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I feel like Debby Downer lol. But part of me wishes I could f-fwd to June. I had my first and only in 2005, great easy pregnancy, but labor and delivery was horrible (no epidural, baby hadn't dropped, but I made it w no c-sect). Here I am, 37 and a teacher just picturing getting bigger and bigger with 100+ students to witness this...gestation period. I know my newlywed husb and I will love having a baby, but I feel like this is as arduous albeit dutiful as a nine-month military deployment lol. Anyone else not totally all ga-ga for bebe?
 

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I feel like Debby Downer lol. But part of me wishes I could f-fwd to June. I had my first and only in 2005, great easy pregnancy, but labor and delivery was horrible (no epidural, baby hadn't dropped, but I made it w no c-sect). Here I am, 37 and a teacher just picturing getting bigger and bigger with 100+ students to witness this...gestation period. I know my newlywed husb and I will love having a baby, but I feel like this is as arduous albeit dutiful as a nine-month military deployment lol. Anyone else not totally all ga-ga for bebe?</div>
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This is my first pregnancy.....and I have been wanting a baby for soo long so part of me does want to FF to june... but in terms of the pregnancy itself... the first trimester sucks. Between the nausea and worrying about miscarrying.... I just really want to FF to thanksgiving and then FF to my US at 20 weeks lol. I'm sure when I get to the 2nd/early 3rd trimester I'll get to enjoy this pregnancy a lot more.</p>
 

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<p>We were not planning on any more babies.  Pg is extremely hard on my body.  My back is messed up from previous pregnancies and I was not sure I could physically cope with another pregnancy,  plus I have a large amount of hard physical labor on a daily basis as a small homesteader, BUT, here I am!  So let's make the most of it and do it well and right, is my philosophy.  :)</p>
 
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I feel like I spent my first two pregnancies wanting to fast forward to the end, and I kinda feel like I missed out a bit. I'm miserable rich t now, but I'm doing my best to not be wishing it was June. This isn't an easy journey, but I want to try my hardest to find it enjoyable.
 

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<p>I'm one who wishes I could fast forward to the end, even beyond the first 6 weeks of postpartum if it is going to be anything like my others!  We thought we were done having kids, and I would always say, "I make for a terrible pregnant woman."  But then we changed our mind since we now have the wisdom and foresight to realize that this hard part is temporary and we just have to struggle through it to get to the good stuff.</p>
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<p>I had a 4th degree tear with #1, and a 3rd degree tear with #2, and it took almost a year to recover fully from both.  I am optimistic that I won't tear as badly this time, but it's still hard to think I might have to go through that recovery again!</p>
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<p>Just reminding myself that the children are worth it!  I love my little ones more than anything, and cannot wait to bring another sibling into their lives.  When we're old and gray, we will feel so fulfilled looking at our large, beautiful family :)</p>
 

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I wish that my pregnancy could just be a highlight reel - so in fifteen minutes I can experience everything - a tiny bout of morning sickness, hearing the heartbeat for the first time, first ultrasound, feeling babe move, watching the kids feel babe move, feeling that stretched, full feeling of when babe is almost due, a hint of labor and then the satisfaction of having babe finally in my arms.<br><br>
I typically have pretty easy pregnancies - not overly sick, no real pains. I do get huge - with my last, everyone was convinced I was having twins. My challenge when pregnant is the effect hormones have on my personality. I go from being mellow and balanced to an emotional wreck. I get paranoid, weepy, angry and very needy with the people in my life - especially with close friends. Luckily my kids seems to be exempt from the mood swings - after all, it is my love for them that makes me convinced that I want to feel insane for 9 months. <img alt="smile.gif" class="bbcode_smiley" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/smile.gif">
 

