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I told DH that all I wanted for mother's day was for him to take DS to the park or wherever for a few hours so I could play with my sewing projects. First he looked at me like I had grown a new head.. and said "thats what you want.. ON MOTHER'S DAY??!??!?!" then he said no because he has to work all night and he wanted to rest before work.<br><br>
we ended up having a lovely day, and I'm not complaining about it because I really did have a nice day, but its not what I asked for!<br><br>
Is it weird that I wanted to spend mother's day doing my own thing and not hanging out with the baby? I get to hang out with him every day.. I just wanted to get into some of my half started projects, which I never get a chance to do!
 

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I don't think anything is weird because everyone is different. If that is what you want, it's what you want, know what I mean? It's not for me though, I prefer to spend Mother's Day with my family. Once dh suggested that on Mother's Day he should take the kids and go by his mom with them so I could have the house to myself. I turned that down because I felt like it was the opposite of Mother's Day for me. I would rather go to the park together or to the zoo, or out for dinner.
 

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Mother's Day is a Hallmark created holiday. So if they can invent it to sell more cards then I say you can re-invent it to be whatever you want!! If you spend all day with a young child and would really like to be treated to a mother's day break and time for yourself then go for it! If your hubby could've given that to you it would have made you feel appreciated and heard. It also would've given you a well deserved break from your everyday routine.<br><br>
I'm glad you had a nice day; but NO, you are not weird for asking for what you wanted on Mother's Day.
 

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I don't think it's weird. It's nice to have some quiet time by yourself. That is something I am guessing you rarely get! You only asked for a few hours...not like you asked to leave for two weeks! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
When the boys were little I liked to sleep in a bit, then get breakfast in bed. That was such a treat! I loved it!<br><br>
Both of my boys are much older now, so I get lots of quiet time...and I enjoy every minute of it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
Maybe you can talk to him later and let him know that next year you really would love some time to work on your projects, then you will be happy to do some fun family things after you have had some time to yourself. Explain that it's a treat for you to get alone time to work on something you enjoy. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
Glad you had a good day mostly.
 

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Actually, Mother's Day has been around a lot longer than Hallmark: <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mother%27s_Day_Proclamation" target="_blank">http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mother%...y_Proclamation</a>.<br><br>
I can totally understand wanting a few hours to yourself on a day where many mothers would like a little special treatment. DH tried to let me sleep in and make breakfast for me, but dd had other plans. As much as I love snuggly morning time with my family, sleeping in is such a rare treat that I don't mind missing out one morning! But even if I didn't get to sleep in, I did manage a long quiet bath. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Quiet, solo mama time is as much a celebration of motherhood as family time.
 

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So not weird. I'm a single Mum and everyone was shocked that I wasn't going to have the boys for Mothers Day, as they spend every weekend with their Dad, but honestly, it would have just been me running around after them, making food, cleaning up and I do that all day everyday!
 

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Not weird at all. I asked DH to take night duty with the little for Mother's Day. I got up this morning, cooked breakfast, cleaned the kitchen and then we went to the hardware store. But my prezzie was having a night to stretch out in bed and sleep 8 hours.<br><br>
So not weird at all.
 

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Glad to hear the majority find this not weird! Its not that I don't love and cherish being a mom, and I adore my son with all of my being.. glad you get it!<br><br>
DS is not what I would classify High Needs exactly, but he really prefers to not entertain himself. maybe borderline high needs!<br>
I just starte a job where I'm gone all morning, but up until that point I was with DS 24/7! and now that I'm working, I still take care of him all afternoon and night while DH works.. I just have no time for fun project things! If both DH and I are home, we are working on our yard or trying to get laundry and cleaning caught up.. if its just me with the baby, I still can't get into my projects.. and at work I obviously don't either!<br><br>
just venting really, because in all honesty I had a great day, even without the me-time I had requested!
 

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Not weird at all.<br>
Dh asked me something this morning, he said " what exactly are you supposed to do on mother's day? Is it a spa holiday where i send you off on your own to do your thing, or should we do family stuff? " I told him it totally depends on the Mom involved. I would hate a spa day!<br>
I had fun running errands by myself today- i went five places and it was so nice to just be able to run in and do what i needed to do without buckling, unbuckling etc. I told dh it was one of the best mothers day's yet- he was shocked because we didn't really do anything extravagant.<br><br>
I think if all you wanted was some time to do some fun projects then that is what he should have let you do. Glad you had a great day anyway!
 

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I just wanted a few hours in bed with a book, which DH was OK with. I spend every day at home with my kids (whom I adore), but I just wanted some me time.
 

