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DH and I sleep with WAY too many pillows to co-sleep. I have also rolled over on our cat and stayed there until she meowed and squirmed for me to get off.<br><br>
I know I would be much more aware of a baby, but that in itself may keep me from ever sleeping. At this point I have accepted the fact that I will probably sit up holding him all night for the first few nights. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
When he gets older I am sure we will end up co-sleeping, but for now he is going to be in a crib 2 inches away from me or even closer if the crib height will allow it to be "attached" to my side.<br><br>
So, this is the other question....<br><br>
Do I go for an organic cotton futon mattress, latex mattress, or organic coil mattress?<br><br>
Everytime I think I have made a decision, I find new choices.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:
 

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Um, to answer your first question, yes, we'll use a crib. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">: The plan is to use a bassinet in our room for the first 3 months or so. We tried this with Dylan, but getting him back to sleep was such an ordeal that Jonny started taking him into the other room so that I could sleep. And from there it seemed to make more sense to have the bassinet in that room. And that was sort of the end of any form of co-sleeping for us, other than between the 5 AMish feeding and whenever I decided to get up, when he slept on my chest.<br><br>
We just have a regular crib mattress. We opened it a couple months before using it to let it air out and off-gas.<br><br>
I guess I'm not much help. And I feel like such a child-abuser admitting that we use a crib and a basic, crappy crib mattress.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/bag.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Bag">:
 

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We're not using a crib at all. It was always set up for each kid, but never uised.<br><br>
But don't feel bad for doing so. If that's what you feel will keep babe safe and you sleeping well, and as long as you're doing your best to be an attached parent (like not forcing babe to cry it out, etc) then don't worry about it!<br><br>
You might find cosleeping really easy and natural after the birth, or babe might just sleep happily in a crib.<br><br>
I intended to use a crib with my older two and just never did. I fell into cosleeping so easily.<br><br>
Also, if you're getting a regular mattress, let it off-gas or buy a good used one. I don't know which organic one to get - too many choices!
 

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We'll be side-carring a crib this time around. With DD she was in her own crib from day 1 and was more than fine with that (she's always liked her own space). With DS we co-slept and he never liked his crib even when we tried for naps.<br><br>
As for the mattress, we also have a regular one. I would LOVE an organic one but they run about $300 and that is way beyond our budget right now.
 

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we're going to use a bassinet at the side of our bed (we share a full-size bed and it's pretty cozy as it is) for as long as the little one can fit or can stand sleeping in it, and then we will have a crib in another room for her when she's ready for it.<br><br>
trying to play things by ear....<br><br>
definitely can't fit an organic mattress into the budget, but may use an organic mattress pad and will definitely try for organic sheets as much as possible.
 

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I'm using a crib that was given to me and the mattress is used as well (just by my friend's daughter, with a waterproof mattress pad). So any off-gassing (I never heard that term til I came to MDC!) is over with. We're borrowing an arm's reach co-sleeper for the first few months, and just kind of feel it out as for when he's ready to sleep in his own room...<br><br>
I'm sorry, I just have kind of a creep factor about co-sleeping in the same bed. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">: I know this is based on my own stuff, being raised in a family with no boundaries, but I can't do it. I think it's a lovely concept for other people. So, we plan on having baby in our room in a cosleeper of his own for three months or so and then he gets his own room...if he's ready. I don't plan to feel guilty about it either... and I don't believe in crying it out or any of that. But DH and I need our own bed back eventually!<br><br>
Just my two cents, and fortunately DH is on board with it. Don't get me wrong, if my kid has nightmares, hop on into bed with mom and dad for the night if it'll make him feel better... but the next night, back to his own room.
 

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I'm going to go for the side-car and that will be as close to co-sleeping as I think we'll get this time around. I seriously messed up my shoulder and back sleeping with Titus. DH is such a heavy sleeper that I had to constantly be in a position to protect Titus which was not good for me. I'd rather have to get out of bed for each feeding and fall asleep in the rocker than deal with that again. Our pack and play came with a lovely bassinett on a pedistal with wheels that I've loaned out to a couple people already and they too just loved being able to have baby nearby but not in bed (Really cool because one in particular would have put baby straight in another room).<br><br>
In the end... well, not end, it was around 5 months, Titus decided he'd rather sleep in a crib in his own room anyhow. (I could tell by the shoving and kicking and crying whenever I was next to him) We bought a $40 crib off Craigslist and a friend gave me her old crib mattress. If we bought new, I'd probably go for whatever was "nice" but not the most high end and let it air out for a while
 

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We had a crib for DD, and a mattress that had been my nephew's- just a basic middle-of-the-road one. She abhorred the crib and was adamant about co-sleeping from day one in the hospital- we really had no choice. We had a bassinet also, she would have nothing to do with it! This time we are borrowing an arm's reach co-sleeper, because DD1 still spends a good chunk of the night in our bed, and we still have that bassinet that we'll keep in the guest room for potential napping. But we've given away the crib and would have nowhere to set it up even if we wanted to at this point, so here's hoping this baby is also OK with co-sleeping! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I plan on using a Bassinet to start with, then after a few months moving to a crib. But thats what I planned on with dd, too. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> She wouldn't have any part of it, and still won't at almost 2 years old. So I am just going to take the wait and see approach. If I can get a ok amount of sleep using a Bassinet/crib, I will do that. But if baby won't sleep a wink in one (like my dd) I will co-sleep even though I don't sleep well with a baby. I don't like dealing with tired cranky babies. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> I like to co-sleep with dd now that she is older and can move if she can't breathe/is uncomfy, but was very uncomfortable with it when she was a newborn. I have TERRIBLE insomnia, and the thought of baby smothering in my comforter or one of 10,000 pillows would keep me awake. Once dd was about 9 months old, I was fine with it. But before then, I couldn't seem to sleep since I worried so much. I don't co-sleep b/c I want to, I co-sleep b/c I HAVE to, to get any sleep with dd. Hopefully this baby will be more willing to sleep in their own space in my room. Im hoping his baby prefers to have their own space.
 

