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We have a chocolate lab. He's 5 years old, male.<br><br>
My SIL has a yellow lab, female, about 2 or 3 years old. She does not want the dog anymore. I feel horrible for this dog because they never play with her, and is just yelled at all day. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> I think I would like to adopt her.<br><br>
DH says no. Extra costs being the main reason. Also we like to go camping and other short trips. We can go camping with our dog but is it feasible to go camping with two?<br><br>
She would also require training.<br><br>
What is having two dogs like? Is much more work?
 

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It is a lot of work. It may turn out wonderful or it may be something you regret.<br><br>
I would suggest telling your SIL that you would love to have her dog over for your dog to play with for a week or so. The week part is important as dogs take a while to acclimate so the dog you bring over on day one may not be the dog you have in your home six days later. It can take longer but I think a week is reasonable to see how it is going and not too long for your SIL. Just tell her that you are thinking of getting a 2nd dog and you want to see how your dog does and how your family does.<br><br>
Take them places in the car, in the car with kids, try walking both of them with just you behind the leash (the most likely scenario), take them both to get their nails clipped (again, most likely that you will do this alone and/or with kids so try it), feed them, bathe them, take them to a park/event/picnic etc... Just don't bring her over and let them play and lounge. To see what it will be like in "real life" you have to engage in those behaviors purposely.<br><br>
Good Luck!<br>
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A lot of that depends on you. I've always had more than one dog and it takes more time but the payback is also greater.<br><br>
I'd follow christyb's advice but if you do have the dog over for a week don't try and overload it. Keep things relaxed. I also recommend at least a week and it may just win your DH over.
 

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Well, I can letcha know in about 1 hour <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> Seriously, I'm picking up our new puppy (she's 4 months old) today and we'll be keeping her for a mandatory 2 week trial. I've only ever had 1 dog before, so I'm expecting there to be a lot of change....but I'm hopeful that the benefits will be more noticible. We are also a very active family and take our current dog EVERYWHERE (hiking, camping, weekend trips, shopping, out to eat, dog park, etc.). I can definitely report back to you on what it's like with 2 after a couple of days!<br><br>
Good luck with your decision! I feel bad for your SIL's doggy too <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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My experience is nothing to go by, but I think 2-3 dogs is the best. 1 is not enough and 4 is generally too many, at least if they are large.
 

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That decision so individual...I agree with Christy. It could be wonderful, or it could be simply not for you. A trial run sounds like a good idea. Poor dog. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> I understand sometimes a situation between animal an family sometimes doesn't work out, but to just be unwanted...that's sad.<br><br>
Personally, we really enjoy having multiple dogs. We have 3 rescue dogs. All are high-energy and labor intensive! (it takes a lot out of you to get to the bottom of a pit bull's energy reserves... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> ). But it works for us and I wouldn't have it any other way. We were "done" with two dogs, but when the opportunity arose to adopt our third we knew it was right! She added a little more work in the beginning because she was a puppy and needed to be house trained and all, but it really didn't make too much of a difference. We also have horses, goats, and chickens, so I guess we're used to having a lot of animal responsibilities. It's just what we do every day, take care of all of our fuzzy "kids" (multiple times a day...sometimes in the middle of the night...yep, kind of like kids!). We are lucky enough to have a lot of property so the dogs can run (supervised) and my mother (experienced w/all of the animals) lives in an apartment on the property so we have a built-in "babysitter" for all of the critters if we go away for a few days.<br><br>
Honestly, if I weren't pregnant, I'd probably consider another rescue or fostering. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: Yeah, we're nuts! It's all MDC's fault, all of you people and your cool stories of adopting and fostering and all...that and that darn petfinder! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
I would give it a go on a trial basis for a week or so and see how it goes. You might really enjoy it, and help out a poor pup in the process. Maybe in the meantime search for rescues in your area that could help you re-home the dog with an appropriate individual/family if it doesn't work out w/you? I understand your DH's concern over cost. But if you feed them well and keep them healthy, it won't be too much extra. Yes, an unexpected emergency vet bill can be pretty rough, but it only takes one dog for that possibility to exist!<br><br>
Hehe...this whole thread makes me think of my aunt. A long time ago her and her ex-husband bred Great Danes. At one point she had THIRTEEN <i>house dogs.</i> Now <i>that's</i> a lot of dogs! She has the best stories about her dogs, too. I have this great mental picture of her kids sleeping in the whelping boxes w/the dogs and puppies when they were little...<br><br>
K9rider: Let us know how it goes w/the new puppy! I'm so excited for you. As much as you do with your dog, I think you're going to really enjoy having 2!!
 

