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<div style="font-style:italic;">I'm a graduate assistant in the dean's office this year and on certain days I really do miss my teaching persona . . . then I remember all those freshman essays that begin "Since the beginning of time" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"></div>
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LOL! One of my paper-writing handouts for my students actually includes a warning never to begin a paper with phrases like "Since the beginning of time..." or "Since ancient times..." Glad to see it's not just me!
 

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I thought I'd come over and say hi!<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wave.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wave"><br><br>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">Yay...I love this thread! Dh and I are going to start trying in May. I actually thought there was something wrong with me b/c I've been doing so much reading and research about pregnancy/children...I'm afraid I'm going to scare dh off if I keep bringing up why we need to EBF, why I want to babywear, etc. I wonder if this is the equivalent to the nesting urge before you give you birth--the research urge before you get pregnant...</div>
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I think it's *great* that we are talking about things like breastfeeding and baby wearing ahead of time with our husbands and partners. I started getting really interested in birth and babies and parenting as soon as we decided to have kids. I figure the more I know, and can share with DP, the healthier and happier our future family will be.<br><br>
I am a bit active on a more mainstream board, and am amazed at how many women I see who never discussed basic things like where the baby would sleep, how it would be fed, diapered, etc. with their husbands until the kid had arrived! It just seems to set the stage for so much stress.<br><br>
And everytime we (my DP and I) have a conversation about kids, I feel so blessed to have fallen in love with a man who is totally down with extended breastfeeding and cloth diapering even though we live in an apartment and co sleeping even though the bedroom in that apartment is tiny. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br><br>
bookworm, are you really 12 minutes pregnant? :LOL Congratualtions!<br><br>
Good luck to the spring TTCers!
 

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Hi all,<br>
We are also getting ready to try but again. This will be number 2. We plan on starting in June. I did EBF for 30 mos and I said when DD self weaned, I wanted 6 months of not bfeeding or being pregnant so that will be up in May/June.<br>
Hopefully I will meet some fo you on prgncy boards later on
 

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I had been wanting to start TTC in May, but as May gets closer, I don't think I am ready. DD is still very needy, I am wanting her to be nightweaned before I get pg, and she still nurses several times. Plus there is the fact that I have yet to ever O after dd's birth. Which I take as a sign that my body is not ready yet. Maybe I'll be shooting for the fall instead!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I had been wanting to start TTC in May, but as May gets closer, I don't think I am ready. DD is still very needy, I am wanting her to be nightweaned before I get pg, and she still nurses several times. Plus there is the fact that I have yet to ever O after dd's birth. Which I take as a sign that my body is not ready yet. Maybe I'll be shooting for the fall instead!</div>
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I can totally relate. When DD was born (may02) we figured in another 2 years we would try again. Well it took at least 18 mos for my O to come back (not that I missed it!) Also DD was nursing still not necessarily at night but would nurse down at night. Well her 2nd bday came and went and she did not self wean until she was at least 2 1/2. I also wanted a 6 mo free time of no pregncy or nursing. So we decided then to put it aside another year and decide then. So now May it is unless any other reason comes up. If you're not ready, then wait. We are sick of people saying- when you going to have another one but we say when we are blessed which includes when we are ready for another one.<br>
The other Amy
 

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I'm here with you guys! I plan on starting in September. Right now, I am taking care of my periodontal pockets, oh, and finishing school :LOL<br><br>
I just got my first pp period when dd was 2 years old, and she nightweaned last week, sowe're getting there!
 

