Hi there!
Another fluffy mama to be here. I don't do the number thing; my midwives haven't even weighed me in so I'm not even sure where I stand right now (though I've got a good idea), but I'm most certainly part of this little tribe.
I also am not doing anything special--not on purpose, anyway. I lost weight throughout the 1st trimester when I didn't even know that I was pregnant, then packed on what I lost in my belly during the 2nd, and I'm now back to a non-weight gain/losing weight pattern. But I know my body very well, and haven't been concerned about the lack of weight gain until now--and the only reason I'm concerned now is because I've been sick with a cold and haven't been able to eat as well as I'd like to over the last couple of weeks. I know the baby is developing well, but I'll still casually mention something at my next appointment, so I know for sure where I am and can force an adjustment in my diet if need be--whether I feel like eating or not!
What I've found most interesting is that my appetite and cravings have changed so much. I love wine and cognac, but had to give up ALL alcohol before I even realized I was pregnant because it was getting me so nauseous. I miss wine.
I crave fruits, veggies and yogurt whereas before I craved meat in all ways, shapes and forms. Usually the bad ways shapes and forms. And cheese. And potato chips! The protein I crave more now is in the form of beans. I guess for me, my diet has changed based on what I'm craving, but because I'm craving overall healthier things, I'm going with it and forcing myself to choose healthier when I know I should (like the hummus/veggie platter over the fried chicken fingers and fries I wanted yesterday. Phooey to babies making us eat healthier!)
Anyway, it's nice to know there are other fluffy, happy, healthy mamas to be out there! I honestly was so mired in the media/medical professional bias against fat (not to mention old--if 37 can be called old) people that I was surprised I even got pregnant, but I'm much more educated and soooooo over that now!
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Originally Posted by amanpea 
Hi ladies! I'm 5'5 and 180 lbs at 9 weeks. I unfortunately gained about 20-30 lbs this past summer and fall alone, so I'm not comfortable at all with this weight. I would love to lose a little bit to just be more comfortable. Do any of you know if it's safe/possible to lose weight while pregnant? Just a little bit?
I know the official OB line is "no, don't diet while pregnant at all" but I've read in some other places that it can be ok to have a slow, modest weight loss during pregnancy if you're very overweight to begin with. I expect to gain more in the 2nd and 3rd trimesters, but now I'm just sooo uncomfortable.
Any advice?
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Amanpea, it sounds like your body is struggling with extra weight it's not used to--understandable! Had I gained a lot of weight with this pregnancy, I would have been tempted to lose weight as well because quite honestly, I'm at the max of my comfort zone. Well, past it, but I'm not about to try and lose a large amount of weight right now. That'll come in another couple of months, I'm sure.
Forget the OBs, when I was midwife-shopping, one of the consistent messages I got was that I WAS expected to gain weight, even at my rather significant size. They didn't encourage a lot of weight gain, but when I showed surprise, they broke it down for me:
* Baby: 7-8 pounds
* Placenta: 1-2 pounds
* Amniotic fluid: 2 pounds
* Uterus: 2 pounds
* Maternal breast tissue: 2 pounds
* Maternal blood : 4 pounds
* Fluids in maternal tissue: 4 pounds
* Maternal fat and nutrient stores: 7 pounds
On the conservative side (cutting out fat gain), that's 22 pounds alone! Just because you have a bit more meat on your bones, doesn't mean that your baby will develop any differently from a woman who was at the "perfect" weight before pregnancy. You still need to develop a placenta, your uterus will grow, your blood volume will increase, and your baby will weigh a good 6-8 pounds (we hope!)...etc. And you will also need fat reserves for after the baby is born if you plan on breastfeeding.
Some women gain 80+ pounds during pregnancy, and some women lose weight. The most important thing to look at, IMO, is where you started to begin with. If you were underweight, it makes sense that you MIGHT pack on the pounds. If you're overweight, it makes sense that you MIGHT pack on a minimal amount or lose. But the most important thing is how much fat vs. muscle/bone density your body had to start off with, and then honestly take it from there. For example, my sister has been your size for most of her life (height and weight). She's very fit--she's just all muscle and bone, which is heavier than fat. Perhaps your weight gain was because your body was lacking necessary fat stores to begin with while you were trying to get pregnant? And in my own case, while I also have very heavy muscle and bone density, I don't delude myself into thinking I don't carry a lot of extra fat as well, thus the minimal weight loss.
I read the article another poster attached about it being ok for an obese woman to lose weight throughout pregnancy, and while in certain cases that may be true (ie, mine!), please keep in mind some very important things:
1) Based on the numbers you listed, you are, more than likely, not really obese. You may have experienced a recent weight gain, but I'm pretty sure I have at least 100 pounds on you, and you have at least 3 1/2 inches of height over me. I am more likely the type of person the article is addressing over someone like you who is, at most, borderline.
2) You might not gain as much fat as you think you will in the 2nd and 3rd trimesters. You might gain baby weight only--and that will most likely be later in the third when the baby starts packing on pounds.
3) You have to be honest about your own body makeup and take the BMI test with a grain of salt. You are your own unique woman and need to trust that as long as you do your best to give your body what it needs as far as nutrients and exercise are concerned, it will give you and your baby what you both need. Even if you don't give your body what it needs, like a lot of us don't, it will, somehow, take what is needed for the baby. But you will still need to keep up your own strength so you can be the best mama you can be, and cutting (healthy) calories out will weaken you in the long-term. There have been times when I haven't eaten enough during this pregnancy when I felt truly sick and weak, and so I force myself to eat unless I'm absolutely certain I'm just going to vomit it all back up. Even then, I'll sometimes eat anyway and try to lay very still so I don't lose nutrients. It's better than feeling like I'm on the verge of passing out.
4) There is a huge bias against fat in this country that has become so extreme people do unhealthy things to rid themselves of it and medical professionals often (illogically) suggest things that may not be best ideas based on "studies" that can have their own bias to begin with. And dieting while pregnant / avoiding ALL weight gain while pregnant may not be the best idea, whatever your size. Weight gain will vary from one woman to another, based on their own body makeup. The most important thing the article said, IMO, is that a larger study is necessary.
I guess what I'm trying to say is to forget the "fat" aspect of it all and just focus on being healthy. Give yourself realistic limits--like exercising 3 times a week (a simple walk will do), eating organic fruits when you crave sweets rather than sugary carbs, and replacing the white stuff with whole grains where you can. Health foods and exercise will help your body deal with the extra poundage. I've been craving a lot of carbs during this pregnancy, and while I'm not usually a sweets person, I've been baking muffins and cakes with whole grain pastry flour (yummy, because it makes things chewier and more filling/satisfying) and a third or less of the sugar, and making sure to put fruit in. Then I freeze it in single-serving sizes. When I want a sweet snack, I pick up an orange or apple first. If I still want a piece of cake and haven't gorged on fried foods and bads carbs all day, I eat a piece of cake. No big deal. I know I've done my best and depriving myself isn't going to get me anywhere, so if I want a cookie or muffin or a piece of cake, I have one, without regret. Be gentle with yourself, and honest with yourself, and balanced with your lifestyle, and know that your body will work itself back into shape once your prescious one is here!
I'm just realizing that I'm very wordy with my posts. Sorry--I need to work on that!