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<p>We are spending Thanksgiving with our "drinking buddy" friends, and so it will be VERY obvious that I am not partaking. The woman friend has been trying to conceive for a while now, and is to a point where she has completely lost hope and is verging on depression. So there is not a chance I am disclosing, especially at only 5 weeks.</p>
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<p>The plan? DH and I have 2 wine glasses, I fake sip from mine and he drinks from both so it looks as though I am drinking. This should be interesting<span><img alt="drink.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/drink.gif" style="width:24px;height:18px;"></span></p>
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<p>Anyone else finding creative solutions?</p>
 

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<p>It won't be hard for me to avoid alcohol tomorrow but if I needed to have an excuse, I would just say that I'm on antibiotics right now that don't allow me to drink. There are certain types, like Flagil, that are contraindicated with alcohol so you have to abstain while taking it. I think it would get to crazy with the two wine glasses!</p>
 

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<p>I have some Xmas work parties coming up and really trying to hide it from them. I am not a big drinker but I usually have a glass of wine or two. I have considered the antibiotic excuse but I also thought about just getting dark grape juice and drink that from my wine glass (no discussion this way).</p>
<p>Isn't it sad that we have to find excuses not to drink????</p>
 

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<p>I attended a bridal shower and BACHELORTTE party last weekend and my girlfriends are notorious for calling out non-drinkers and suspecting they are pregnant so I was nervous they were going to out me.  As soon as I got to the shower I was offered a champagne mimosa which I accepted but did not drink and no one really noticed, when they asked if I wanted another one I just said oh I haven't even finished the first one and then the waitress took it away during lunch.  When we went out that night to a bar I just ordered club soda (I would normally drink vodka and club soda) so no one really noticed.  I could'nt belive I made it thru the whole weekend without them noticing. It was almost too easy. </p>
<p>Tomorrow I will probably have a small glass of red wine, my parents already know and we are planning to tell my brother and sister but I'd like to keep it from the rest of the family until Christmas when I will be about 12 weeks.  </p>
<p>We have a party on Saturday that I'm going to have to sneaky around friends. I was thinking I would stick to bottled beer and have my hubby drink it and I'll just hold the half empty bottle. Wish me luck!</p>
 

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<p>I was going to fake drink tomorrow, since that would be a sure sign to my MIL that something was up (we drink a lot of wine together!) but we've decided to tell them tomorrow since I'm starting to show anyway.</p>
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<p>I know it's selfish, but I'm a little sad I don't get to partake in all the holiday drinking. That makes me sound like a giant lush - but we just have a lot of fun, a lot of wine, and a lot of eggnog over the holidays!</p>
 

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<p>I'm going to miss the holiday drinking too!</p>
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<p>I'm contemplating getting some Odoull's to discreetly pour into a glass at a party we are going to.</p>
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<p>I wish there was a non-alcoholic wine.  I really like the taste of red wine and am will definitely miss it!</p>
 

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<p>I've seen alcohol-removed wine in the stores --- <a href="http://www.frewines.com/" target="_blank">http://www.frewines.com/</a></p>
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<p>No idea if it's any good, though. </p>
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<p>Yeah, I've been thinking about it for Xmas Eve, too - big family cocktail party.  My whole family knows, and I'll be almost 5 months by then, but they're all drinkers, so it will be odd to be left out.  I've been thinking of mixing a little non-alc fizzy drink just to stay in the spirit. Club soda and a cherry or something. :)</p>
 

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<p>Alcohol is not a problem at my in-laws, they are non-drinkers.  But dh and I are the coffee snobs and always bring along a fair bit of super awesome, freshly roasted (at home) coffee, and we end up brewing 3+ pots a day when we're at the in-laws.  MIL and I enjoy drinking coffee together, but I don't enjoy coffee at all when I'm pregnant and probably won't be drinking any.  I figured that would be a dead give-away, so we're just going to go ahead and tell them.</p>
 

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<p>Scheelimama, I am the same!  I was a coffee addict and everyone knew it.  It was the tip-off for my sister-in-law, and at least one co-worker. </p>
 

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<p>I can't not drink at least a cup of coffee a day.  I did with the last 2 pregnancies and I blame their "craziness" on the fact that they are Leos, not the fact that they had coffee during pgcy.  Although, BOTH of them absolutely love coffee, even strong, French roast with just half and half.</p>
 

