Hello and Congrats~<br><br>
I was also adopted and found my birthparents about 13 years ago. It is such an emotional rollercoaster ride and there are some wonderful books out there to help you on your journey. Nothing though, can prepare you for all the emotions that you have.<br><br>
I am going to move this thread over to FYT, in hopes that other adoptees also see this thread.<br><br>
Lisa<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
My DH was adopted at about 5 months old. He was never remotely interested in finding birth parents, but at the same time doesn;t have a "close" relationship with parents.<br><br>
Anyhow, now that we have a DS, he is getting curious. Doesn't want to meet "them" (if that was even possible) but wants information.<br><br>
It seems things were so closed back then (late 1960's) Any ideas?<br><br>
Also interesting that he is VERY pro-AP. LOVES to co-sleep and bond and baby wear and the whole nine yards. It's almost like he is making up for what he didn't have in his early months. Sweet and sad.
In terms of closed files, it depends on the state. In the state that i'm in, you have to petition the court to open the adoption file and if the judge grants it, then you have access to your birthparents names, etc. there are alot of websites that also might be able to help you. i went through an organization called WARM. they might be able to help you too.<br><br>
I'm another adult adoptee, was adopted when I was 3 1/2 months old by wonderful parents. I'm also a birth mom, gave birth to a daughter 18 years ago who was placed for adoption. Finally, I'm a new mom, just gave birth to a son in Nov.!<br>
I have pretty positive feelings about all aspects of adoption. I've never done any serious searching for birth parents or my birth daughter, just a few quick searches online. I'd be happy to meet then, though.