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This is really embarrassing to admit, but I cried this morning when DH woke me up so we could all have breakfast together. All I wanted to do was sleep. And, not that I don't love my kids, but I really don't like mealtimes. Mealtime with 2 toddlers is somehow both really boring (one is pre-verbal, the other has the conversational skills of a two year old, because she is, in fact, two) and really stressful (keeping DS from throwing things, keeping DD from melting down over every.little.thing, keeping them both from egging eachother on). NOT having a meal with them for once sounded like my idea of heaven. Especially since DH had to work all weekend, so I wasn't going to get any other sort of break from them this entire weekend. I love my kids, and I love being home with them, but DH doesn't get home until long after they're in bed, and I really look forward to having a little bit of breathing space on the weekends.<br><br>
So, yeah, I don't think you're weird. I do think I'm pretty awful for crying over it, though. Poor DH just wanted a meal as a family for once this week.
 

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I want the day to myself for Mother's Day. Dh wants to spend Father's Day with his kids. Win win. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I think whatever you want is fine. If you want time alone, that's good, if you want a family thing, that's good too.<br><br>
Every year since ds was born I've wanted to do family stuff. This year dh is living away from us during the week, leaving me alone with these children from Sunday until Friday night. It's a freaking lot to handle.<br><br>
Saturday night he told me he had our sitter coming over and we were going out. I almost cried. It was exactly what I needed, grown up time, away from <i>them.</i>
 

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Not crazy at all!<br>
DS is too young for me to be gone long- he is pretty high needs. I was joking with DH and saying on Mother's Day I should get to be alone.<br>
I said next MD I am going to the movies and a coffee shop to read a book. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
We had a great day and we have a tradition of buying our veggie starts on MD, which I look forward to all year. But I think next year I'll sneak off at some point for some time to myself!
 

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You're not weird at all. There is no rule that says what you have to do on Mother's Day. It's a day to honor and pamper mothers, and part of that is actually finding out what would make mom feel honored and pampered.<br><br>
I need regular time away from my kids bc I am with them 24/7, but dh is amazing when it comes to making sure I get that time away on a regular basis so on Mother's Day I prefer to spend time w/my family. We ended up doing exactly what I wanted to do: having a BBQ (where dh cooked and cleaned up) w/my parents so I got to spend some stress free time w/my own mom and my kiddos. It was wonderful.<br><br>
FTR, dh likes to spend Father's Day golfing, and I honor that bc he works so hard for us the rest of the time that if he needs to get away on his special day, that's cool w/me. (He also golfs a couple of times a month for his "me" time).<br><br>
Bottom line: parents work so hard that we deserve to have some fun time, especially on our special day once/yr, no matter what we think it would be fun to do.
 

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I agree - not weird at all. In fact, we did something similar. I slept in 3 hours later than usual (woo, hoo) and after breakfast and a family hike, DH took DD out so I could have a few hours to do my own thing. He wants to do something similar for Father's Day.
 

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It really depends what stage of life you're at, I think. When my kids were babies/toddlers I wanted Mother's Day to be my day to do nothing. I wanted to sleep in, not have to dress, change, bathe or feed anybody! Now that my kids are older, and understand what it's about I let them decide how they're going to make the day special for me, and they do a good job!
 

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I don't think it's strange at all!<br><br>
For MD I wanted my 13 YO to go with me to shop for clothes for him. He's at that stage where's between boys and mens sizes so he has to try everything on. He has been refusing to go for months and his clothes are getting nasty. So I spent the day shopping for my 13 YO and spent a bunch of money on him. It made me happy. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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I don't have any appreciation for Mothers Day, Fathers Day, Secretaries Day, National Student Nurses Day, or any other similar "days." Personally, I think they're all lame holidays.<br><br>
What I would like for Mothers Day (every year) is for everyone to stop wishing me a happy Mothers Day and asking me what my family did for it. The answer, every year, is nothing. It's just another Sunday for us, and I usually end up working, too.<br><br>
So, I'm probably weirder than anyone here so far. Wanting to spend time alone on Mothers Day is not at all strange, IMO.
 

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The United States celebrates Mother's Day on the second Sunday in May. In the 1880s and 1890s there were several attempts to establish a Mother's Day, but they didn't succeed beyond the local level.[47] The holiday was created by Anna Jarvis in Grafton, West Virginia, in 1908 as a day to honor one's mother.[3] Jarvis wanted to accomplish her mother's dream of making a celebration for all mothers, although the idea didn't take off until she enlisted the services of wealthy Philadelphia merchant John Wanamaker.[48] She kept promoting the holiday until President Woodrow Wilson made it an official national holiday in 1914.[47] <b>The holiday eventually became so highly commercialized that many, including its founder, Anna Jarvis, considered it a "Hallmark Holiday", i.e. one with an overwhelming commercial purpose.</b> Jarvis eventually ended up opposing the holiday she had helped to create.[3][49] She died in 1948, regretting what had become of her holiday.[48] In the United States, Mother's Day remains one of the biggest days for sales of flowers, greeting cards, and the like; it is also the biggest holiday for long-distance telephone calls.[50]</td>
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