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Hi there! I am from Luray and looking for other AP moms in the area - I know a few mamas with little ones, but not many who are AP-oriented. If you are out there and interested in making some new friends, write back!
 

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sorry i've been MIA from the thread i started oh so long ago (that's what restoring a 200+ year old house will do for ya!). anyhoo...nice to hear there are some other mamas nearby! stacy - i actually JUST heard about FNL - I am really good friends with the Liberty Liscomb (she's on the board - treasurer, I think?). we graduated HS together and are still close. she suggested i start a group in my area and i was thinking maybe i should come up to winchester and check out your group first to really get a firsthand feel.
SomerG - are you in New Market yet?
any other shen valley mamas out there?
 

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somerg - we'd LOVE to have you at our next LLL meeting (march 9)- and bring your expecting friend too! we meet the second thursday of the month at 10am at the Luray Fitness Center. there's also an evening meeting at the leader's house at 6 and i can give you info on that if it would work better for you.
i'm actually getting ready to embark on my journey to LLL leadership. it's been a great group that's been very helpful to me. we've also started a playgroup of LLL kiddos. i know your little one is a tad young for that (mine is 15 months and the youngest in attendance so far has been 11mos), but you can come to socialize if nothing else!
write back here or PM me if you want more info!
unfortunately, my ped is where i USED to live - 1 hour and 45 minutes away. we keep him b/c we LOVE him and he is very open to the way we parent and the choices we make. he's trying to find us a new doc that's closer but it's taking some networking on his part with some old med school associates and he hasn't found anyone yet. there is a ped NP in LUray that i've heard good things about, but not sure about areas of AP/NFL/nonvax/noncirc/CL weaning kind of stuff. i'll have to investigate her some more!
hope to talk to you soon!
 

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i was born and raised in luray but lived the last 4 years near charlottesville. i'm now back and i know what you mean about a home that needs a lotta tlc!
i too have few friends with little ones (if it weren't for la leche, i'd be a lonely mama!). i do have another friend with a little one and one on the way - we've been part of a group of 4 best friends since kindergarten - however she is pretty mainstream, so i find it a little hard sometimes. i never say anything, but i'm constantly thinking it so it makes it difficult for me.
who was your midwife? i used to go to barbara kirkland and she was awesome. there is a new one in h'burg - anne shaeffer. we used to work together and i love her too! that's probably where i'll start going (they're in the same practice) - but i dread the thought of delivering at RMH when i become pregnant b/c i've heard horror stories about their long list of "must-dos" and protocols. what was your experience?
nice chatting with you!
 

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glad to hear you had a good experience at RMH. i really don't get some protocols though...# of visitors, eating, heplock (if you can't start an IV in an emergency, you need some more training, IMO!). i delivered at martha jefferson in charlottesville and they were WONDERFUL! they had virtually NO protocols. they said they treat every birth individually and that "really, nothing is 'standard'". that was what they said during the tour we took, and i knew it would be a great place - as it was. i arrived at 9.5 cm dilated, b/c i too labored at home, but i drank water the 45 minutes that i pushed between every contraction. and i even asked beforehand about eating in labor. their response was "a lot of women get sick from that. if you don't mind throwing up, we don't mind your eating!".
unfortunately, i don't think i'm "brave" enough for homebirth. though, my first came quite quickly so i've been thinking about it more...i'm a nurse, so i automatically have the "worst case scenario" thoughts that i know i shouldn't have...who are the CPMs you mentioned? i'm not up on "CPM", so i was wondering - what happens if there is a problem and you must go to the hospital? do you get whomever is on call at the time or do CPMs have backup docs too??
i can't wait to meet you at LLL!
 

