Ok. This is obviously an unpleasant discussion for some, so I want to make it clear that I am new here, and I don't know exactly how this works, but if the moderator and/or the members of this forum find this thread assaulting, I agree that it should be moved or made to vanish into the fairy-realm, what have you. Not because I dont think it's an important discussion, but what's the point of aggravating people? That wasn't my motive.
This forum is called "extended breast-feeding." If it had been labeled "support and advocacy" I never would have opened a debate.
I assumed this was a place where debate would be appropriate, but if I was wrong, I apologize and I won't be sad to see it go away. I'll leave that up to you all.
Many people had a problem with the title of the thread, which was "Is anyone OPPOSED to BFing older children?" They felt that it invited harassment from people who do not support BFing past infancy. I think the title gets right to the truth, but if it's too harsh and people are feeling like it's a slap in the face, than *poof* it's gone.
Again, I didn't come here to flame.
Something I don't know if I made clear: I was asking for the opinions of BFing-past-infancy moms, not outsiders (not that they'd be excluded). I didn't imagine in a million years that it would cause anybody to come in here and debate extending BFing in general... and it hasn't! No one here has had to defend their BFing practices, and that's the last thing I'd want anyone to have to do. From what I understand, BFing 7+ year-olds is extremely rare. I was wondering if there are moms out here who believe in CLW but also believe there is a point where the line should be drawn. If I went to Babycenter, I'm sure the vast majority would be appalled by BFing a school-aged child. I don't care about the vast majority. They're easily appalled and largely uneducated.
I was looking for the 2-cents of past-infancy BFers re: much older children, not formula feeding or infant-only BFers re: extended BFing.
I knew that many people were going to answer "If the world has a problem with a second-grader BFing, that's the world's problem..."
I am wondering how many of you who have little ones on the breast would say, "But isn't it then the child's problem? They become the target of ridicule, right or wrong."
I don't know what to call that other than opposition. Opposition is what it is. It isn't curiosity, it isn't puzzlement.
But most of the posts here have been in regards to the appropriateness of the thread itself, and it's right to exist here, and the way it was presented... and since that's counter-productive, I'm changing the title. If anybody doesn't feel that this is good enough, please post your feelings or tell the moderator, with my blessing, and appologies for hurting your feelings.
This forum is called "extended breast-feeding." If it had been labeled "support and advocacy" I never would have opened a debate.
I assumed this was a place where debate would be appropriate, but if I was wrong, I apologize and I won't be sad to see it go away. I'll leave that up to you all.
Many people had a problem with the title of the thread, which was "Is anyone OPPOSED to BFing older children?" They felt that it invited harassment from people who do not support BFing past infancy. I think the title gets right to the truth, but if it's too harsh and people are feeling like it's a slap in the face, than *poof* it's gone.
Again, I didn't come here to flame.
Something I don't know if I made clear: I was asking for the opinions of BFing-past-infancy moms, not outsiders (not that they'd be excluded). I didn't imagine in a million years that it would cause anybody to come in here and debate extending BFing in general... and it hasn't! No one here has had to defend their BFing practices, and that's the last thing I'd want anyone to have to do. From what I understand, BFing 7+ year-olds is extremely rare. I was wondering if there are moms out here who believe in CLW but also believe there is a point where the line should be drawn. If I went to Babycenter, I'm sure the vast majority would be appalled by BFing a school-aged child. I don't care about the vast majority. They're easily appalled and largely uneducated.
I was looking for the 2-cents of past-infancy BFers re: much older children, not formula feeding or infant-only BFers re: extended BFing.
I knew that many people were going to answer "If the world has a problem with a second-grader BFing, that's the world's problem..."
I am wondering how many of you who have little ones on the breast would say, "But isn't it then the child's problem? They become the target of ridicule, right or wrong."
I don't know what to call that other than opposition. Opposition is what it is. It isn't curiosity, it isn't puzzlement.
But most of the posts here have been in regards to the appropriateness of the thread itself, and it's right to exist here, and the way it was presented... and since that's counter-productive, I'm changing the title. If anybody doesn't feel that this is good enough, please post your feelings or tell the moderator, with my blessing, and appologies for hurting your feelings.