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I've been blessed to never have any sort of real depression, and even though I was dealing with stbx all through pregnancy and after the birth, I never got post-partum. I've been very stressed at times (haven't we all) but never felt the need for any medication.<br><br>
And am not positive I do now...but twice in the past week, as the divorce progresses, I got such anxiety that all I could do was just lay there for a while. And as I have a small child to take care of, that just can't happen.<br><br>
I've been reading online about different anxiety medications, but experience is always best. Are there any that anyone's had a decent experience with....or any to particularly avoid??<br><br>
Of course, anything that makes me drowsy doesn't work, either...again, small child around! Or maybe ALL those medications make you drowsy?<br><br>
I have no clue. Any direction would be much appreciated!!!
 

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I should be going on Wellbutrin sometime soon, I just can't seem to find the time to talk to the psychiatrist because I'm working for 3 weeks. I've been told it has the least negative side effects. No matter what make sure you are COMPLETELY honest with your doctor. Medications can *make* people suicidal. I've seen it happen.<br><br>
ETA: I forgot to say I'm sorry you're going through such a rough time, I hope things get better for you! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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I went on Zoloft for a while, and it made me feel like a total zombie. It made my heart race and I was incredibly nervous. It killed my appetite and I lost an unhealthy amount of wieght. I do not recommend it at all. I have heard from friends/family that zoloft had a similar effect on them.<br><br>
I know what you mean about feeling at a loss - I am currently struggling with that right now. I personally feel that medication affects me too strongly, so I really wouldn't go on anything again. However, if you are really needing some help during this transition, talk to your doctor about your concerns. I've heard OK things about Lexipro and Welbutrin (low side effects) though the people I've talked to on Lexipro all report gaining some weight. Eek!<br><br>
I am trying to research other methods of controlling my depression/anxiety and found that pilates and yoga really help me. The exercise releases endorphines and makes me look hot at the same time. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> I also looked into EFT (<a href="http:" target="_blank">http://www.emofree.com)</a> there is a manual you can download for free. I haven't read all of it though and am not sure it is right for me just yet, but it a natural option that I am open to considering.<br><br>
Good luck, mama, and (((hugs)))<br><br>
ETA: maybe go over to the mental health section and get some ideas there, too.
 

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There are other things like essential oils and homeopathics that can be good for anxiety. I've had mild cases of anxiety and used the aroma Frankincense and the homeopathic rememdy Argentum Nitricum which have helped my heart rate simmer back down and help me breathe deeply again.
 

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I have heard great things about SAM-E (S-adenosylmethionine).<br><br>
I have been on Effexor for two years now, and I DON'T recomend it. It was wonderful at the beginning. I can't seem to ween myself off of it. I get very bad side effects if I do.<br><br>
Lavender oil is very calming when I am feeling panic. Skip caffine.<br><br>
I have more information on this but I am running out of the house. If I can think of more to help, I'll post it later.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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I have a lot of experience with this (unfortunately). I've had issues with anxiety for the past 6 mos or so. I've tried TONS of different natural and homeopathic remedies, I also went on lexapro for a few days (but it made things WAYYYYY worse). My favorite natural meds are:<br><br>
Kava kava - I use tincture form and take a 1/2 dose. It makes me feel balanced, not drugged, and not tired. It has worked better than any other med I've tried<br><br>
Calms Forte - a homeopathic remedy so it is safe with breastfeeding and pregnancy, it works fairly well but does make me a little tired. The box does say that it can also be used for occasional insomnia. But overall, it works well<br><br>
Chamomilla - homeopathic, works ok. Does not make me tired of feel drugged. I'd take it as a maintenance med, not something to cure an anxiety attack.<br><br>
Skullcap - I've tried tincture form. It is a stronger sedative than kava (IMO), works quickly, but makes you really tired after a little while. As in, I need a nap ASAP. I reccomend this for anxiety attacks, it is comparable to Xanax<br><br>
Xanax - Prescription anti-anxiety drug. Works very well, supposedly addictive. I never took more than a 1/2 dose at a time and my dose was so low. It worked well, and since my 1/2 dose was broken in half, it dissolved quickly. I used this before my divorce hearing because I was really nervous.<br><br>
Lexapro - prescription drug for anxiety and depression. I only had anxiety and when I took this med it made me feel really depressed and my anxiety became worse than it ever was. I ended up stopping the medicine after less than a week, it was interfering with my schoolwork too much. I felt a lot better after being off it for a week.<br><br>
Clary Sage essential oil helps with relaxation a LOT. Just adding it to bath water or burning it in a diffuser works well. You can also add it to a carrier oil (like almond oil) and rub it into your skin. It really works and it surprised me how much it works. If you don't care for the smell you can mix it with lavendar. You cannot use clary sage if pregnant, it is only reccomended during labor.<br><br>
I am really sensitive to any medications so that may be why some effect me more than they effect others. I'd reccomend Kava Kava in tincture form as a first med to try, unless you are preg or breastfeeding - if you are then try calms forte. Good luck mama, feel free to PM me if you ever want to talk about anxiety. I've learned quite a bit about it in the past few months and have gotten it under control.
 