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Hi everyone,<br><br>
Dh and I are also almost ready. The last we talked about it, we thought maybe this fall? I'm in grad school and should be walking in May with actual diploma at the end of the summer (after I write my book. Ack!) Of course I'm thinking about applying for post-grad school which would be in fall of '06...not the greatest time to start school either with a babe or pregnant. So I think he and I will discuss it further as I progress with my grad project. The other issue is that although we own a home, we don't live in it and don't particularly want to. But since we'd like to be settled before having a baby, we'd have to sell the house and buy one we'd like to live in. That's a lot to think about and to have to do before TTC. However, DH will be 40 this fall and we don't want to wait too much longer. (I'll be 28.)<br><br>
Is anyone else negotiating school/living situations as much as I am thinking about it or are you more relaxed about it? (I didn't read pages 2/3 of the thread.)<br><br>
In the meantime, as you can see from my post count, I'm learning and planning all I can, and trying to be very healthy. I'm also currently on BC pills, so that's obviously an issue since I'll have to stop at some point and don't know how long it will take for my cycle to return to normal.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Hi everyone,<br><br>
Dh and I are also almost ready. The last we talked about it, we thought maybe this fall? I'm in grad school and should be walking in May with actual diploma at the end of the summer (after I write my book. Ack!) Of course I'm thinking about applying for post-grad school which would be in fall of '06...not the greatest time to start school either with a babe or pregnant. So I think he and I will discuss it further as I progress with my grad project. The other issue is that although we own a home, we don't live in it and don't particularly want to. But since we'd like to be settled before having a baby, we'd have to sell the house and buy one we'd like to live in. That's a lot to think about and to have to do before TTC. However, DH will be 40 this fall and we don't want to wait too much longer. (I'll be 28.)<br><br>
Is anyone else negotiating school/living situations as much as I am thinking about it or are you more relaxed about it? (I didn't read pages 2/3 of the thread.)<br><br>
In the meantime, as you can see from my post count, I'm learning and planning all I can, and trying to be very healthy. I'm also currently on BC pills, so that's obviously an issue since I'll have to stop at some point and don't know how long it will take for my cycle to return to normal.</div>
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I'm in grad school "planning" my first forever. I have been putting off getting pregnant because I think that the school stress i'm under (writing a diss) could mess with my hormone levels and thus the fetus develpment. But I really really can't put it off any longer (I'll be 34 in April). So I'm doing/not doing everything the OCD inducing book ,Heatlthy Parents Better Babies, says to and charting like mad in prep for a summer coneception (though it stresses me out to think of being pregnant during flu season - I get horribly sick for two weeks every winter . . .)<br><br>
It all seems so much easier in the movies :LOL
 

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Well, you know what they say... If you wait for The Perfect Time to have a baby, you'll never get your baby.<br><br>
My DP is doing a PhD and I'm working. We live in student housing, and will be moving to yet another student housing location in July/August 06, when hopefully I will be pregnant. DP will finish his PhD in the summer/fall 07 ( <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/fingersx.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="fingersx">: ), and we may stay here or we may move back to the US. I'm hoping to go back to school in the fall of 08. In any case, we're totally not settled and will be living in student housing when our first babe is born (heck, I'm hoping that our babe will be born <i>in</i> our student housing!), but this timing feels right for us, so we're not concerned.
 

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DH and I stressed over dd's conception time. I had been going through nursing school, and we were renting and really wanted a place of our own. It is such a personal decision, but for me, I wanted to be done with school before I had a baby, I found out on graduation day that I was pg! We also bought property and were starting to have our house built, we moved in when I was 7 months pg. It worked out pretty well for the first, now if I could just figure out the next one...
 

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PikkuMyy: there's a grad student tribe in "Finding Your Tribe". Might be worth checking out.<br><br>
Dh and I decided that if we wait until I'm finished with my PhD, we might never have kids! If we conceive quickly, we will likely be renting a one-bedroom apartment (keeping my fingers crossed for two, but not counting on it!) for the pregnancy and first year of the child's life. Oh, and did I mention that dh is taking a 50% paycut next year so he can do a clerkship and that it looks like I might get no funding next year, so I'll be taking an almost 100% pay cut?<br><br>
My point is...no time and every time is good to have a little one. Because we probably want to have more than one or two kids, though, and because we're READY, we want to start trying now. We both just feel confident that, with the help and support of our families and each other, we will make it work. I know plenty of grad students who have kids, some of them single parents.
 

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I agree that there is no perfect time to ttc. However, there are times that are better then others. I had my first just before becoming ABD (yes I am also trying to finish a PhD - I need to check out that grad student tribe!), and want to ttc#2 in the next two months.<br><br>
I am trying to finish chapter three - finish this semester of teaching - and get my hormones balanced first. I thought we would be ready sooner, but my DS has needed a lot of my energy and I wanted to give him some more time of being an only child.<br><br>
All that said - I am obsessed with planning my next conception (DS was unplanned) and excited to start trying again soon!
 

