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DD is obviously very into solids now (happened all of a sudden): hovering over our plates with mouth wide open and gulping down anything given to her, then reaching for more.<br><br>
i wanted to give the baby-led feeding thing a go, but can i just say--it drives me absolutely BONKERS to let her smear food all over herself, in her hair, every time i want to offer her food? she doesn't like baths; we typically do one every week, maybe twice a week. today i let her play with some avocado but ended up spoon feeding her some bites to avoid the mess getting out of control.<br><br>
i just can't handle the avocado EVERYWHERE--all over her pants (which i just washed), her face, the couch.<br><br>
am i just some sort of weird neat freak? (my DH would be happy albeit very surprised to know i'm a neat freak! he thinks i'm a slob <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">)<br><br>
seriously, though, is this strange? i don't mind some playing with the food, and i obviously know it's important for her to feel the textures and stuff, but when i see it's about to make a <i>horrible</i> mess when she's just really trying to get some into her mouth and not having a lot of success, my instinct is to help her get it in her mouth and clean her off. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">:<br><br>
she doesn't swallow it if she doesn't want it, and if she spits it out, i quit.
 

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Honestly? I never had an issue with "mess" with my youngest two children because they didn't start on any solid foods until after a year old. And then they went directly to finger foods. No mush type pureed foods at all.<br><br>
With my oldest, I started solids at 4 months per her pediatricians order <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> and yes.. we experienced much mess.<br><br>
Delaying solids really does have its advantages. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I feel your pain. At times I purposefully give her things that won't be messy, like cheerios or freeze dried fruits b/c I am not up for a mess. On the other hand, at times I just take off her clothes and let her at it. Or I will only offer a messy food once a day (or overy other day), usually at dinner, then change into her pj's afterward.<br><br>
Also, in response to the PP, even though we've only done self feeding she makes a heck of a mess out of say, steamed sweet potatoes cut into bite size pieces. She basically purees them herself on her tray then proceeds to smear them everywhere. Sure, a few bites make it into her mouth.
 

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Let it go mama... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">: all of that learning and touching and experiencing new flavors and textures is what is going to help her develop a good healthy relationship with food.<br><br>
It gets better eventually, when they get a bit older and learn how to get things into their mouth more efficiently. Until then, lots of baths, which are fun sensory experiences too!<br><br>
Think of many of the things kids love - playing with mud, sand, water, splashing in puddles, rolling on the ground, throwing dirt... it's all sensory, learning activity. I had to remind myself to let it go and enjoy watching my DS explore and grow.
 

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I totally feel your pain here! Sometimes when I want to give DS a blueberry or a raspberry, I cringe at thinking of how it will stain everything he comes in contact with. I have to remind myself to just let go and if he ends up getting blueberry all over, well, then he gets blueberry all over. (Easier said than done though, I know.) But, I do notice that I tend to give him less messy things - it's almost subconscious how I gravitate toward non-staining foods! I really need to be branching out more. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">
 

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I sometimes cringe a little at the mess, too, but there is such obvious joy on dds face as she explores food tastes and textures that it makes up for any inconvenience....also, whenever I can, I leave her diaper-only for meals/snacks and try to have her eat in easier to clean places....that helps a lot <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I am a clean freak. I am the kid who never (NEVER) got dirty.<br><br>
I let it go. The purpose of solids in the first year is the *experience* NOT the nutrition. You can't spoon feed the experience <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"><br><br>
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Ha<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> My floor/table are really really gross. It bothered me for a while, but I got over it<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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it's messy, but i love to watch her <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> i just take off her clothes, put a bib on her and let her go to town (all she's eaten are bananas so far). her hands and the bib are really all that gets dirty at this point. after she's done, i just wipe her up with a wet paper towel, wipe the high chair down and viola!
 

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We do not have an eat in Kitchen , so I feel your pain. Our eating area has white carpet (no I did not choose it) it was here when we bought the place and we cannot afford to replace it right now. Anyway, ds has just finally gotten into food, so he rubs it in his hair,ears,eyes, and puts food up his nose. And I am getting over the house mess it is the tot mess. He gets hysterical when it is clean up time. He is done with baths. Has not taken one in over two months. So if he needs cleaning up, it is with me in the shower. And that is not going to happen at 7 pm. It gets better, I know, it is just hard. B fg is soooooo much easier.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:
 

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Is it messy? Yes. Is it TOO MUCH mess? I don't think so... For snacks I'll only give him non-messy finger foods like Cheerios. For dinner I'll strip him naked and confine him to his high chair and let him self-feed. It's messy but there's a reason we eat dinner right before bathtime! I know you said your DC doesn't like baths; how about a quick shower-down? I do that after breakfasts... Plop the naked baby in the tub and hose her down for a minute or two, then off to get dressed for the day. And maybe you can get a high chair even if you don't eat in a kitchen?
 

