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My 5 yr old is gifted. We knew at about 3 yrs old, but he had some pretty obvious signs before that and many, many more that I just didn't pick up on because I wasn't as connected with other little tiny toddlers and he was my first, so I didn't know any better.

I'm (obviously) not sure, but I'm thinking I may have another...

My 15 month old is... intense. Like, the kind of intense where you take him out and people say "My, he's active!" and "You sure have your hands full!" and "He's really focused on that, huh?" Uh, yeah. He has a "lock" on things when he is concentrating that we often look at him ang giggle because he is so focused. He absolutley wants to be part of the program and HATES to be left out. If my older son has a playdate, he will POUND on the door to be let in. He LOVES games, makes jokes with himself and will play with older children. He finds things (like pictures of cats) randomly hysterical. He loves books, shape sorters, etc. He will talk to everyone and loves attention. He wants to do EVERYTHING himself, SEE everything and be a part of the commotion.

He seems to have a grip on some more abstract topics. If he finds things he thinks he shouldn't have (small pieces of things on the floor, dog food, etc.) he will hand them to you and say "No no". He understands "hot" (we tested him today... We told him some of his food was hot and he wouldn't touch it. He finally picked it up and blew on it and then ate it). He knows whose things belong to who (he will take my husband his cell phone, give his brother his shoes, etc.). He knows you have to unlock the door before you open it, he knows you have to turn certain toys on with a button and he knows how to push redial to call my husband on the cell phone to which he says "Hello, DADA!" If you mention a diaper change, he starts running
. If you tell him to find his lion book (or his pig book or whatever), he will bring it to you (and then beat you with it until you read it
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He's not terribly ahead of the curve in spoken language, but he is certainly on par if not ahead and his receptive language is very, very good.

I wasn't at the same level of "noticing things" with DS1, but does this kind of thing sound familiar to you guys in terms of young toddlers? I'm just thinking I see some similarities and wondering if this is just "brothers" or maybe the giftedness I missed in DS1? I mean, who knows (and at this stage in the game, who cares if he is or not? I'm not going to be doing anything different!) but I'm just curious... This kid is... a pistol, to say the least
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All I can say is that um, yeah, it runs in families.

When I met with a gifted specialist because I didn't know what to do with my oldest, school-wise, I had my then infant dd with me, and she kept tripping out on her, and almost playing with her.

She then stops and asks me again how many kids I have, and then says, with kind of a terrified expression, "You know this runs in families?!" It cracks me up just thinking about it.

My kids are all very different from each other in character, but are probably almost equally gifted in different respects.

It is just exhausting.
 

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If you think you have another gifted kid, it's quite likely that you do.

What I know is that I missed all the signs that DS1 was gifted until he hit kindergarten and it is now clear that he is extremely gifted, though we haven't had him tested yet.

Knowing what I know now because of the research I have done trying to understand my eldest, it is quite clear that all four of my kids are gifted. They all have different strengths, but they are all well ahead of the curve in substantial ways.

I am sure it is going to be a crazy ride with all this intensity in the house.
 

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It is just exhausting.
Yes. It is. It is absolutely exhausting.

I am exhausted.

OK- runs in families. I'l be keeping tabs. But this kid's instensity is... way there, if you know what I mean. My husband had him this morning and took him to the grocery store and said in a single hour, 3 people commented on his attention, engagement, and desire to do his own thing. You know for it to be that obvious to the "general public" you got yourself an intense kid. Thank goodness he's also a really happy kid with a strong sense of humor!

I'm tired. Really, really tired.
 

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Hmmm. Well, I am just beginning to accept that my children are gifted. They just seem right to me...like I'd probably be worried if they were doing any less. I can't imagine.

But...everything you said about your ds just described my 11 month old dd. I've wondered about her for a while, but I guess that's my answer. She's understood hot for well over a month, she started pretending to feed me (although she herself had never sat at table or been fed, even in play) at 9.5 months, she noticed the pillow was missing on the child's rocking chair, and crawled across the room to get it and worked to get it on the chair correctly at 8.5 months. She says 20-30 words, and understands EVERYTHING. She started walking a few days shy of 9 months, and is now climbing everything. She put a box of wipes on the floor by the coffee table 2 days ago so she could have a step to get up there. When she was still 10 months, dh took her to home depot. She was pushing his large cart crazily down the aisle while he was trying to pick out a few boards, so he tossed a small shim like thing he found on the shelf under the wheel. She tried to push a few times, then went over and pointed at the shim and yelled at him until he took it out.