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I am also finishing up grad school and postponing TTC until this fall. I am going to be teaching this next year and will be trying for an early summer baby this time. I am getting so impatient!<br><br>
Brooke<br>
Mom to Finley 5/02
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> My DH and I would like to be able to start TTC first baby in September.<br>
I can sort of relate to PikkuMyy in that I still have two years of school left before I get my Bachelors degree. I will be taking my whole program online, so we figure if we have a baby next summer, we will have time to adjust a little before I begin my final year.<br>
I will have to work after school, so having the baby before school is done will give me time to breastfeed and not have to do childcare (very scared about cc). I am worried to have a baby before school is done, but there is never a perfect time, right?<br>
I was raised by a single professional mom who taught me that school should be finished before having children. I have a bit of a complex over this. We are both 27, and are ready to start now!<br>
In the mean time, I am so baby crazy. I am learning to knit, so I can make future children sweaters. I am loosing weight, eating way better. I am about to go off BC, and I do buy a few baby related things here and there. I tell my husband the Boppy and adorable clothes on sale are good to have in case of a need for emergency baby shower gifts <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> .<br>
So good to read everyone posts-fun discussion!<br>
~Chelsea~<br>
Mama to furbodies: Boone~*~* Becky~*~* Cooper~*~*
 

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Lioneyes: I know what you mean. I've had a lot of people tell me just to finish the PhD before we start ttc...but we're 28, we've been married 3.5 years and together 6.5. It's not like we're ancient, but we're READY. I also figure that, as hard as it will be to finish my degree with a babe, it would be so much harder, say, my first year as an assistant professor. School, at least, is a little flexible. I also think there are some issues if you think you might want to have 3 or 4. We have a few friends who waited until their mid/late 30s for their first, b/c of career concerns--and now and again I hear a little wistfulness, b/c they feel like having more than 2, if they wanted to, is going to be very difficult/impossible.<br><br>
Finally, I am totally baby crazy too! Now that we're getting close to ttc, I'm completely focused on it (to the detriment of my work!)--spending WAY too much time on MDC, researching birth centers, vaxes, etc. I think if I brought any baby stuff home, I would scare the pants off of dh! Although I like your baby shower idea...hmmmm... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/mischievous.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="mischief">
 

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Just wanted to share that after putting it off several times, DH and I are finally TTC #2! I agree with the previous posters that waiting for the perfect time will keep you waiting for ever, but also that there are better and worse times to TTC. Good luck everyone!
 

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NYCVeg~<br>
You have some very valid points about not waiting to long. Although many people say 'wit, you have plenty of time for babies', it starts to become more difficult to have them, and a bigger risk.<br>
:LOL about your repsonse to my baby shower idea <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/mischievous.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="mischief"> -I am lucky-my DH wants me to get pregnant almost more than I do! We are both so ready! Good luck on TTC soon. ~Chelsea~<br><br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> DH Andy since 9~5~04
 

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OK -- this might sound completely inappropriate for MDC, but I'm going to start trying because of a drug. . . I've been soooooooo scared to get pregnant again -- I was sick for over 4 months last time, lost over 12 pounds (I was 125 to begin with), vomited 8+ times a day, Reglan did nothing to help, etc. -- And I had just about had it with comments like, "no 2 pregnancies are the same", "well, you might not be sick next time" -- I'm sorry, but if a person has not experienced nausea and vomiting for 4 months, she just can't understand the fear of going through it again -- sorry for the rant -- Anyway, we want more children so badly and I finally talked to a friend who is a OBGYN NP and she couldn't believe that my docs hadn't tried Zofran -- now, please understand that I'm about as al'natural as my DH will allow (hee hee) and I don't even take an aspirin unless I absolutely have no other choice to remain sane...but I am sooooooooo excited that if I suffer hyperemesis again there are other alternatives. I've also found a bunch of hyperemsis support boards AND MDC (which I didn't find until a few months ago) -- Soooooooooo, we're taking the plunge and TTC starting this Tuesday!! Yay! :LOL I've changed docs and will now see midwives -- last time I was made to feel (by a very cold awful doc) that my feeling sick was something I should just deal with . . . I feel very confident that now that I've found a better support system and am much better educated about hyperemsis. So, Tuesday night it's party-time!!!<br>
Beth with Sylvie 9.21.03<br><br>
PS -- Ladies, please take your folic acid!
 

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I am ALMOST ready to ttc! I am still kind of shocked at my own decision-I had decided not to have any more bio kids because of situations surrounding Olivia's birth and babyhood. But I am at peace with all that now and am actually really thrilled at the idea of doing it again. I have SAD so we want to have the baby be due in spring or summer so we are going to start ttc in June or July. I have PCOS so I don't know if I'll be lucky enough to conceive again but I am on Metformin now and I seem to be having regular cycles (knock on wood!). I am going to take the next 3-4 months to focus on getting healthy. I am taking a great multivitamin/mineral system plus high doses of fish oils (to help stabilize moods - I have bipolar - I am also on Wellbutrin). I am on Weight Watchers and trying to lose 20 lbs by then. I am at 162 lbs now and I would like to be at 140 lbs or less before I get pregnant.
 
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