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I have been asked by so many family members if I want a baby shower with this baby. I thought you don't have baby showers except with your first. Thoughts please.
 

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If your family and friends want to give you a shower I say go for it! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/loveeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Loveeyes">: I really don't like the mentality that you should only get a shower for your first. All pregnancies and babies are special and should be celebrated. I have been told by my family that they might throw me one.. although certain members of my extended family have that mentality. My first baby was born 11 yrs ago.. I am pretty sure the majority of the things I had with him (if I still had them) would be very out of date.. even the stuff from my 5 yr old is out of date. If you don't feel comfortable having another shower where you get gifts I would definitely do something special where you just get together with all of your family. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Just my two cents, sorry to ramble on endlessly. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">
 

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Nope. We're not having one, at least not that I know of. I didnt' have one with my 2nd, and we did need LOTS of stuff. My family is helping us out a bit - Dad has offered to buy a double stroller, Mom wants me to have the Ergo, etc. But no real shower/party. We're just not into that, I guess.
 

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DH's co-workers are throwing us a baby shower. It's his first and they're all really excited for us. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Neither of us have family here, but I have a feeling my friends might throw me a little shower too.
 

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Not in your ddc- my dd was just born. My friend had a shower for her 2nd because she knew she was having a girl after having a boy first. She asked if she could have a shower/ meet the baby party for us after teh baby was born. I don't know if we will have that or if we will just combine it with the baby's Baptism. I agree that each baby should be celebrated. I think that you can have something small and tasteful with maybe fewer people and at someone's house instead of a hall or something.
 

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I know each baby deserves to be celebrated. There will be 3 years between kids and there will be about a month between birthdays.<br>
We have girl and boy clothes from the 1st pregnancy when we were told we were having a girl plus all the other things we saved. Nobody has said they wanted to throw me one but have asked if we were having one. We are also not finding out the sex of this baby so if we have another boy we are very well set with boy things. I will buy some new clothes anyway because I think this baby deserves new stuff too. The things we will need for the baby is very limited and I don't mean to be picky but I don't want a bunch of gender neutral things that I know I won't use. I like to dress my boy in boy clothes and a girl in girl clothes. The main things we need are things for me! Can I have a mommy shower? Haha just kidding. I have just heard that you don't have a shower for your 2nd.
 

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I will if I have a boy because though I have plenty of unisex newborn clothes, the non-newborn clothes are girly (and my church LOVES baby showers!). This time around it'll be after the baby's born though since I do have all the newborn stuff (and don't want lots of boy stuff yet if I have another girl this time). If I have a girl I'll probably still have a meet-the-baby-gathering of sorts even though I won't really need anything.<br><br>
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I have put out the word that I do NOT want one, just in case, last time they surprised me, (I thought I was heading to SIL's bday party <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">) and it was fun, but that was just barely two years ago, and it would be all the same people and I would feel really awkward if they spent more time, energy and money on me again so soon. I can't think of a single thing I need, even though this one's a girl, that's not gonna stop me from using my boy newborn clothes, it's gonna be hot and she'll be in just a onesie probably anyway, I can't imagine not using blue ones?<br><br>
Anyway I told my DH to spread the word that while I may be up for a party <i>after</i> she's born (that WE organize and host), I really don't want another shower.<br><br>
Also, SIL is getting married in August and I <i>know</i> they are gonna be busy planning and preparing that shindig, and they will have a shower for her...you can only get the whole clan together so many times, ya'know? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
Mostly I just don't want any more stuff!! please! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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My friend just offered to throw me a blessingway which I'm really excited about. <a href="http://www.preggiepeggy.com/blessingway.htm" target="_blank">http://www.preggiepeggy.com/blessingway.htm</a> I think it will be a great way to get the house feeling special before delivery. Another friend threw herself a blessingway to prepare for labor and for becoming a mother for the 2nd time.
 

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I am a first time mommy, but all of my friends have had baby showers for their 2nd dcs and one is having one for her 3rd dc. I think it helps with the transition... and I always feel like it is a celebration with the village (hence: it take a village to raise a child)... So, even if ppl make stuff and not just buy stuff... I think we should all have baby showers for every birth... So cool... like celebrating the anticipation of new life.
 

