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I'm planing on attending this year's LLL conference this summer in Washington D.C. I have a few questions. What exactly is it like? Do you just spend all day going from seminar to seminar? What is there for children to do? DD will be 2.5 by then. DH is thinking of coming with me, I'm trying to talk him out of it, because I know he won't have a good time. Did any of your SO's tag along? ANy info would be great.
 

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We went to a local conference a year ago and we all had fun! They have play areas for the kids(my dh worked a couple of them and we got a voucher for the bookstore). My kids were 4 and 16 months old at the time so they eitehr went to the play area w/ dh or they came to a seminar w/ me. My oldest had crayons and paper and colored and my 16 month old either nursed or slept if she was w/ me. They also had a few sessions for Dads which I thought was great because he got to see that we aren't the only ones to parent this way. A few of hte dads had older kids so it was nice for him to hear that there is a light at the end of the tunnel.<br><br>
The one thing that was really nice about the conference was that my kids were accepted in the sessions w/out a second glance and there were no parents yelling at their kids or threats to spank them etc. It was nice to be around others of a like mind! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
I'm hoping to go to the conference in DC next summer. I've seen a bunch of stuff on it and I'm hoping it works out so that we can go! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Yep, been to 2.<br>
Kids were welcomed at both, and play are'a and snacks were provided. I didn't see too many men, but I'm the type of person where unless I look for something I wont notice it, lol<br>
There were severeal seminars, but breaks of 30 minutes or more between, so there was time to change diapers and such.<br>
Have fun.
 

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My daughter was 14 months when we went. Dh also came. He took her to a kids' session during on of mine, she came to the next session with me and I nursed her to sleep at the lunch break, then dh took her to the hotel room while she napped through my next two sessions
 

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I'll be there! I'm stressed out about the money, though.<br>
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You and me both. Our LLL group is so poor (we live in a rural area), that they can't help pay for any costs. The other leader has never gone to any conference, area or international, because of that. DH and I have been saving airlines miles so my tickets are taken care of, but still the registration fees and hotel room is alot of money.
 

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<b>I went to Chicago Intl in 2001.</b> I went alone with my then 16 month old son. It SUCKED! The reason it sucked was because I could not focus/attend the full session (most times) because my toddler wanted to play in the cavernous, empty hallway. So I missed a number of amazingly, incredible informative <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/bawling.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bawl"> sessions. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: At the end I realized that it was a waste of my good money. But it was still an enjoyable, amazing experience. I don't quite regret going. I'm glad I went, but...<br><br>
Anyway, yes you do spend all day going from (running to) session to session, but it's fun! I found it fun. Except it's not fun when you want to make a session, and your 2.5 year old doesn't want to leave the stairway because it's more fun to climb it.<br><br><b>I also attended a local Conference when my son was 2.5.</b> Same problem. Except now he was way more determined to keep me out of the room. The toys in the back of the room weren't that interesting... he wanted to stay in the fun, play room. So I missed even MORE great speakers (like Marshall Klaus talk about infant/mother bonding.)<br><br>
I envied all the moms with husbands/grandparents who took care of the kids!<br><br>
TAKE YOUR DH!!!! Woman, are you crazy? Why are you trying to talk HIM out of it???? He doesn't have to stay in the hotel/Conference with you! He can take your DS out to the amazing sites of Washington DC. The Smithsonian is so large and wonderful!!!! He can have a great time alone with your child.<br><br>
My DH <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes"> would never go.<br><br>
Perhaps it's just MY high-spirited, determined, focused DS... and this really isn't a problem for anyone else. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug"> All I know is, I haven't gone back to an Area Conference <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/mecry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="crying"> and I didn't go to San Francisco (I easily could have!!!) because I knew it wouldn't be fun for me. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br><b>What is there for children to do?</b><br>
At the hotel? In the back of the room at LOCAL, AREA Conferences, there is usually a great box of toys. But that wasn't the case at the Intl. Conference. Parents brought there own bag of toys (playdoh, crayons, whatever...)<br><br>
But if you are lucky enough to have grandparents, DP, then they can take the kid out for excursions.
 

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I could never get my dh to come with me, but I went to the International conference in SF and my sister came. She took my 4 year old daughter to do things around the town and also to the craft and play areas that were set up as part of the conference. If you have to try and entertain a 2.5 year old, you won't get as much out of the sessions. It's kind of fun to skip a session and just take that time to take a break, browse the bookstore, do some sightseeing, etc.
 

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Ok, well I think that I'm going to take DH along with me after reading these last posts! The reason I was trying to talk DH out of going is because he hates large cities. He has lived the vast majority of his life in a very rural area, (our town has a population of 35 hundred!), we go to a large city and he is terrified! Which he won't actually admit to, and always wants to go somewhere UNTIL we actually get there, then he just want sto go back home. He hates public transportion, he thinks he is going to get mugged at any second, in general he is just miserable. We went to Philly in Sep to visit BIL, and planned a 10 day trip, we flew back after 3 days because DH was in such a bad mood, don't even get me started on the afternoon we went to NY City! :LOL He won't venture out of the hotel without me, and dd can't be without her mama milk for very long, but he can entertain her in the hallway! Thanks for all your responses.
 