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<p>I had a 4th degree tear with #1, and a 3rd degree tear with #2, and it took almost a year to recover fully from both.  I am optimistic that I won't tear as badly this time, but it's still hard to think I might have to go through that recovery again!</p>
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<p>Do you mind if I ask how you delivered? I only had very mild tears with my first two - had a couple of stitches after my first and the second tear was so minor that my midwife just left it. I didn't tear at all with my last two (who were both bigger than the first two.)</p>
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<p>This last time, I swear that as soon as baby was out, my nether regions felt like nothing had happened, I mean, literally felt (when I put my hand there), like nothing had happened. I had zero swelling and zero pain - it didn't even feel like a pregnant labia, just normal, unswollen pre-baby comfort.</p>
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<p>This last time I spent a solid hour in the shower and with every contraction I'd put my feet apart about 20-24" and bend my knees slightly and place my hands just above my knees and sway in a circular motion until the contraction was over. Every few contractions, I'd check my cervix and after the last contraction, I felt baby's head *right there.* I stepped out of the shower and with that next contraction his head was born. Exactly 2 minutes after I stepped out of the shower, he was here. I think staying on my feet and swaying in circles really allowed things to open and stretch as best they could. The only complaint is that right after he was born, my thighs started to cramp up from the pressure of my hands resting on them during the past hour. DH made me a strong cup of Natural Calm (magnesium) and massaged the fronts of my thighs and the cramping eased up.</p>
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<p>I was laying on my back with my first two. The second baby was born within a minute or two of laying down, so I think that's why the tear was so minimal and not worthy of repair. I spent a good hour or two on my back with my first - and I think that was a mistake. Labor is so much more tolerable when you can move those hips.</p>
 

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<p>I am not too excited about it but mostly from a selfish perspective since I generally have easy pregnancies. Maybe because its my 3rd, we live in city where most people have 1 or no kids so I am sure I will be the freak and I just don't want to hear 500 times a day "ooooh! well you are going to be busy!!" like shut it. my grandmother had 11 kids, now she was busy! I think I can handle 3.</p>
<p>Plus my hobby is salsa dancing, and I don't want to put that on hold or be the only pregnant person dancing. so that kind of sucks. Anyway....its not the end of the world, I just kind of would prefer to fast forward to June also to skip the bulky pregnant freeezing winter  and just have the fun baby business in the summer! </p>
<p>I am also not looking forward to the birth this time either...even though I had a lovely home birth last time. It was hard, exhausting and the transition/ pushing bit, although it was very fast...hurt like hell! I was excited for the birth last time because I had a c-section  with my first (which was really hell) so I was really focused on having a normal birth last time. Now that I have gone through it, I know I want to go that route again and avoid the hospital but I am just not that excited about the birth like I was last time. </p>
 

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This is my first pregnancy.....and I have been wanting a baby for soo long so part of me does want to FF to june... but in terms of the pregnancy itself... the first trimester sucks. Between the nausea and worrying about miscarrying.... I just really want to FF to thanksgiving and then FF to my US at 20 weeks lol. I'm sure when I get to the 2nd/early 3rd trimester I'll get to enjoy this pregnancy a lot more.</p>
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<p>Yes this, 'between the nausea and worrying about miscarrying' I would like to fast forward the danger zone of 12 weeks so I can feel more like I can allow myself to get attached to the baby, as right now at 9 weeks I'm still just waiting for this period to be over to know whether or not everything will be okay. Until 12 weeks I think I will continue to keep myself pretty detached from the baby growing in there in case it doesn't make it. I keep reading people miscarrying around 10 weeks so I'm still very nervous about it.</p>
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<p>The nausea has eased off a little the last few days but that happened before and came back with a vengeance, so I could fast forward that part too. Who knows how long it's going to last. Fast forward to 16 weeks I say <img alt=":thumb" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style=""></p>
 

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This is my first pregnancy.....and I have been wanting a baby for soo long so part of me does want to FF to june... but in terms of the pregnancy itself... the first trimester sucks. Between the nausea and worrying about miscarrying.... I just really want to FF to thanksgiving and then FF to my US at 20 weeks lol. I'm sure when I get to the 2nd/early 3rd trimester I'll get to enjoy this pregnancy a lot more.</p>
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<p>I hear you on all of this!! I'm so excited and yet so worried about miscarrying, even though I know it mostly out of my control. Right now I really want to FF to my first doctor's appointment, then we can just skip to the 2nd trimester, right? </p>
 
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