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DS is almost 3 and down to only ~3 times a day for nursing....but i'm so frustrated with it. i don't want to sound horrible! i always thought, hoped he'd ween himself, but it doesn't seem to be headed in that direction. i'm 14w2d preg, and HORRIBLE m/s, and my BBs hurt so bad! i'm not really sure what to do because he is VERY demanding of the times he still has to nurse, and i'm so sick it's too hard to fight it. i'm not really sure what to do...of course my MW says it's a normal feeling to go thru. that my body is preparing for a new baby, and trying to finish up with DS....she was trying to make me feel better<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> anyone have any suggestions??<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/innocent.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shy">
 

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Yes, I often feel this way as well. DD is 27 months and it is getting very difficult. I am 25 weeks pregnant. It seemed like she was going to wean -- sleeping through the night, only asking to nurse very occasionally, and honestly, I was pretty happy about it.<br><br>
Now, though, I think my colostrum is coming in and she wants to nurse constantly. And it HURTS. I think her latch must be off as well as just the regular pain from nursing while pregnant. I'm going to stick it out, though. I would love it if she would self-wean, but otherwise, I'm going to keep at it.<br><br>
I'm sorry you're having a hard time. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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Read La Leche League's Adventures in Tandem Nursing (it's also about nursing while pregnant.) You're feelings are totally normal.<br>
If you want to try and get him to cut back more, try distraction with food, drink, toys, books, whatever works. Also, since he's older, you could try explaining that it hurts, and that he needs to be quick and gentle. (try not to blame him or the babe for the pain, though).
 

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Perhaps you could cut back one of the three nursing sessions and then the other two wouldn't be so bad?<br>
Are they at regular times?
 

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My daughter was 3.5 when I got pregnant. I just couldn't take it anymore--the pain, the touching, the climbing on me all day. So, one morning when I was awakeded by my own yelp as she latched onto my super tender breast--I told her that my body was very busy making a baby and that it needs to rest to make milk for when the new baby comes. I, too, was all about self weaning, and would have let her go on her own. But, the pain was just too much for me. She has asked if once I am making milk again can she have some--and I've told her that she can if she likes. It seems like a good compromise--but, I'm secretly hoping she doesn't really end up wanting to nurse!
 

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I weaned my DD earlier than anyone else in this post <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> because of pregnancy boobs. It just HURT so so so MUCH. Until this point it had always been a wonderful bonding part of our relationship, but it was at the point that I was starting to really dislike being near her, because I was afraid she would want to nurse again. I was heading out for a business conference w/ my husband as well (we go on a "honeymoon" once a year, and this year his work paid for it) so with having to wean long enough for her to be w/ grandma that long, plus the pain... we just weaned. I do give her toddler 'formula' though, and she still drinks from a bottle because it soothes her, but mommy boobs are off limits.<br><br>
At this point, I cant even imagine having the new baby BFing, after the memory of the discomfort w/ my DD.<br><br>
anyways just wanted to chime in. I know some think that babes should BF till they self wean, but for us, we decided long ago that our AP goals had to work for everyone, and crying while DD bf'd just wasnt cutting it.
 

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Someone discribed it to me once as wanting to run into the street screaming. That is about how it felt for me. DD was very close to weaning anyway so I didn't refuse to nurse her but after she was latched on for a few moments she would lose interest if the TV was on or something. Someone suggested counting to ten, which worked very well, so that I could limit it a bit but not say no entirely. She asked to nurse once after she stopped and could not remember how to latch at all. I may have sped up her weaning a bit but I am pretty sure she was ready based upon her latch behavior and her complaint at my lack of milk.
 

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I ended up weaning my 2yr old when I was about 17 weeks pregnant because I just couldn't take it anymore. I felt like a bad mommy because it wasn't that it was painful for me. I didn't have ANY sore boobs until after I weaned her! I just couldn't take the constant climbing on me and her being so demanding about it anymore. I would feel so angry and annoyed at her inside and it wasn't a pleasant experience anymore. I think we were both better off with weaning (we did it very slowly though) and it's nice that I have a couple of months with my body to myself (well, somewhat) until baby arrives.
 

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I was in your same sit.! DD (who just turned 2) nursed during my preg too....It hurt sooo bad that at times I would cry and cry! I thought I was going to go insane! I felt that my body couldn't take it any longer! But I managed to get through it and DD self-weaned 2 weeks before our new one arrived~<br><br>
One day DD nursed and said "yuck" My milk obviously changed!<br>
I was sooooo happy and thankful that I got a few week off!<br><br>
Blessings to you mama!<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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PS~ After DS was born DD never even asked to nurse again! I was a bit surprised but thankful! DD now nurses her stuffed<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/loveeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Loveeyes">: bunny!
 

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I get to that point every pregnancy. I ahve nursed through 2 other pregnancies before this one, my older daughter self weaned at 2 yrs 8 mo when I was about 6 months pregnant (about 4 weeks after the milk was really gone) and my second oldest weaned at 2 yrs 10 months, when I was 8 months pregnbant and the colostrum came in.<br><br>
I am 19 weeks, and I have some milk, but mine typically dries up around 20 weeks. It is painful at this point because of her trying to suck hard to draw milk down out of drying ducts! No tenderness, just the pain from the internal pulling from sucking.<br><br>
It doesnt bother me yet or make my skin crawl, but I think it will, since Ive gotten to that point in 2 previous pregnancies. I assume Felicity will wean, like her sisters have, but may be not. Ill take it one day at a time.
 

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this post makes me feel so much better! i am nursing my 26-month old twin girls & it hurts, hurts, hurts. it hurts when they latch on -- it feels like they're biting through my breasts with pointy teeth. phoebe has a wonky latch already that i never really dealt with because it didn't bother me that much, but i am seriously regretting that because now it hurts more. and it hurts again when the milk lets down. i am already tandem nursing & i cannot imagine nursing 3, so i am seriously considering weaning my two.<br><br>
at the same time, the thought breaks my heart. i cannot imagine nursing them knowing it will be the last time i nurse them. i am getting teary eyed now just typing about it. it's still pretty important to them.<br><br>
they only nurse 3 times a day now. i've cut back. i've stopped nursing on demand and cuddle them when they get hurt, rather than nurse. and they always asked to nurse after nap, but i distracted them with popscicles one hot day a few weeks ago & they gave that up pretty easily. the last 3 will be hard and i don't know if i'm up for it yet.<br><br>
it's so hard, isn't it?
 

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at the same time, the thought breaks my heart. i cannot imagine nursing them knowing it will be the last time i nurse them. i am getting teary eyed now just typing about it. it's still pretty important to them.<br><br><br><br>
i'm so happy that i can share this and get so much feedback...i feel the same way, but for my own sanity i don't know how much longer i can do it.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> i do think i may just keep on and hope he doesn't like the taste of my milk once it changes....i have NO energy to try to fight with him and try to wean. DH isn't much help though. not very supportive...he keeps saying "you can't keep doing this"...anyways...it's nice to be able to come here and talk!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">
 
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