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Oh, I feel so much better - I thought I was the only one who was thinking this! With DD, we did the typical spoon-feeding thing, so we never had all this. I find myself choosing non-messy foods, esp. for snacks because I can't take the laundry! Or the food smushed in his hair...<br><br>
But, now that he's 9.5 months and had been at it a while, it is getting much better - still messy on his clothes, but he's getting less all over his body and hair. And it is pretty cute.... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">
 

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Here is what we do...messy foods are always "dinner" foods, (Right before bath!) I put her in short sleeved shirts at home, so that makes clean up easy, and she wears a bib too.. Also we use a suction cup bowl on her highchair(<a href="http://store.babycenter.com/product/feeding+-+nursing/solid+feeding/dishes+-+utensils/suction+bowl.do?asc=false" target="_blank">http://store.babycenter.com/product/...l.do?asc=false</a>) the bowl isnt 100% held down but its pretty good and it takes a while for her to get off...and if shes busy working on getting that off while theres food in the bowl..shes bored..and done eating most of the time. using the bowl makes the highchair stay very clean and her arms stay cleaner. (Yeah I know the bowls plastic <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">: )
 

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The mess drives me crazy <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/nut.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nut"> My 2.5 year old is a mess too so every meal is like cleanup overhaul. I undress Emma down to her diaper and keep about 10 wet washcloths ready to clean her up and then the highchair when she's done.<br><br>
Also, I wanted to add that I spoonfed my oldest and it was messy, maybe even messier because purees just spread and splat and ewwww <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">
 

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We don't do purees and I spoon feed them yogurt or soup and the like. The mess doesn't bother me/
 

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I'm the same way! I have slowly started to relax about it but it's hard. He has so much fun rubbing the sweet potatoes or whatever else all over the tray then his face. Instead of freaking out, I got out the camera and got some funny pics. I also put a big blanket on the ground to catch anything that goes overboard and I give him a bath right away now. My son LOVES the bath so it's not to bad anymore.
 

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my husband thinks its too messy - i dont mind. i often catching him feeding her from his fork and since he is her parent too i cant do too much about it. but since i feed her the majority of her meals i dont really worry about it too much....<br><br>
thats what bibs are for!!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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We make a mess here, too. I don't think I would be as laid back about it if I was feeding him on the couch, though. I think that high chairs definitely have their place for beginning eaters. And a dog. Our dog makes sure the floor stays pretty clean.<br><br>
And, fwiw, sometimes at this age, I will spoon feed him whatever I'm eating. It still makes a mess. I think some of it is the personality of my kid. He likes messes. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
Oh, and we bathe him after supper every night. It helps that he likes bathtime, and it's part of his bedtime routine.
 

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Also, I wanted to add that I spoonfed my oldest and it was messy, maybe even messier because purees just spread and splat and ewwww <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"></div>
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I let ds self feed but I have to spoon feed my daycare kids (per the moms' instructions). I am a clean freak when it comes to ds' clothes and big messes on the floor. Spoon feeding is such a messy pain in the butt!! I hate it!! The baby grabs for the spoon and green puree flies everywhere. Baby sneezes and sprays orange puree all over my face and shirt. Baby spits chunky brown puree out and it oozes down her face and all over everything. Baby fingerpaints with puree on the high chair tray.<br><br>
I always gave ds small amounts at a time so if he was interested I could keep giving him spoonfuls but if he was just going to toss it around I could catch it before the food wasting got out of hand. The mess was so minimal. And I always left it as close to whole as possible: soft chunks of baked potato as opposed to mashed, cubes of meatloaf, etc. Easier to clean up a cube of meatloaf or a banana slice dropped on the floor than a mouthful of strained peas sprayed all over the kitchen wall!
 

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DD is 9 mos and just starting to experiment with food, but mostly she just wants to grab my plate and throw it on the floor (she really dislikes the highchair) I try giving her a plate and spoon of her own, but sometimes I just give up and hold her while I stand and eat so she can't get at it...I don't know what else to do! But i am slowly getting used to the mess all over us when she does hold onto something for a minute...as opposed to throwing it right on the floor!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 
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