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if this babe is a girl, i could see my mom throwing a little "lets buy some pink" party with a few of her friends. but i honestly don't need anything anyway(other than pink, if it is a girl!)--so either way, it doesn't matter to me. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I don't think we're having one. I'm going to put a few things on a registry though since I know my inlaws as fam are going to want to buy something for the new baby and not know what. They're all out of state though. I guess if we all lived together, maybe a shower or really just a bbq or something to celebrate the new baby.
 

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Not in your ddc, but just wanted to give this idea a thumbs up. My friend had a mother blessing during her second pregnancy. A wonderful way to celebrate each child without $ obligations.<br><br>
Another friend organized the Mother Blessing and requested each guest to bring a bead and prepare something to say while stringing the beads on a necklace to be worn during labor. A design was painted on her belly with henna, and we were each sent home with a candle to light when we received news of labor.<br>
If I have another pregnancy, I want to do this.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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I may have one big shower, but I won't have a bunch of smaller/medium sized ones like with my first. I say that I will have a big shower/party just because the house is full when you get our families and close friends together. We were planning on a family shower that would have been close to the birth of B, but Benji decided he wanted to come, too. We may just do a post-birth party again.<br><br>
I am in a mommy group that does 2nd showers for everyone. Since almost everyone has had #2, it works out nicely. We mostly do diapers and mommy stuff. Since I am the only mom that cds, I am a little afraid of how that will work out.... If we have a girl, that will solve the what to get problem.
 

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This is my first, but I have to agree with everyone- every baby is someone new and important to celebrate!<br><br>
If you already have a lot of baby stuff, what about a shower where people fill your freezer for when the baby is there, and you are not cooking? Or just have a fun celebration day where maybe the special family and friends of the baby write little things in a journal to the baby?<br><br>
Clara
 

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[/We mostly do diapers and mommy stuff. Since I am the only mom that cds, I am a little afraid of how that will work out.... If we have a girl, that will solve the what to get problem.QUOTE]<br><br>
I could handle some mommy stuff and diapers!
 

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In my group of friends we have blessingways to prepare the mama to step into a new path. Some bring gifts but usually something she can use or put on an altar during birth, candles or tokens. So the mama knows we are with her during the birth. We also bring beads to string. We also tie a string on everybody's wrist or ankle in the circle as we give well wishes while we are all connected, then we cut the cord or string so everybody has a bracelet or anklet (sp) to where until the baby is born. So everytime we look at the cord or string we send her good thoughts. Often we have mom in the centre everybody massages her and/or we all participate in giving the mama a foot bath and foot massage. Then of course there is lots of yummy food to eat.<br>
It's been 13 years since my last baby so a shower would be helpful but I know that my group of women will have a blessingway for me.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">In my group of friends we have blessingways to prepare the mama to step into a new path. Some bring gifts but usually something she can use or put on an altar during birth, candles or tokens. So the mama knows we are with her during the birth. We also bring beads to string. We also tie a string on everybody's wrist or ankle in the circle as we give well wishes while we are all connected, then we cut the cord or string so everybody has a bracelet or anklet (sp) to where until the baby is born. So everytime we look at the cord or string we send her good thoughts. Often we have mom in the centre everybody massages her and/or we all participate in giving the mama a foot bath and foot massage. Then of course there is lots of yummy food to eat.<br>
It's been 13 years since my last baby so a shower would be helpful but I know that my group of women will have a blessingway for me.</div>
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A blessing way sounds so cool. The person I think that would consider doing a shower is my MIL. She is not into any peaceful type things at all she is very much the opposite. I have heard of the necklaces that people have worn made with friends at a blessing way. Sounds like something more of my friends would do.
 

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i am going to have a mamababy blessing and if they bring gifts, GREAT!<br>
we have very few things for a newborn, because we gave them to friends that needed them after Addy outgrew them. so could still use a few sleeper sacks, onesies, etc.<br>
also i DO want to get a bouncy seat, for those moments where DD is napping, and the bebe is napping and need to get something done. but only used for the rare occasion, otherwise this noob will be slung or wrapped to me or DH at almost all time lol. also if someone wanted to drop a pretty penny and buy us a carseat i wouldnt be mad either <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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I've never had a real baby shower. Normally I'm not that kind of person - I never have a birthday party for myself, I'm just not into it. But, I've always secretly wanted a baby shower - just to celebrate, you know? I am contemplating throwing a blessingway just to celebrate motherhood and birth before this baby (third) comes, but I don't know...
 
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