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I'm not a SC mama, but I am wondering if there is any way you can switch providers? That seems like a very archaic viewpoint coming from a birth care provider to me, I'd have a hard time staying after that unless I had to. It makes me wonder if you will have any other of your parenting decisions challenged or disregarded. Hugs, mama. DSS has enough genuine neglect on its plate, I highly doubt that even if the OB were to call them that anything of consequence would occur. It sounds like a blank threat meant to bully you into compliance with their office policies to me.
 

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I've had clients that have had similiar experiences. They were threatened by the "Risk Management" team at a local hospital. They signed their waivers and just hoped that when they got home they wouldn't have any knocks at the door...and they didn't. They are only trying to bully you. Of course, it certainly is possible and a very scary thought at having Child Services at your door. I'd certainly carry the exemption with you, just in case.<br><br>
Good luck!!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">It's not my provider, it's the hospital that I might give birth in. I am planning to UC but you never know really. I got my religious exemption form from DHEC and I also have an affadavit regarding the religious views and how they conflict with all injectibles, vaccines, etc. Both are notarised. You think that will make them back off?</div>
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Ah well then, insert "hospital" for "OB" and "birth service provider" and I think it still applies. They most likely won't call DSS on you because they don't really have a legal leg to stand on, but in the event that they do and in the even less likely event someone at DSS actually thinks the complaint is serious enough not to toss it in the round file immediately, all they will do is check up on you and make sure the house is basically clean and the baby's being taken care of. Like I said before, there are sadly enough genuine cases of neglect and abuse in the world that DSS usually USUALLY will leave well-intentioned and well-informed parents well enough alone. It sounds like a scare/bullying tactic to me. Ask for a waiver and sign it, accept their literature if they offer you any, make copies of your paperwork and then politely let them know that the conversation is over.<br><br>
Good luck, mama.
 

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<a href="http://www.vaclib.org/exempt/southcarolina.htm" target="_blank">This site</a> might be useful to you, as it includes some boilerplate exemption language and sample birth plans specific to SC. Also, the eye gunk is to prevent blindness associated with STD infection in the mother (chlamydia and/or gonorrhea). Presumably you were tested for these at your first prenatal visit--if you're negative, the baby's eyes are not in danger. Good luck, and stand your ground.
 

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Hi there,<br><br>
I'm one of those SC moms who did get a visit from the hospital's risk manager just 1 hour after my baby was birthed by c/s following a transport to the hospital (planned homebirth). I was very, very upset by this. Everything about it was wrong - the timing of their visit, the risk manager himself was extremely threatening and used language that I still consider inappropriate for a mother who has just birthed a baby. That being said, he was the only person in the hospital who I encountered who was in the least bit unwelcoming to me. Since I was an unplanned transfer, I was very nervous beforehand about how I would be treated, and I found that everyone who I encountered - the nurses, anesthesiologist, OB - treated me very well and respected my wishes.<br><br>
What the risk manager seemed most eager to have me do was the PKU testing. I did agree to that, however I remained firm on the Vit. K, eyedrops and Hep B shot. He explained to my husband that they can no do a circ without a Vit K shot, but my husband just looked at him and said - he's not going to be circ'ed. End of story. They did tell me that I had been reported to DSS, but I never received a call from them. I had wonderful support from my midwife, doula (thanks Mandy <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/loveeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Loveeyes">: ), pediatrician, and moms who I know.<br><br>
Sorry this was so long, but I hope that my story helps you to feel less nervous about what is ahead of you. I hope you can stay calm and centered and focus on your birth and your baby. All the best to you!
 
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