So, I guess yours is probably gifted, and mine is, too. Lol.

I guess I'd better get used to it, too. With my oldest dd, people were always making comments, but I just arrogantly and naively assumed they didn't work with their kids enough. Now, dd, at 4, has an enormous vocabulary, and is hauling around an astronomy book 1.5 inches thick.
. People still just laugh in amazement at the things she says. They are cute and highly unexpected, people just don't know how to respond to her.
 

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This is a very interesting thread to me because my almost 15 month old dd does a lot of what alexsam's 15 month old does.

Some other peculiar things I noticed too with mine:

She likes Dora and Diego and has been answering the questions they ask correctly. A few days ago, Dora asked her "who do we ask when we don't know which way to go" (or however she says it) and dd goes "map" before Dora answered herself (I use Dora and Diego to settle her down so I can get stuff done - the TV doesn't babysit her!! LOL!). She also answered some of the questions at the end of Diego correctly. Soooo I thought it was all my imagination but my SIL said she answered a question that Dora asked correctly and she was shocked (Dora asked which color the door was: red or blue and dd said "blue"). I'm not sure what to make of that.

Baby dd also has a very strong will and a huge drive to do stuff. She doesn't pretend to feed me but she pretends to put lipstick on my lips with the plastic lipstick. She also understands stuff and seems to have for a long time. She used to chase me around with books to read to her until I moved the book basket up higher (she kept knocking it over). And I'll tell her to do something like throw something out, she will.

She also craves engagement and can't miss out on anything. High energy, loves puzzles and shape sorters, etc. She repeats everything you say or tries to. She has been mimicking for a very long time (like sticking a tongue out when you did at a very young age).

Do any of these things sound familiar? I also can't remember what my older dd was like at this age but I don't think she was as extreme as baby dd.
 

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My daughter (probably gifted) has that same intensity. She was and still is (almost 4 now) overwhelming, but things get better as she gets older. She also did not have early spoken language, but clearly was understanding things. I had people suggest physical activities to get out her intensity - but they just didn't understand. She needed to be fully engaged, mentally and physically, at all times or she was unhappy and frustrated. We were just joking today about how much she hated being a baby.

My son (two years younger) is just absolutely zen. I don't feel that he's unintelligent, but he doesn't have that intensity. We'll have to wait to see if he's "gifted" or not. But the genetics are there for us having smart kids, so it's not like I didn't see this coming.


GL and you can do it.
 

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Oh, so familiar! My youngest (now 2.25yo) is so very intense like that. Very similar. People are *always* commenting on how active he is, how much he keeps us on our toes, etc. He wears me out! But he makes connections that I do NOT see as being at all average for a 2yo. He's been doing the thing of taking everyone's belongings to each person for as long as I can remember. It's mostly adorable but can be a little frustrating when you PUT that item there, and he's SURE you need it with you!


All three of my DSs are clearly in the gifted range, but DS3 is the first one with THIS kind of intensity - the active intensity. Of course, now the older ones can be just as intense just because they're bigger, but at least they can take more responsibility for their behavior than the little guy!
 

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Yep, I have 4 now. I am not suprised, there are some amazing people on both sides of our family.

All of my kids had huge receptive vocab very early, etc. etc. etc. Very fun to watch!
 

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very interesting. i've been wondering about this... whether future kiddos will be similar or totally different in being gifted or not (and how to handle it if one is gifted and others are not!)
 

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I've been wandering about this a lot here lately. *#2's on the way. *Dh thinks #2's going to do everything sooner than ds and try to keep up with his brother.

My own sister was a pacifier sucking late talking potted plant kid. *Mom says because I was so hyper and talkative I kept little sister entertained.

Either way ds is already such a mommy's little helper I think he'll make a doting brother. *

ETA: I don't know if my heart can handle one that's such a daredevil any younger.
 
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