I am in a similar situation in a lot of ways. I live in a conservative rural area, and it was pretty hard for me to meet people for a while.(for years) What really helped was my midwife. She organizes monthly teas for expectant mothers/and mothers with babies or small children. Most of my good friends now, I've met through her. Do you think there are like minded people in your area? Are they just difficult to find? Do you have a co-op? Or similar gathering place?
Any suggestions on finding support/friends/just geting out?
I have no friends and virtually no support system at all outside of online communities *sigh* so any suggestions, no matter how silly are appreciated.
I live in semi-rural conservative area. Not really easy to find crunchy, family/children-oriented types like in the MDC community. I basiclly know no one here! I've lived here 5 years and just haven't found anyone I could call a firend. I work a lot, out of the area, so that makes it hard
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Folks have suggested church, but I am not so into having someone try and save my soul for the sake of socializing KWIM? I have some unique views on faith, chrisitanity and the bible, so I don't think I am going to jive with the churchy types.
How do you find these play groups and mom's day out things? I have no clue. Oh and as far as the newspaper here, it comes out once a week! Can you believe that?! I don't think I've ever read it either... LOL man this place is lame...
I'll be happy to move next year.
I live in semi-rural conservative area. Not really easy to find crunchy, family/children-oriented types like in the MDC community. I basiclly know no one here! I've lived here 5 years and just haven't found anyone I could call a firend. I work a lot, out of the area, so that makes it hard
Folks have suggested church, but I am not so into having someone try and save my soul for the sake of socializing KWIM? I have some unique views on faith, chrisitanity and the bible, so I don't think I am going to jive with the churchy types.
How do you find these play groups and mom's day out things? I have no clue. Oh and as far as the newspaper here, it comes out once a week! Can you believe that?! I don't think I've ever read it either... LOL man this place is lame...
I'll be happy to move next year.
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*~*SewHappyNow*~* said:Oh and as far as the newspaper here, it comes out once a week! Can you believe that?! I don't think I've ever read it either... LOL man this place is lame...QUOTE]
Watch out now- I am an editor of one of those lame weekly newspapers...![]()
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I also live in a small, rural, very southern town. You could look at your Chamber of Commerce; they often know everything going on in the town and could point you in the right direction. Also, ask at the schools or daycares in town. They will know all the moms and all the kids and again could point you in the right direction. And the library idea is a good one too. They should be having their summer reading programs right now, and it would be a great place to meet moms and dads.
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I am pretty much in the same boat. Check out MOMS club....I think it is www.momsclub.org ?? I helped start one when I lived in a rural back woods town, and I actually met so many baby wearing, breast feeding, cloth diapering, homeschooling moms. I was shocked, never would have thought there were that many in my area, but somehow they all came out for the play group
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I am actually in the process of starting a MOMS club here. I am in a relatively large city and feel just as alone. It is harder to meet people once you have kiddos to take up your time.
I am actually in the process of starting a MOMS club here. I am in a relatively large city and feel just as alone. It is harder to meet people once you have kiddos to take up your time.
Well, if you think that rural communities are hard, try living in a smaller city in a foreign country where you do not speak the language (although I understand and read the language perfectly!). When I lived in Amsterdam...there were HUGE communities of English speakers and the Dutch living in Amsterdam spoke perfect English. But I bought a house in a smaller city north of Amsterdam as I did not like living in Amsterdam and am still trying to learn to speak this difficult, crazy language.
I have literally accosted women I see on buses, walking on the street, in the grocery store, during our consultatie (well-baby check up) appointment, etc, who have children! :LOL Out of the 20-30 women I have done that with, I speak and/or meet with 2 of them on a weekly basis. But, I am not close with them, it is really, really difficult to get close to Dutch women.
So, my suggestion...talk to the women you see on the street! You never know!
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I have literally accosted women I see on buses, walking on the street, in the grocery store, during our consultatie (well-baby check up) appointment, etc, who have children! :LOL Out of the 20-30 women I have done that with, I speak and/or meet with 2 of them on a weekly basis. But, I am not close with them, it is really, really difficult to get close to Dutch women.
So, my suggestion...talk to the women you see on the street! You never know!
I know what you mean! I can find the play groups but most are run by SAHM's who are MARRIED and give me this pittying look when they find out i'm single then look at me like i've got to heads when they find out I work and heaven forbid I have crunchy idea's! I dont get along with mainstream parents to well... oh yeah, the play groups are usually run during the day its its kinda hard to go if your working. Anyway I found some local moms at http://www.matchingmoms.org but I didn't have anything in common with them except one but she hit the road as soon as she found out I worked. It kinda sucks without a support network
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