I didn't EC my first (24 months when #2 was born, still in dipes) and had the same concerns at first. I started by focusing on EC during the evening hours when my husband was home and could watch the toddler, or after the toddler was in bed. Once I gained some confidence, I started pottying him more during the day. But for those early days trying to figure out his patterns, it was easier with one kid to deal with.