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13 Great Danes??!!!! Wow!! I had nine at one time (4 were puppies) and I just about went insane! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> That must have been a sight!<br><br>
I completely agree with the trial run. Basically a foster-to-adopt. I recommend that to anyone who is considering an animal at all. You can "try before you buy" as awful as that comparison sounds. We do foster-to-adopts with almost all of our Danes so we can make sure that the family is 100% sure before they sign on the dotted line. We have had great success with turn over rates when the families don't feel like they have to make a spur-of-the-moment decision. Plus the fact that your resident lab needs to be given the consideration of letting him help "decide" if the new dog will work out.<br><br>
I love having more than one. Dogs are like Lays potato chips for me. It is more work but they are sooooo worth it! Plus, I don't think my babies would be as happy without their hairy brothers and sisters.
 

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Whoo Hoo! Labs! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/biggrinbounce.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bgbounce"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/biggrinbounce.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bgbounce"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/biggrinbounce.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bgbounce"> Lab fan here!<br><br>
The question I have is, what else do you have going on in your life right now? Do you have the time/energy/patience for a new "project"? Surely things would be more peaceful after she's trained and used to her new home, but would it push you over the edge in the meantime?<br><br>
If not, would you like another furry family member? Have you thought about it before? Do you feel you'd be rescuing this dog from a lonely life? Does your dog like other dogs? Is the yellow lab good with kids?
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Whoo Hoo! Labs! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/biggrinbounce.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bgbounce"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/biggrinbounce.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bgbounce"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/biggrinbounce.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bgbounce"> Lab fan here!<br><br>
The question I have is, what else do you have going on in your life right now? Do you have the time/energy/patience for a new "project"? Surely things would be more peaceful after she's trained and used to her new home, but would it push you over the edge in the meantime?<br><br>
If not, would you like another furry family member? Have you thought about it before? Do you feel you'd be rescuing this dog from a lonely life? Does your dog like other dogs? Is the yellow lab good with kids?</div>
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I love labs too. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> We have a chocolate and I've always wanted a yellow.<br><br>
The dogs know each other and play together when we visit my SIL. They also have dogsat for us on occasion. She's younger so has a bit more energy at this point.<br><br>
I don't think the dog has a very nice life right now.<br><br>
My SIL has a 4 yr old and a new baby so I know the lab is good with kids. She just needs to be taught not to jump up and knock the kids over....or take food from them.<br><br>
No other major project going on right now. DH is starting a new job but that doesn't really stress *me* out...maybe DH. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"><br><br>
DH's concerns are cost and what to do with the dogs when we go on trips and we can't take them with. I suggested we tell his SIL that we'll adopt her dog under the condition that they dogsit for us if we need them to.
 

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Well I know with cats, our one kitty did a lot better and was a LOT happier when we got her a friend. We're going to try the sdmae thing for our lone puppy who's a year old. She really wants someone to play with.<br><br>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">No other major project going on right now. DH is starting a new job but that doesn't really stress *me* out...maybe DH. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"><br><br>
DH's concerns are cost and what to do with the dogs when we go on trips and we can't take them with. I suggested we tell his SIL that we'll adopt her dog under the condition that they dogsit for us if we need them to.</div>
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Lab lovers unite! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
It sounds pretty close to perfect if you don't mind the training work and your SIL agrees to dogsit! How much more a month do you think it will take to add this dog to your family? Maybe we can help you figure out ways to be able to afford it. (For example, to help you out this year, your SIL could get the dog's shots, etc... before she comes home with you.) Perhaps it would be worth it to your SIL to not have to worry about the dog anymore.
 
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