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<p>I don't think it would be that devastating to have a glass of wine with a meal.  That's what I would do.  I don't think I could get through 9 months without the occasional drink.  Its a part of my culture.</p>
 

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<p>I served champagne but filled my glass with ginger ale! TOTALLY fooled my mom.  She asked me to try the stuffing as long as I hadn't had too much to drink. ;)</p>
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>SunnieP</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1281547/anyone-else-fake-drinking-tomorrow#post_16071925"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>I don't think it would be that devastating to have a glass of wine with a meal.  That's what I would do.  I don't think I could get through 9 months without the occasional drink.  Its a part of my culture.</p>
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<p>I agree.  Yesterday, I did take O'Doul's beer with me & brought good beer for the host/ess & told the them why, but I know that a glass of red wine every once in a while during pregnancy is not a huge deal.  Nor is a good, dark beer.  After becoming a mom, I am very careful about drinking too much any way.</p>
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<p>We ended up chatting about how American culture freaks out about such things because we tend to go to extremes, either not drinking ever or drinking too much.  IMHO, in many ways, we have a very polarized culture on a lot off issues like that.<br>
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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>mamahen2coop</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1281547/anyone-else-fake-drinking-tomorrow#post_16074233"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>I served champagne but filled my glass with ginger ale! TOTALLY fooled my mom.  She asked me to try the stuffing as long as I hadn't had too much to drink. ;)</p>
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That's funny!</p>
 

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<p>My whole family knows since I  can't keep a secret to save my life!  But it's good to see I'm not the only one missing drinking this holiday season!  Yesterday was so chaotic, I was very jealous of my family members who had a couple of glasses of wine <span><img alt="ROTFLMAO.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/ROTFLMAO.gif" style="width:39px;height:15px;"></span></p>
 

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Well...I actually pulled it off, whic is surprising because I know I was under scrutiny! I did take a few sips, which I'm fine with anyway. I typically would have had more though <img alt="smile.gif" class="bbcode_smiley" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/smile.gif">. Dh had a little more than he expected though... he was pouring both of us heavy handed!
 

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<p>I drank a very small glass of wine with Thanksgiving dinner... we were with DH's family, and they all know anyway so I didn't have to worry about it, but they had my favorite wine so I had a little. I really don't think it hurts anything to have small amounts on occasion. <a href="http://www.medscape.com/viewarticle/730790" target="_blank">http://www.medscape.com/viewarticle/730790</a></p>
 

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<p>I don't think it would be devastating either, I'd just prefer not to this early in the pregnancy. Later on I'd have no issues with an occasional glass of wine (or champagne on NYE) There are lots of cultures that do. I normally drink a LOT of wine though (we even make our own) so me having one glass would be just as much of a tip off as not having any! :) I've had a pretty extreme aversion to the smell or thought of wine anyway, so it's a non issue right now.</p>
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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>SunnieP</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1281547/anyone-else-fake-drinking-tomorrow#post_16071925"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>I don't think it would be that devastating to have a glass of wine with a meal.  That's what I would do.  I don't think I could get through 9 months without the occasional drink.  Its a part of my culture.</p>
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<p>Stashing these tips for Christmas- since it'll still be too early for me to share (due in Aug) and it is a dead giveaway when I don't have a beer or wine.  I was thinking of either having a beer bottle (with dark beers it's hard to see how much is left) or having dh drink from my wine glass. </p>
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>WonderfulStuff</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1281547/anyone-else-fake-drinking-tomorrow#post_16071253"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>I've seen alcohol-removed wine in the stores --- <a href="http://www.frewines.com/" target="_blank">http://www.frewines.com/</a></p>
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<p>Yeah, I've been thinking about it for Xmas Eve, too - big family cocktail party.  My whole family knows, and I'll be almost 5 months by then, but they're all drinkers, so it will be odd to be left out.  I've been thinking of mixing a little non-alc fizzy drink just to stay in the spirit. Club soda and a cherry or something. :)</p>
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I really didn't like the white zinfandel but the spumante was pretty good.   My kids wanted some bottles for New Years Eve and I obliged.   Me I normally drink Sparkling Grape Juice when pg and wanting to join in with the wine/champagne drinking.   </p>
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