies arrived to find the 9-year-old girl still taped to the tree, Walker said. The girl’s 11-year-old brother was trying to release her.<br><br>
Walker said deputies found the children’s stepfather, Glenn Castille, and arrested him. Police said the weapon Castille had was an airsoft gun.<br><br>
Investigators said the incident was not the first time a child had been taped to something in that household.</i>
 

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I grow tired of saying this but; WTF is wrong with people!<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">:
 

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At what point do you get to be such a poor parent that you have to resort to taping children to trees? I'd be too embarassed to let the whole world know that I'd finally reached the bottom of my bag of parenting tricks and this was all that was left. What a stupid, stupid thing to do. There's nothing that that little girl could've done that was that bad.
 

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And he duct taped her MOUTH too!!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/angry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="angry">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I grow tired of saying this but; WTF is wrong with people!<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">:</div>
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Yep. Not much else to say... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">At what point do you get to be such a poor parent that you have to resort to taping children to trees? I'd be too embarassed to let the whole world know that I'd finally reached the bottom of my bag of parenting tricks and this was all that was left. What a stupid, stupid thing to do. There's nothing that that little girl could've done that was that bad.</div>
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alot of people live what they learn.<br><br>
My stepdad would not have made a good parent, which is why he wasn't. My mom did all of the parenting and he was to stay out of her way.<br><br><br>
Why?<br><br>
Because he was kicked out of his home at 12 or 13 for having an opinion about his mom beating his younger siblings. One of his brothers comitted suicide and his sister is scitzophrenic (s/p)<br><br><br>
My stepdad wound up being one of the more 'normal' out of the children but that doesn't mean he had any business raising kids of his own. When my brother and I turned 13/14 and we started having our own opinions he started reacting in ways that would make most people here cringe. When my mom challenged him he would wind up in the fetal position in the corner. He has major issues but that doesn't make him a bad person. It definately would have made him a bad parent. He has never had kids of his own and he never will. As adults we all get along much better than we did when we were kids.<br><br><br><br>
I am not justifying anything that man did to those poor kids, but 9 times out of 10 you can't assume that someone has the same thought processes as the rest of 'normal' (if there is such a thing) society. He probably sees nothing wrong with duct taping a child to a tree, because something like that or worse was done to him. In fact he probably sees it as 'better' than what he got and is able to justify it in that way to himself.<br><br><br>
All of that being said the man has no business raising children and if the mom can't see that then it is probably in the best interest of the kids to not be in the home.
 

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It's not the first time? I wonder if that means the authorities KNEW he had done it before or if they are just now finding out that he has done it before.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">alot of people live what they learn.<br><br>
My stepdad would not have made a good parent, which is why he wasn't. My mom did all of the parenting and he was to stay out of her way.<br><br><br>
Why?<br><br>
Because he was kicked out of his home at 12 or 13 for having an opinion about his mom beating his younger siblings. One of his brothers comitted suicide and his sister is scitzophrenic (s/p)<br><br><br>
My stepdad wound up being one of the more 'normal' out of the children but that doesn't mean he had any business raising kids of his own. When my brother and I turned 13/14 and we started having our own opinions he started reacting in ways that would make most people here cringe. When my mom challenged him he would wind up in the fetal position in the corner. He has major issues but that doesn't make him a bad person. It definately would have made him a bad parent. He has never had kids of his own and he never will. As adults we all get along much better than we did when we were kids.<br><br><br><br>
I am not justifying anything that man did to those poor kids, but 9 times out of 10 you can't assume that someone has the same thought processes as the rest of 'normal' (if there is such a thing) society. He probably sees nothing wrong with duct taping a child to a tree, because something like that or worse was done to him. In fact he probably sees it as 'better' than what he got and is able to justify it in that way to himself.<br><br><br>
All of that being said the man has no business raising children and if the mom can't see that then it is probably in the best interest of the kids to not be in the home.</div>
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I agree with a lot of this. i would add that there are some studies that indicate that step fathers in particular are sometimes not so great. there''s some biological stuff that goes on...mind, I was raised by a stepfather who I love and who was a good parent.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">At what point do you get to be such a poor parent that you have to resort to taping children to trees? I'd be too embarassed to let the whole world know that I'd finally reached the bottom of my bag of parenting tricks and this was all that was left.</div>
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There are people who don't see it that way, though. If anything, they think they're better than the rest of us, because they don't let their kids rule the roost. (I have no idea if that's what was going on with this guy, or not, but I have run into the mindset.)
 

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We don't even know if the mom is in the household. Either she's there and allowing her DH to abuse her kids, and is unable or unwilling to stop him, or perhaps she's absent or dead and he's raising these kids by himself.<br><br>
In any case, I'm glad they're currently with a family friend- out of the abusive situation and also not placed with strangers.
 

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Tether is NOT the right word. They were bound, tied, tape, et Tether allowed a person or animal a way to move.<br><br>
If this was a single adult having to some up with a way to do two things at once, like many of our greats did, tethering might have been a compromise compairable to a play pen.<br><br>
These sitatuions are not that. They are horribel.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I grow tired of saying this but; WTF is wrong with people!<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">:</div>
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Yosh makes some good points. The trouble is it's so damn easy to become a parent... and very few people have the ability to step back and say "You know what? I shouldn't have authority over kids. I'm not qualified." I bet every single one of us knows at least one person who should do that... and none of them ever does.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I bet every single one of us knows at least one person who should do that... and none of them ever does.</div>
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Not "none". I know two people that I can think of who made a deliberate decision not to have kids, because they felt they wouldn't be good parents - rage issues (among other things), in both cases.<br><br>
I do get what you mean, and I agree. But, there are those who think it through.
 

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Not really. They don't tell most people why they never had kids - I think it makes them feel vulnerable to criticism about their underlying issues (understandably). They both told me after several years of friendship, and both have told - while drunk *sigh* - that I'm the only person they trust. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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Sadly, I fear this stuff (and scarier stuff) goes on way too often... and the only people who know are the victims. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">:
 
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