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Hello. I'd love to connect with other mom's who are having a baby at age 38yrs or older. So many issues and topics are relevant now that didn't present when I had my first two children. Such as; Am I really going to start all over again!?!?!? I'm looking forward to hearing from you!
 

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Not over 38 but welcome to mothering and our DDC! I know there are a few mothers in their 30's here due in June, and maybe a couple in their 40's.
 

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I'm in the July DDC but I'll be 38 in June, just 2 weeks before my due date. My other kids are 5 and 7 so I've been having a few fleeting thoughts about starting over. But I'm so excited about nursing, getting back to cloth diapers and all that other fun stuff that I'm not too worried. Ask me in 10 years when I'm approaching 50 and still have a decade before this one's out of the house, lol.
 

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I'll be 38 when the baby comes. I have a 13 year old daughter from a previous marriage and this is my current husband's first. He is 28 and super-excited about being a dad. We've decided to have as many children as we can before my time runs out (what I wanted with my first marriage but didn't get) so I'll be in the advanced maternal age category for awhile I hope.<br><br>
We are also having him stay home, breastfeeding, CDing and all of the other things I wanted to do the first time but couldn't because I had a partner who realized after the baby came that he didn't want to be a father.<br><br>
I get really tired of hearing "You're almost free, you are crazy to start over? I'll be glad when mine move out." I don't understand why people think being a parent ends when the kids turn 18. And why do people who feel this way have children in the first place? I just don't get it.<br><br>
I also don't understand why people think their lives don't start until the kids leave home. That's like waiting to live until you retire? That makes no sense at all to me. My life is every day, all the time. I'm not waiting to enjoy anything, I enjoy every single day.
 

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I'm 38 and even though my other children are pretty young (4 and 2) and I am still in infant/toddler mode....I just can't help but freak out a little every now and then about starting all over with a newborn.<br>
Also I struggle with how my friendships are changing. Most of my friends are long done having children....their children are a lot older a couple of them are even grandparents now. we're just at different places....we spend our time doing different things...we're still in touch but it's just not the same kwim?
 

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I'll be 40 shortly after this one is born. I have a 21 month old, and a 3 year old. Most of my peers either have grown kids, or no kids, or one kid that came along later in life.<br><br>
Since I had my first after 35, I've never been anything but "advanced maternal age". I appreciate the benefits of being an older mother, but I'm pretty sure this will be our last. It's been an intense 4 years!
 

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Me!!<br><br>
I'm 38. Although, I'm not starting over in that my children are all young. I got a late start - haha!<br><br>
But let's talk aches and pains...hoo boy!
 

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I'll be 35 when the babies get here .... enough to throw me into the "advanced maternal age" category .....
 

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I'm 41! I have a 19 year old, but I also have a 3 year old, so that was my starting over kid. People thought I was crazy. They said, "You were almost done!" My biggest challenge this time around is being really tired, even moreso than with the last one.
 

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"Advanced maternal age" here, too! I'll be 38 in may and deliver in june. My husband and I have a 7yo son and are pretty giddy about doing it all again. My son is overjoyed too (though that will come and go once baby brother is here in the flesh, I know). I like the spacing. I feel like we really got lots of great time in with just our son and have developed a parenting style we feel comfortable with and confident about.<br><br>
Good luck to all!<br>
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do you all do the...."I'll be 57 when baby graduates high school" thing? I guess expecting moms of any age do it, I always thought that I maybe thought about it a little too much.<br><br>
I don't plan to have any more babies after this one, this is #3 for us and that's about all we think we can handle.<br><br>
ShawnMarie mentioned she plans for more after this....anyone else?
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I'll be 38 when the baby comes. I have a 13 year old daughter from a previous marriage and this is my current husband's first. He is 28 and super-excited about being a dad. We've decided to have as many children as we can before my time runs out (what I wanted with my first marriage but didn't get) so I'll be in the advanced maternal age category for awhile I hope.<br><br>
We are also having him stay home, breastfeeding, CDing and all of the other things I wanted to do the first time but couldn't because I had a partner who realized after the baby came that he didn't want to be a father.<br><br>
I get really tired of hearing "You're almost free, you are crazy to start over? I'll be glad when mine move out." I don't understand why people think being a parent ends when the kids turn 18. And why do people who feel this way have children in the first place? I just don't get it.<br><br>
I also don't understand why people think their lives don't start until the kids leave home. That's like waiting to live until you retire? That makes no sense at all to me. My life is every day, all the time. I'm not waiting to enjoy anything, I enjoy every single day.</div>
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this post was beautifully written, and I find myself agreeing with a LOT of your points! I have a soon to be 13 yo daughter as well .....
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">do you all do the...."I'll be 57 when baby graduates high school" thing? I guess expecting moms of any age do it, I always thought that I maybe thought about it a little too much.<br><br>
I don't plan to have any more babies after this one, this is #3 for us and that's about all we think we can handle.<br><br>
ShawnMarie mentioned she plans for more after this....anyone else?</div>
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I discussed this with DH the other day ... I don't think we are going to 'actively plan' to have more, but would be blessed if we were to get PG again. Make sense??
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I discussed this with DH the other day ... I don't think we are going to 'actively plan' to have more, but would be blessed if we were to get PG again. Make sense??</div>
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Out of curiosity, what are your birth control plans? Dh and I can get pregnant just looking at each other when I'm ovulating and while we thought NFP had been working for us, here we are again! LOL! We usually rely on condoms if we're not charting or know I'm fertile, but I hate them! I seriously considered the Mirena after baby #4 and am considering it again.
 

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I lurk here more than post, but I'll be 38 before my June baby is born. I have one almost 7 yr old DS from a previous relationship. This will be my first with my new DP- and his first child.
 

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I had a really hard time TTC this time around. Anyone else have a "science baby?" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> We finally conceived with injectables, IUI and acupuncture. We were having the IVF talk and trying to figure out the finances when I finally got a bfp.<br><br>
Going through 13 months of trying to conceive made me aware of how much our family really, really wanted this baby, despite all the trepidation about our age, and the spacing between kids. At the same time, I've been more unsettled throughout the pregnancy. I think part of it is just knowing that if something happens, I don't know if I'll be able to conceive again. Plus, my dd is so in love with her little sister already, I sometimes think about what I would say if I lost the baby. Ugh, I don't even want to think about it. I guess I am just fretful today. (insert nail-biting smilie here)
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Out of curiosity, what are your birth control plans? Dh and I can get pregnant just looking at each other when I'm ovulating and while we thought NFP had been working for us, here we are again! LOL! We usually rely on condoms if we're not charting or know I'm fertile, but I hate them! I seriously considered the Mirena after baby #4 and am considering it again.</div>
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We'll be doing NFP again, only I'll be a bit more serious about it this time around. Meaning, I only 'loosely' charted, watched cervical signs, before. This time around, I plan on DAILY temps, DAILY cervical mucous observations, and keeping track of them.<br><br>
Being Catholic, artificial means of BC are out, and I'm perfectly fine with that. DH and I are both from large families, so we are used to the chaos of having many children around.
 
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