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Does anyone have this fear? My DH left today for work and he will be gone for 4wks and he's 8hrs away. My brain won't stop with the panic/anxiety/fear that he will die while he is away. Mostly I think he will die in a car accident but I also have fear he will be mugged and killed, too. It's terrible. I feel like puking. I don't worry about me dying, just him. ugh.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I am sorry. I also have a fear about my DH dying <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> he is also leaving for 5 days (going to Denver we live in NY) But whenever he takes a long trip I worry.
 

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I do the same thing and it's not even when he takes trips, just when he drives an hour to go to work! (Well, usually I just start obsessing when he has to work at night). I start having daymares that the state patrol comes to my door...I really do upset myself sometimes, to the point of making myself cry. I don't know how to stop either...mostly I try to redirect my brain by reading or something (which doesn't work at all).
 

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I also have these same types of fears. I sometimes drive my DH crazy too, if I don't get a phone call on time etc. He doesn't understand it's because I'm obsessing about this fear - - - it's because we love them so much. But, we know it's not healthy to continue the cycle. what helps me is to know that this time will pass, and he will be home soon. i will repeat that until i am no longer so severely bothered by it. do you think that mothers always suffered such severe anxiety about these things throughout time? I hope we all find a way to cope better....
 

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So glad I found this thread. I have the same issues - anxiety so bad it makes me nauseaus and light-headed. Except my fears include myself and my son. Car accidents are a big one. But everything freaks me out - I panic about ds falling down stairs and hitting his head, getting kidnapped, amusement park rides, someone breaking into the house, etc... It all revolves around one of us being hurt or worse. It's gotten progressively worse, and I am open to any suggestions! I used to love vacations and road trips, and now they just cause panic attacks.
 

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Count me in. Like on pp said, I really start to worry on those nights when he has to work late. I picture his big office building, no one else around, and him dead on the floor. I can picture it vividly. And also like another pp, I worry and obsess if he does not call me on time, or return my phone call, or if I can't get through to him for an hour or so...I have the same fear with my son (but not my daughter, strangely) and also about my own death. It's terrible.
 

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Wow! I'm glad I found this thread.<br><br>
My anxiety started after my dad died in '99. I was dating dh and no kids. I got counseling and everything was going well. Now I have two kids and DH is now a cop (just getting through with basic) which means I've been alone with the kids Sun. night till Fri. night for the last 14 weeks. 2 more weeks to go and Dh will be back with us.<br><br>
I have anxiety over death and or severe injury and or rape- molestation, etc. I started counseling last week, and am looking into some homeopathic remedies with help from and ND friend. I am tandeming and also have bad reactions to meds so I'm going the homeopathic route this time.<br><br>
I am trying deep breathing and "living in the here and now" exercises to start out. I'm hoping they work.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/grouphug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="grouphug"> to all you other mama's going through this too.
 

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So glad I'm not alone! Slowly, my life has vecome virtually unenjoyable - everything scares me, and I cannot have fun without finding something to worry about. Driving is a daily nightmare, as I am convinced someone is going to hit me head on. I try to stay positive and like pp said, live in the moment, but it's easier said than done. Hugs to everyone else who is dealing with anxiety as well.
 

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For this kind of anxiety I strongly suggest amino acid supplementation. It worked for me. My chiropractor used kinesiology (muscle testing) to determine which ones I should take and for how long. It made a huge difference for me.<br><br>
I also suggest flower essences, I think Mimulus would help but you can do muscle testing to determine which flower essences you can take too.<br><br>
I still get fearful sometimes, like when dh is late and doesn't call, but it's much easier to relax and deal with it in other ways now.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 
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