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hmmmm, so that's the "trinlie" i've heard mentioned. all i've ever heard is "you have to meet trinlie"! never heard of peggy franklin though.
i think it would be awesome to birth at home with little to no assistance, but it does scare me. i have a friend who birthed her first in the hospital - was completely turned off by it, and has since delivered two at home in a kiddie pool in her living room with only her husband. hats off to her!
yeah, RMH is probably the closest except warren memorial in front royal, but i don't know if they do deliveries???? i'd go back to charlottesville (MJH) but i don't know if i'd make it! the day before my son was born, i started contracting at about 8am at work. i stayed at work, but didn't do much (i worked at a health department and had a pretty autonomous job that allowed me some freedom). i contracted all day long, but i thought they were just braxton hicks which i'd been having since 20 weeks. but i started timing them in the afternoon at the encouragement of my co-worker. i remember when she left to go home that afternoon she said "give me a hug. you won't be here tomorrow. you'll be having that baby." i was like, "yeah right!". well, that evening, i crashed at about 7:30 but woke up every hour to pee????? at 1:30 am, my water broke and contractions intensified. serious work began! at 4:30, my dh said, it's time to go (we did the bradley method, so he was looking for the signs). a couple minutes later, i said "we're gonna be doing this here". a minute later, we were in the car, speeding thru the early morning darkness to charlottesville (a 20 minute drive). half way there, i had to push!!!!!!! when i got to the room and was checked, i was 9.5 cm!!!!!!!! he was born at 6:37 am. so, i don't know how long to count my labor - 22 hours? 5 hours? most people say 5 b/c i didn't go to the hospital until the very end and i had no drugs. i even had a friend the other day (who has no children) say to me, "i wanted to know something about contractions, but i can't ask you b/c you didn't have any". huh???????????????????????
well, sorry for rambling, but i LOVE my birth story
so i can't help it!
have you heard of birthmatters virginia? they have a website and a group in harrisonburg that meets once a month. they are all about supporting informed birth options in the area and the group is the "birth circle" for those planning pregnancy, pregnant, moms, or people who like to be around such persons. sounds neet to me, so i plan to attend their next meeting 3/13.
well, enough of my blahblahblah!
 

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i can't believe this! i am DYING to do childbirth ed b/c it is so unfortunate how most births go. i'm trying to gently work with my mainstream friend who is currently pg with #2. she's going with the midwives, and she has my bradley book for self-study, but she's not gonna go too far. any little bit is encouraging though compared to her last pregnancy and birth, which makes me sad. i remember her saying to me, "no one ever said 'you can do it' the whole time i was there. all they did was tell me 'this isn't working,' 'you're not progressing,' 'if you don't do any better than this, we're going to have to do a c-section'" it made me want to cry. she admits she did nothing to prepare herself b/c her thinking was "it'll either come out or they'll take it out", but her mind changed when she was in the thick of it and realized she felt helpless and clueless as to how to help herself and her baby.

we actually didn't take bradley classes- we self studied with email assistance from a friend of mine in connecticut who's an instructor. i debated bradley cert too, but i'm wavering and actually thinking i'll pursue LLL leader---lactation consultant----somewhere on the way do some parttime nursing in L&D----blahblahblah....we'll see. since the birth of my son, i'm just fired up about mamas and babies and trying to figure out how to channel it!
the birth circle of birth matters meets the second monday night of the month. i haven't been before and i can't remember the time, but as soon as i find out, i'll let you know. the next is 3/13 and i think it's at melanie's house.
my current favorite carrier is actually a really long piece of stretchy material that i use as a wrap (5 yards for $1 a yard!). it works for front/hip/back carries and i found instructions on mamatoto.org. we're actually looking into a frame carrier and i'm trying to find recommendations for that. dh wants one for hiking and some upcoming museum and zoo adventures in DC. a friend of mine who is in LLL has an ergo that she LOVES. i'm sure she'd let you try it on if you'd like at the meeting. if you want, i'll ask her to bring it. we actually had a big "carrier show-and-tell" at the last meeting and 2 people had ergos that they raved about.
 

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i'll email my friend about the ergo and i'll bring the wrap - it is very easy to get the hang of!
we're leaning (ok, it's DH) toward the kelty, but not sure which model. we're going to wilderness voyagers on date night this week to see if they have anything b/c we'd really like to try it on before we buy it.
lll leadership seems very involved and takes awhile...i think there's alot of reading and writing and role play with a leader. i meet with my leader tonight to start the process so i can give you more details later.
gotta run get this place straightened up while the sprout sleeps!
 
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