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I had my 36 week appt today and couldn't quite keep a lid on the curiosity<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> . 1cm and very soft, a good place to be at 36 weeks. I will be resisting the urge the next few weeks though, if at all possible. I know it really doesn't tell me anything and let's face it, internal exams are NOT very comfy!
 

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I'm so tempted to get checked at my 36 week appt on Thursday. I'd like to see if these many, many contractions I've been having are doing anything. However, I know if she says my cervix is still closed I'll be bummed and if she says I'm 3cm I'll be expecting to go into labor at any minute when I know I could walk around that way for week so I'm probably best off resisting and not getting checked...<br><br>
Glad things worked out well for you though!
 

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Word is, that my midwife WILL NOT check you unless you have a REALLY good reason...and curosity ISN'T one of them. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
But, I have been thinking about checking myself. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">: I have a pretty good idea what to expect, I think, since I used to check cervical postion and firmness when I was charting to avoid pregnancy all those many months ago <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> But, I'm nervous about introducing any germs to the area....so, I haven't yet....but they told us in childbirth class that sperm/semen kills all the yuckies, so I might check and then D-T-D. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Glad to hear that things are progressing for you, though!
 

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Yeah, I had tried to check myself (I used to chart), but my cervix is up pretty high and kind of towards the back, so I didn't get much info. I could tell that it was soft, but that's about it.
 

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I caved and got checked and nothing was going on down there. Serves me right for getting checked <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> Now my cervix has gone into hiding so I can't check myself anymore either! I guess she wants to be left alone.
 

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I'm pretty firm about not wanting to get checked. I know its standard practice from this appt on (my 36 wk appt is tomorrow), and I have it on record that I don't want any internals, but I'm ready to do the "no thanks, I'll wait til I'm a little further along" speech this week... next week I'll have to come up with another excuse. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
Honestly though, I just plain don't like internal exams. I didn't have any with my first until I was well into labor - and then, only 2. Hated it both times.<br><br>
But there is this tugging in the back of my mind... wondering...<br><br>
Well, maybe I'll check myself. Anyone have a good site that explains how/what to feel for when doing a cervical check?
 

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I'm new to this whole having a baby thing, so I was curious, is it typical if you see a MW for them to do an internal exam at 36 weeks also?
 

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I am glad for this link for I checked the other day and although typically can feel it, I could not reach it at all.....and was very confused....glad to see i'm not only one.<br><br><br>
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i started getting checked at 36w <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> i'm just too curious. i read a website posted on how to check yourself but i'm hesitant about introducing germs. i don't find the checks very uncomfortable. i have my 38w appt tomorrow morning so i'll see what the update is. i'm dilated and effaced but i still think i'll go overdue <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug">: <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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Most basic version of checking yourself?<br><br>
I don't know how to check like a midwife with how many cm and all that, but I do know that you are probably starting to hope for a cervix that feels soft like your lips (mouth) rather than firm like the tip of your nose.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
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I used midwives with my first baby. They did not do any internal exams, even in labor, unless requested.<br><br>
They did my first at 24 hours after my water broke because my doctor had to be involved at that point, and requested an internal to see how far I had progressed at that point.<br><br>
I think it really varies from practice to practice. If you're not comfortable with having one though, just say no thanks! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I had one last week due to contractions. I went to see my MW (not an appointment, just me being a baby)... IT HURT!!! At that time I was 1cm and soft. I was 34 weeks. At my 36 week appointment we will be at the birthing center so I will not want another. I am thinking no more unless I HAVE to...<br><br>
~Steph
 

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<span>soz butting in on your ddc, is it normal to have internals at 36wks even if your not in labour? i thought you only got them if you were in labour/haveing contractions <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:</span>
 

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Actually, with checking yourself... it's your own bacteria anyway, which your body is already colonized to, right? My midwife encouraged me to check myself since she doesn't generally do them, adding that it's better for it to be my own hands and own bacteria.<br><br>
She compared what she felt at my appt just shy of 32 weeks, since we were a bit concerned about PTL. I was about 1-2 cm and 50-60%... and very soft.<br><br>
I made a rule to only do it every two weeks at the most. I did yesterday. From what I can tell it feels about 2-3 cm (though I didn't reach too far inside, so that's going off external os, not internal) and about 3/4 of the way effaced. It's really, really soft and there's not much "nub" left at all. It's exactly what the above poster said... like my lips, not like the tip of my nose.
 

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I have an appointment tomorrow (37 weeks) and I'll say no thanks if they offer...but at 38 weeks I might ask, and by 39 weeks I'll certainly ask. I know it doesn't really make any difference in terms of when the birth will be, but I went to 42+ weeks last time and this time I think I just need some sort of benchmark you know? So that if nothing is happening I don't feel on edge, and is something is happening I can focus on that direction!<br><br>
Sort of silly, I know, but it's the sort of personal mind game that may help me pass the time in the last few weeks.
 

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I never got checked at all last time, even in labor. But this time with the prodromal labor and all, I'm very curious. So I discussed it with my MW today (I'm 37.5 wks) and she suggested I check myself. SO I washed up with some Hibiclens and dove in...and couldn't reach anything. Cervix is way too posterior for me to reach. Things are VERY soft in there though. I guess that is encouraging.
 
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