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Oh man, your poor DH! Poor you! That stinks!<br><br>
I grew up in NYC and never been mugged. Most NYers have not been mugged. I LOVE visiting cities. I love hustle and bustle. Times Square is one of my favorite places on earth. I LOVE riding the subway, buses. I love exploring a place by myself (in necessary). No way in heck would I be found alone in a hotel room because I was afraid to venture out by myself. I feel so sorry for people like that (like business travelers.) I have ridden a Mexico City train by myself (a young woman traveling alone <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/nono.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nono"> that was insane! I had a taxi driver try to talk me into a day trip outside the city, uh, no thanks.) and London subways. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br><br>
My secret dream job is to work at an airport (tons of interesting people - crowds energize me) so I could help wandering, frazzled travelers.<br><br>
Well, the hotel will be mobbed with people, so I hope crowds like that don't get to him either. But remind him it is a SHORT, short weekend trip. And this is important to you, you will get a lot out of it and you would do the same for him.<br><br>
Such a shame he isn't willing to go out for 2 hours or something for a little excursion, but Washington DC is by no means NYC. I was going to suggest getting a good guide book and really talking it out (what to see) beforehand, but if he won't even leave the hotel without you, no point in it.<br><br>
So why does he want to go? Is there anything he wants to see in particular. Talk it through... maybe he can be accompanied by other dads (talk to everyone) and make new friends.<br><br>
You should check out the book <a href="http://www.parentchildhelp.com/books.htm" target="_blank">Raising Your Spirited Child</a> because she talks about different personalities (Introverted vs Extroverted) and it was so <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/bigeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bigeyes"> eye opening and helpful to read the descriptions and needs of each personality type. I lean towards more extroverted (so does DS <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/bouncy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bouncy">) and we get energized by being WITH people. If my DS doesn't see people/friends/plays WITH others, he gets cranky. Introverts NEED some alone time and crowds make them want to climb the walls. If your DH is this way, being near his hotel room might be very helpful. THe conference may be too overwhelming/annoying to him. (But i would still take him!) That's why I think an excursion to one of the almost abandoned sites (hardly any people around - no where near the amount of people as in NYC) might be good for him.<br><br>
It just helps that he/you understand his needs and can work with them! <b>Read that chapter!</b><br><br>
Yeah, there is a playroom!!! Your DH may be bored over 2+ days in the hotel, but you can make it up to him some other time (return the favor).
 

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I went to a state conference that was held in a hotel/convention center with an indoor water park. DH went along, but did not go to any of the session (his choice) and made snide remarks about everybody slings. DH is very AP/NFL, but hates to admit it.<br><br>
DH and ds spent a lot of time in the waterpark and went on a duck boat ride (We live in WI and the conference was in the Dells for anyone that it familiar with the area). I thought it was great and loved the sessions, but DH was shot by the end of the day. It's a lot work to watch a 2 year old in a water park.
 

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I didn't have time to read all the posts but...<br><br>
I've now gone to 2 local conferences. The first one saved my dh's & my relationship. Prior to that, he thought all things AP were for the birds and going to hurt our daughter. He's now a supporter and doesn't understand how people expect their kids to be anything but difficult w/ the way they're treated. He said to me the other night: " the grass is greener on the other side." I didn't get it at first but he meant that taking care of a 2 y.o. AP'ed kid seems pretty easy compared to what everyone else says about their kids. I also said that we're lucky I was so stubborn in the beginning and he responded: "she's lucky you were so stubborn." Makes it all worth it & brings tears to my eyes.<br><br>
Anyway, I think all partners shoudl go, if possible. At the conferences I went to, they had plenty of sessions other than BF is best type topics. Lots on parenting and some very interesting ones like living on a small budget, eating crockery meals, & the like.<br><br>
What I wanted to do this year was have dh take dd for 1 or 2 sessions & vice versa. Unfortunately, dh was in a wedding that weekend so it dididn't work out. If you can take anyone else along w/ you to help out so you can get the most out of the sessions, that would be helpful.<br><br>
The big international conference is rather costly. IF you're not sure about going to an LLL conference, maybe you could start w/ one of the smaller local ones. If you get their magazine, New Beginnings, there is usually a list of what's upcoming in there for more info. I was planning to go ot the conference in DC but am expecting #2 about a week before, so I think I'll be busy <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">.<br><br>
HTH,<br>
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My son would have been like yours. I went to a local conference but my MIL lives 10 minutes from where it was held, so the kids stayed there w/ dad last time. I did have to leave early since my youngest wanted me but I was happy to have had the three session I did get to attend. I would not want to bring my kids without a helper.<br><br>
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