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I don't but we (still) use withdrawal, and I did have a miscarriage at 5 weeks last summer as a result of withdrawal. Now AF is a week late and I'm obsessing. Just curious if it ever failed for anybody else...
 

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Nope not me.. But we do have 2 children that is the Failed Withdraw Method, when we failed to do so we had a baby every time.. But we have been using this Method about 9 years with No Babies.. while Using the Method Correctly!!! And we have Sex as much as we won't during the fertile times in my cycle!! So It is All good here. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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ive gotten pregnant every single time i did the withdrawl method. now i have to make sure im using birth control.
 

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almost eight months pregnant with her now. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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My 5 year old is a withdrawal baby. And his father DID withdraw - its just - those little swimmers can be in just a tiny drop. Anyway - my son is here to show for it. If you truely dont want to get pregnant I suggest using a different method..
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">My 5 year old is a withdrawal baby. And his father DID withdraw - its just - those little swimmers can be in just a tiny drop. Anyway - my son is here to show for it. If you truely dont want to get pregnant I suggest using a different method..</div>
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Hehe, well see that's the thing... we've been avoiding mostly on DP's initiative. But I wouldn't mind being pregnant right now (and AF still hasn't showed up...) and DP has accepted the possibility of it happening ever since that fluke in the summer. So I suppose we would use condoms (ugh... still not 100% foolproof though) if we really truly both did not want to get pregnant. Or at least we would combine withdrawal with charting to avoid my fertile periods, which we haven't thus far.<br>
It's strange, it seems that withdrawal works very well for some (such as a PP) but not so well for others... Supposedly the pre-ejaculate doesn't contain sperm by itself, so if you make sure your partner's urethra is, uh, washed out before you have sex and there's no semen on his penis then there shouldn't be any danger of pregnancy if you can count on him pulling out in time. BUT as we all know mother nature doesn't work like a machine - that is, there can very well be sperm where there isn't "supposed" to be any. Or maybe it varies by person, since everyone's body is a little different. Or maybe it even varies by occasion.
 

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I have a withdrawal baby. But as long as I use condoms or abstinence when I have signs that I am ovulating (or about to) it works pretty well.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wave.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wave"> I have one<br><br><br><br>
ETA but ive been using this method all my life and only have one baby.. so i think it works pretty well. good chances so far at least. babies come when they want/are supposed to come
 

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been using it now for a little while atleast. AF arrived 6 weeks pp for me even though I EBF and so I fertility chart and then during fertile times we use withdrawal... so far so good, my ds is now 9 months old and no new one on the way.
 

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DD is a withdrawal baby sort of. DH DIDn't withdrawal when he was supposed to (day before O!!) and voila. But honestly, that was due to us, and not failure of the method itself. I think the guy plays a huge part in the success because he has to know when to get the hell out of dodge if you know what I mean. We have used FAM and withdrawal for 27 months (not counting the months before PPAF) and DD is the only result - I knew we were going to get pg from that too as I had copious EWCM and then of course the fateful nonwithdrawal.
 

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My guess would be that it does decrease your chance of conception if he withdraws - probably significantly. But as someone said - it probably varies from person to person - or/and from occation to occation how many swimmers come "early".<br>
Fertility varies greatly without taking this into consideration. I guess stats for one couple could be 98% safe and for another couple it could be 50 % kwim.<br>
I know I got pregnant the first or second time I ovulated after getting off BC pills. I think that makes for pretty bad odds in my case..
 

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Yes. I have a 10 month old son who is a result of (an obviously failed) withdrawl method. My best friends daughter is also a result of the withdrawl method, as well as my younger sister...
 

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Dh and I used the withdrawal method from the time dd1 was born until ds was conceived (because after that it obviously didn't matter anymore! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> ) and it worked perfectly but the ONLY reason I conceived dd2 and ds was because of USER failure NOT method failure.<br><br>
Withdrawal method is quite a reliable method I think it get's such a bad rap because of the high user failure rate. Dh and I got caught up in the "moment" and just got carried away and those 2 times resulted in dd2 and ds. We don't use it now because dh got a V.....We are DONE and don't want to have to worry about getting carried away. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">The one time he failed to withdraw, I became pregnant.</div>
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This is us! I think the method works pretty well-- Dh and I had talked about not withdrawing before hand. (before the sex). The issue is that it's all in your partners hands.
 

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we pull-out and I check cm/cp daily, and I will be charting once my ppaf returns. that said,<br><br>
I like the method, in theory, but I wouldn't use it alone unless a baby would be a'ight.. but, we also have three condom babies, so maybe I'm a bit 'untrusting' of my body's ability to <i>not</i> become pregnant (not to mention that I'm a bit neurotic when it comes to my baby-growing, or lack of <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">)..<br><br>
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if you don't mind one, but would like to wait, then I'd use withdrawl.<br><br>
if you really want one, but your partner does not, then I'd discuss it further with him so he know the real possibilities (and doesn't feel duped when you do end up pregnant).<br><br>
if you absolutely <b>cannot</b> have a baby nine months from now, find another method. This isn't for you..<br><br>
and if you and your partner are simply not <i>able</i> to pull-out on time or use condoms, and you do not want a baby, consider an IUD, <span style="text-decoration:underline;">extreme-charting</span> or the big V. (this is where I would raise my hand..).<br><br>
good luck!
 
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My daughter is a withdrawl baby! If they're meant to be, nothing will stop 'em from coming <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy">:
 

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He just turned 16. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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Yup, he'll be 4 next week <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Yes, two of my four children are withdrawal babies! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">
 
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