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A good yoga class is my favorite. When I don't have time I like to read a good book, or stuff like school work and ride an excercise bike at the same time.<br><br>
I like tension tamer tea, B vitamins, magnesium, lavender tea,<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> lots of sleep - this I can't figure out how to do and massages, but don't have money for massages..<br><br>
sometimes a really good book will take me to a different place, as a good distraction before bedtime.
 

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=) I feel for you and am in the same boat! If antidepressants didn't blunt my writing the way they do, I'd probably go back on.<br><br>
I found that one of the old drugs - amitryptiline - was best, at a very low dose. Calming & without major side effects. Apart from that, I occasionally use Xanax, but again, the potential for addiction is very real, so you want to be very careful about that.<br><br>
Other things I like: Valerian root and St. John's wort. The research on them has them looking quite safe, and they work for me.<br><br>
Regular exercise is definitely one of the best things. If you don't have access to a gym or childcare during normal hours, just going up and down stairs for 20 minutes or so can be a terrific aerobic stress-release workout. Weights are cheap & help too. Even running in place can help (just make sure you're wearing decent shoes & have some carpet under you if you're going to do it a lot).<br><br>
I second the warning on effexor, btw. I tried that once briefly. Felt unreal, gained weight uncontrollably, and was sick as a dog when I weaned from it. Sick physically and emotionally, I mean it made me feel really crazy for about a week, crying all the time. I think it's a dangerous drug.
 

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Thank you all so very much, for taking the time to tell me all of that. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/grouphug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="grouphug"> I think I will try the herbal route first, definitely! But am glad to hear about the "stronger stuff"...just in case. I appreciate this forum so much.
 

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I'm sorry you're having problems with anxiety, but good for you for recognizing it and trying to take care of it! That's really half the battle.<br><br>
The good thing is that your anxiety seems like it's situational - so if you can get some help to get you through this bad time, you should be just fine on the other side of it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br>
I took Xanax for anxiety for a while, and it really helped - but I only took it as needed, and only half a dose, so I never had a problem with addiction. It worked wonders, though.<br><br>
I also was on Effexor, but that was for serious depression - it is really, really serious stuff, and I'd be wary of any doctor suggesting it for anything but the most serious of cases.<br><br>
I haven't tried herbal remedies, but I'm definitely interested in looking into it. Yoga has always helped me, as well as more aerobic exercise - nothing clears my head and lowers my blood pressure more than a good run, and if I don't exercise regularly, I feel a lot more stressed and anxious.<br><br>
In any case, the best thing is to find a counselor who you can trust and feel comfortable with, and talk things over with them. Talk therapy really *does* help, and if medication is right for you, they can set you up with that.<br><br>
Good luck!<br><br>
-Katy
 

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Yesterday I was at the vitamin store at the mall...and maybe they're lame but they didn't have kava kava and most of the stuff I wanted to try....but I did get Feverfew because it said something like, "For the stresses of everyday life." So I took it twice today, and I don't know if it's my imagination, but it seems like that lurchy, anxious feeling in me has subsided just a bit. A BIT, but enough to help! So has anyone ever had Feverfew?<br><br>
Also, the clerk there recommended SAM-E...I know someone else here mentioned that...then last night my friend said SHE has a friend who absolutely raves about it...how it's just all-around wonderful and has no side effects. It's weird because it was not in the herbal section, and the box indicated it was also for joint pain and for weight loss (or an appetite suppresent...can't remember what it said)....how could it be for all that??....but the important part was it said that it calms moods. It was expensive, but maybe I'll try it sometime!
 

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I was given Ativan. I told the doctor I needed something with immediate results and I could not wait 4-6 weeks for an anti-depressant to start working. I've only taken it a few times. Like days when I knew I was going to see the ex!<br><br>
It's right up there with valium, so it realllly calms you down. I wouldn't be able to take it while I'm working because I would just want to sleep!
 

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Herbal and homeopathic remedies work according to your personal costitution. I urge you to get a good guide to homeopathy such as one by Miranda Castro. She has a good one for new mamas and babies, also an informative general guide. There are very specific remedies.<br><br>
Have you considered writing in a journal about your anxieties around the divorce?...I know the mixed feelings that come with this particularly hard period in your life, the impact it has on every area of your life.<br><br>
If you need a good general herbal remedy, I recommend Kava, it really dulls you down though, so be aware of that. I have not had the experience of it making me sleepy when I really was anxious...it worked just on those feelings.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2">
 
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