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<p>If so, why? How did you come to do that?</p>
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<p>Anyone call their MIL "Mom" even if their own mothers are still alive and have a good relationship?</p>
 

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<p>I call my MIL "Ammi" which is equivalent to "Mommy". I was not sure what to call my ILs so I went with what my DH called them (also called my FIL the equivalent of Daddy). Definitely a faux pas at the time, but they both took it in stride and it stuck. I think that they both found it rather endearing for the foreign DIL to refer to them that way. Granted at the time, I thought it was Mom and Dad, rather then Mommy and Daddy. In that part of the world, most ILs are called Auntie and Uncle (same as other respected elders). Both my parents are still alive and I am close to both. DH calls them Mom and Dad, too.</p>
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<p>My parents did the same with their respective ILs (well, my Grandpa's third wife was called something else, at least in private <span><img alt="winky.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="width:15px;height:15px;"></span>), so it just came naturally to me to call them the same as DH. I guess he figured he would do the same. We never talked about it with each other or the ILs. It just seemed right.</p>
 

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<p>I call my MIL Mom, because that's what she asked me to call her, and I'm comfortable with it.  I already have two Mom's-a bio and step, and I call them Ma and Mom.  *Shrugs* I've never really thought about why, I guess I see it as a sign of respect or something.</p>
 

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<p>I try to avoid talking to my mil so it's not typically an issue.  I mostly aim for grandma:)  but I will call her by her first name if I need her attention.  I would never ever ever call her mom.  </p>
 

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<p>my mom died but i call MIL ma even though shes GOT ISSUES and basically hates me and doesnt even see her granddaughter. KILL her with kindness lol she always gets big hugs and kisses and baked goods too. DH has a bunch of mommy issues...so i dont go against her cuz itll cause drama hes ALWAYS "begging" for her acceptance which i know she'll never give him. when he moved in with me she gave him "back" everything...his pictures he drew her as a kid all the photos of him his old report cards...his cards he painted her anything and everything even any magnets that were bought on his account...seriously COOCOO then she threatened suicide b/c her son was "abandoning" her even though his sis and husband were living with her and his 30 y/o brother...</p>
 

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<p>I did when we first got married. I was excited to have another "mom". But about three years into my marriage I found out she was as crazy as a bag of mixed nuts. I stopped calling her mom. I called her by her first name.Then about 10 years after I got married I stopped talking to her all together. She still occasionally sees my dear children and dp. When I talk to dp I say "your mom" and when I talk to my children it is "<span id="user_search" style="visibility:visible;">Abuela" which is Spanish for Grandma.</span></p>
<p><span style="visibility:visible;">When I am venting to my friends I call her many thing. Most of which I can not type here. User agreement and all.</span></p>
 

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<p>I do! It took me many years to get to that point mostly because I felt weird calling another woman "Mom" when my own mom is still alive and we're very close. But now I'm comfortable calling MIL "Mom" and it makes her really happy.</p>
 

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<p>I only have one mom.</p>
 

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<p>I think it would probably make my in-laws very happy, but I can't, I just can't.  I feel it's disrespectful to my own parents, especially as my folks already have to deal with the fact that we're not even in the same country as them, but are in the same town as my in-laws.  I think if I called my in-laws mom and dad, my own parents would feel like they've been replaced.</p>
<p>And sometimes I do want to call them mom and dad just because I'm not comfortable with first names (because I don't think they are), but it's a bit hard to change after nearly 7 years, so I've kind of ended up with Granny and Oupa now.</p>
 

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<p>my mil was mom and fatherin law was dad. they didnt ask. i ASKED them. </p>
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<p>then they became my ex. but they still continued to be mom and dad.</p>
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<p>i did have both my parents alive too when i started calling them mom and dad.</p>
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<p>i felt i just gained an extra set of parents. i am far away from home and they do still really care for me as their own child. </p>
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<p>of course 'mom' and i are great friends so sometimes we call each other 'friend' in different languages. 'dad' passed away. </p>
 

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<p>DH calls my parents what I call them, though to be honest he only talks to his parents maybe once a year and we never see them (their choice, not ours). </p>
 

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<p>In the last year I've felt an urge to call MIL mom. My own mom is alive and well and we have a good relationship. (OK, she drives me nuts, if you snoop in my history long enough, but I absolutely unequivocally love her and know she loves me). So I feel a little weird about it. I don't have any idea what my own mom would think about it. I'm sure MIL would be pleased.</p>
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<p>I don't consider it a sign of respect at all, only closeness. No MIL could ever be a replacement for my mother, but surely having more than one "mom" in my life could only be a good thing? If I felt that a "mom" loved me and cared for me?</p>
 

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<p>I do.  Actually, I call her Ma and I alternate between calling her that and her first name.  That's what everyone calls her..even growing up, DH's friends called her Ma.  It just sort of wore off on me and about 2 years ago I started catching myself calling her Ma every now and again.  Now, it's about 50/50.  She works for us too so I've got to be careful not to call her Ma at work!  :) </p>
 

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<p>I call both ILs Mom and Dad and DH calls my parents the same. In some ways I am closer to the ILs than my own. We also live in the same town and see each other weekly.</p>
 

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My MIL asked me to call her Mom. I declined - politely! - explaining that since I already have a Mom, it would make me uncomfortable. But I appreciated the gesture and told her that, too.
 

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<p>nope, i have one mom, and MIL ain't her.  my FIL was already dead when i met my H so no issue there.  he calls my mom & dad by their first names and they are fine with that.</p>
 

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<p>you know i find this one mom thing very interesting. </p>
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<p>mainly coz i notice the difference in my dd. she absolutely adores one of my bf's family whose son is her best friend too. they have a LOT of history together and they ARE family, more than the family we do have that we rarely see. </p>
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<p>my bf's son calls her by her name. so dd doesnt hear the word mom in their house. yet many a times, even in front of me she has automatically called my bf mom. unconciously without knowing she was doing it. now that is my friend who will keep my dd in case i die tomorrow. and what's also been interesting is my reaction. i thought i would be hurt the first time i heard it. but instead i rejoiced that dd has a close bonding with another adult. that as an teenager she has someone else to go to apart from me. </p>
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<p>i used to be i have only one mom.... and had no intention of calling my inlaws mom and dad... but they cared sooo deeply that they were my 'other' mom and dad. though i use different terms. </p>
 

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<p>I have always called MIL by her first name. DH has called my parents by their first name, Calling IL's mom/dad is just not important to any of us. If MIL asked me to do it, I probably would.</p>
 

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<p>Both DH and I call our inlaws by their names. </p>
 
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