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Dd is 27 months and mealtimes have always been an issue for her. Not her own mealtimes but rather mine.<br><br>
She cannot stand to see me eat. Why??? Why? No matter how I orchestrate it she spends my mealtime screaching at me. I have tried feeding her first, making sure we both eat at exactly the same time, and setting her up with an activity before I try to eat. All of these have had no effect. She screams and wants me to hold her and stop eating.<br><br>
I want to clarify that holding her while I eat is not an option. When she was an infant that was fine but she is a 25 pound toddler now and I'm not going to hold her through every meal. I have tried sitting on the floor, at her level, and she demanded to stand on my leg while I ate.<br><br>
Anyone got any insight into this behavior? Or ways I can curb it? I'm really so curious as to why it bothers her so much. She isn't verbal enough to tell me yet.
 

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Hi, you are not going to like what I say. Even though I was orginally going to suggest activity, etc...that doesnt work you say. My advice..keep eating. Let her scream, etc. Just explain to her that mommy has to eat to feel good and stop her tummy from hurting. Talk to her, even though you think she may not understand what you are saying. But hey, you gotta eat, so what else can you do? sometimes, they gotta scream. Try putting your plate on the counter in the kitchen so she cant get to your food and rub her head while she clings to your legs and screams as you shovel in the food quickly! I mean, I might sound mean but she has to learn that you have to eat some food. The only other option is to try to eat when she naps, or when someone else like your dh or partner holds her. I have no clue why she would do this other than she is just wanting you to hold her and not to eat.
 

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Nope, that doesn't sound mean at all. That's pretty much what I have been doing, lol.
 

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ITA w/PP. At some point, there are going to be some things that our kids just have to "get over it". KWIM???<br><br>
The only other thing I can think of is that my DS went thru this phase for a while where he wanted to do everything himself. If you are up to it, will she feed you??? It might be a bit messy, but if you get food and some quiet ~ it might be worth it... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
Hoping your DS "gets over it" soon! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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My son does this too, he's a little older, and we've been having this problem for some time. We hit a new low last week, when he made himself throw up so that I would get up from the table--great!!<br><br>
What can I say, it worked! I got up and took care of the mess. He was fussing, but not hysterically crying, so it's not as if he cried to the point that he got sick, he actually does this coughing thing to make himself throw up. It hasn't happened since, but my tactic has also been to just eat--it's really stressful, but I figure, what else can I do?!? He has done this at other times, but this was the first time he did it to get me to get up from the table.<br><br>
I feel like it's the same with any activity that takes me away from him--the phone, the computer...eating! He just doesn't want me engaged in anything that doesn't involve him. I find that when he's hungry, and we eat together, there are no problems. It's when he's done, or tired, etc. that it becomes an issue.<br><br>
I know this is just a phase, and it's a pretty annoying one, so I'm right there with you! Let's hope they get over it soon...and on to the next one!!<br><br>
Good luck,<br>
Carrie & Boden (8-19-03)
 
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