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DD is 3yo, and she has been using the potty consistently for pee for quite a while. No accidents or anything, she's got it down cold.<br><br>
But she will not poop into the potty. She'll ask for a diaper. Now, I was a very bad mama <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> and used sposies almost all the time. I do have a very small stash of cloth diapers. I'm absolutely tired of using sposies, the thought of throwing them away, and also spending money on them, just makes me - ick.<br><br>
OK, so when she asks for a diaper, I usually say "how about using the potty?" and invariably the answer is NO!. So then I pull out a cloth diaper, and she refuses it (will tantrum if I try to put it on her, and take it off if I manage to get it on). She insists on "white" (disposable) diapers.<br><br>
I once told her we didn't have any more white diapers but unfortunately she caught me in my bluff and showed me exactly where I stashed the remaining ones. Sigh.<br><br>
Then we really did run out - yay! And the next time she asked for a diaper, I told her she could use the potty or I could put a pink (cloth) diaper on her. She refused both. I tried different ideas, such as offering to let her use the potty outside (for the novelty or whatever) or even in the car (when we go on trips we bring the potty and she seems to have fun using it in the back of the station wagon). No deal.<br><br>
Now, I really don't mind putting my foot down; I'm not afraid to say no to her. But I'm afraid she'll hold onto her stool and make hersefl constipated or sick. I'd rather get more sposies than that, and that's what we ended up doing. But honestly, any other ideas? I don't want to buy/use disposable diapers ever again. I don't even care if she uses the potty; I'll use a cloth diaper, but no more sposies please!!
 

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When DD goes four days without a poo, she gets chocolate which seems to be enough of a laxative that she goes that day. You could probably try something a little more nutritious, but mine doesn't eat fruit. Right now, we're at the point where she can go in her pants or in the potty but I'm not doing more nappies.
 

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I'm not usually one for rewards but could you give her a reward for pooping in the potty?<br>
You could try temp tattoo's or stickers, or if you want to do candy <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/innocent.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shy"> an m&m or gummy worm, or what ever she likes.<br><br>
Just tell her about the reward way before she has to have a poop.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">When DD goes four days without a poo, she gets chocolate which seems to be enough of a laxative that she goes that day. You could probably try something a little more nutritious, but mine doesn't eat fruit. Right now, we're at the point where she can go in her pants or in the potty but I'm not doing more nappies.</div>
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So you're saying don't worry about holding back? That's interesting. I don't know how much of a problem it can be, but if it's not a big deal, fine. I've used suppositories on her twice, so I can do that if needed - but she was in a lot of pain the 2 times she was constipated (not related to potty training) and I wouldn't want her to go through that again. Not sure though.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I'm not usually one for rewards but could you give her a reward for pooping in the potty?<br>
You could try temp tattoo's or stickers, or if you want to do candy <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/innocent.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shy"> an m&m or gummy worm, or what ever she likes.<br><br>
Just tell her about the reward way before she has to have a poop.</div>
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My last resort <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
What has anyone's experiences with rewards been?<br><br>
I definitely don't want to use candy, but maybe something else. Stickers or stars maybe.<br><br>
Yeah, maybe I'll do the Star system, she gets a gold star or whatever whenever she goes.
 

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My best friend's daughter did this until she was 5. She would constipate herself so bad that she needed an enema if you didn't put a dipe on her. Reward system didn't work at all. So they bribed her. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> They told her if she started pooping on the potty and did it every day for 2 weeks they would buy her a bike. Worked like a charm and they were going to buy her the bike anyways.<br><br>
Not that I think this is a great idea, but she was starting kindergarden and they were getting desperate.
 

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My DD has the same problem, only that she will only poop in Disney princess pull ups and not the Dora Easy Ups (or cloth). She's been in underwear full time since May 1, but she wont poop on the potty. I've tried bribery/rewards, encouragement, telling her "all of your friends are pooping on the potty," ... everything I can think of. I even tried the "no more diaper" thing, but she wouldn't poop for 2.5 days, so I gave in and bought more princess diapers. At this point, I'm just not making a big deal about it. I do ask her if she wants to go on the potty when she asks for a diaper to poop. I figure this can't go on forever. And personally, it isn't that much of an inconvenience to me (I just need to be sure I have a princess diaper around). I just don't want to make this an issue, and I definitely don't want her to be constipated.<br><br>
I'm glad I'm not the only one with this problem.
 

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Laohaire, I'm saying that withholding isn't a huge issue for US: she will poop in her pants and will poo on the floor <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/inthet.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="inthet">:. She is pooping a little less frequently, though.<br>
At just shy of 3, she's completely oblivious of any reward system we can devise. She's interested and all, her desire to not go on the potty is just bigger than anything we can come up with. I figure she'll grow into it.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">My last resort <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
What has anyone's experiences with rewards been?</div>
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Rewards didn't work very well for us, but our main issue was that DH kept getting out the diapers every time DS had an accident <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll">.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Laohaire, I'm saying that withholding isn't a huge issue for US: she will poop in her pants and will poo on the floor <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/inthet.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="inthet">:.</div>
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Oh I see. I do think DD would probably withhold. She's never pooped in her pants or on the floor before. I guess I'm a little wary of having her constipate herself, since it did hurt her a fair amount on the 2 occasions she was constipated.<br><br>
Kids!!!!!!
 

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My friend just went through this with her DS. He would always pee no problem but no potty pooping, they tried everything.<br><br>
A couple of weeks ago they were over for a visit and he said he had to go (only because my DS was going) so she put him on the toilet. He sat there for quite a bit so I kept listening for the plop, waiting for it to splash his butt, shhhh … I think I hear it coming, etc. He didn’t poop at our house (since he didn’t actually have to) but once they were home she said he came and told her he needed to poop and wanted on the toilet. He kept telling her I hear it coming mommy, it’s gonna splash … sure enough he pooped and has been pooping in the toilet since.<br><br>
I’m not sure if he was just ready or if a different approach/environment was the trigger.<br><br>
Maybe you could have someone you trust with her give it a try? Or maybe have a playdate with a potty-trained friend (make sure she has lots of fruit, veggies, fiber the day before)… Might be worth a try … <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Can you get her to at least start pooping IN the bathroom itself? Then she is touching the toilet while she does it? (This is from askdrsears.com, and it did help DS, who was also asking for a diaper to poop until 3-1/2.)<br><br>
Once he was consistently pooping in the bathrooom (we used m&m bribes for that), we moved to the big bribe -- five poops in the potty in a row to get the Diego Rescue Center he so desperately wanted (and I SO did not want!).<br><br>
It worked. Five times was enough to establish that he could do it. He had a little fear of the whole thing, and that got him over it.<br><br>
Good luck.<br>
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