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I didn't even know about co-sleeping before DS was born and just assumed he would sleep in a bassinet next to our bed at first and then move to a crib. He was not happy about being in the bassinet though. I started bringing him into the bed with me thinking I was doing something really frowned on and unusual until I started finding info on the internet.<br><br>
We have a spare bedroom and DS and I slept in there for the 1st 3 months. It was great having an entire bed to ourselves. It felt really safe knowing I had control of all the pillows and blankets. DH <i>SNORES</i> (-always accepting suggestions!!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">: ) and I would end up sleeping in there a least a few times a week anyway so it wasn't a big change for us that way. Plus DH was better rested to go to work.<br><br>
At around 3 months DS stared becoming a restles sleeper and neither of us was getting any sleep anymore. I moved him into his crib next to our bed and it was better for both of us. Although now I have a baby on one side of me and a snorer on the other!! AAHHGGG!! -O for the days peaceful slumbers.
 

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We've done this differently, depending on the child/ren and circumstances.<br><br>
With our dd, I fully expected to co-sleep. By the third night, though, we moved her into a cradle next to our bed. She needed her space, and was not a cuddler from day one. Thankfully she's making up for that now, and is a very snuggly 7yo.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
Our twins were preemies and had some pretty significant suck issues, so I spent the first three months pumping before we were able to make the transition to the breast. Just logistically, it took half an hour to feed one baby, half an hour to feed the other, and a half an hour to pump/clean the pump/get it all set up for the next feeding. Then I had an hour and a half before my alarm went off to start it all again, so I needed to go RIGHT to sleep. At that point, too, both babies had been sleeping for either an hour or half an hour, so to get into bed with them could wake them up--a nightmare scenario for me! So they slept together in a crib from very early on, and seemed very happy to snuggle with each other.<br><br>
Our next baby was my dream baby--no nursing issues at all, snuggly little lover. We co-slept until about five or six months, when he started getting too wiggly, and then transitioned him into a crib in our room. He moved (in the crib) to his big brothers' room when he was about a year.<br><br>
Our little guy co-slept for a month or so, but had similar issues to our dd, so we moved him to the crib in our room at about a month. He was much happier in his own space, and settled down to sleep easier. I was so disappointed--we had gotten a king sized bed during his pregnancy, and I was looking forward to having plenty of room while still snuggling a babe!<br><br>
With our new little one, I think we will have to start him/her off in the crib right away. Dh was recently diagnosed with sleep apnea, and we're both concerned about the issues involved with the apnea. Our room isn't big enough to sidecar the crib, unfortunately...sigh....
 

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We have an infant crib for our room because I am so afraid to roll over on the baby. Plus DH is concerned about co-sleeping because he thinks we will never get the baby into her own room in the future. It will take some convincing. We do have a crib in the nursery to appease him but I am hoping we won't need to use it.<br><br>
I slept, according to my mother, in a dresser drawer for the first few weeks (single mom, no money, no crib). Makes me giggle...
 

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We'll almost definitely use a crib eventually, but probably not in the first couple months. With the first 3, they followed roughly this pattern:<br><br>
Newborn to 3-4 mos: fully co-sleep because the child refuses to sleep anywhere else. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br>
4 mos to nightweaning: start off the night in the crib in our room, come to my/our bed at the first waking.<br>
Nightweaning until ready for "big kid bed": crib in another room.<br><br>
I just don't personally do well with co-sleeping with older kids, I need my space to get enough sleep! In the beginning though, my kids usually nurse so frequently, I'd be up and down more getting them in and out of their own bed, so it balances out.<br><br>
We still have a decent mattress left over from ds, long before I knew about organic and/or latex mattresses, so I'll probably just dig that out of the basement, scrub it down really well and let it air out.
 

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I'm buying one for the nursery to transition too. (it is a crib/toddler bed/full size bed) but we are using a co-sleeper until I am comfortable enough to bring her into our bed.<br><br>
I just registered for a simmons crib mattress. I hardly have anything yet as it is, so ordering online for a mattress was just too much.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I'm buying one for the nursery to transition too. (it is a crib/toddler bed/full size bed) but we are using a co-sleeper until I am comfortable enough to bring her into our bed.<br><br>
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We registered for a mattress too. Dang, some of them are pricey! But I definitely want to get a good one. We also have a convertible crib (a hand-me-down) so we should be all set for a few years.
 

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I am borrowing a cosleeper from a friend.. after that we will prob use a crib either in our rm or DS2's rm or seperate rm.. I ahve the crib from evan and my sis gave me the organic mattress she used for her DD (now 3) I think it is a Lifekind one.. she also has a bassinette mattress from same company but it won't fit in cosleeper, she also has a moses basket organic pad but we don't have the actual basket!! (I think I will have to hunt one up tho)<br><br>
Dh is not at all comfortable cosleeping.. Evan REFUSED to cosleep (with his ASD touching was a HUGE issue, even as a NB) anyway, we will see how this one is personality wise..<br><br>
how families sleep is a personal decision and I respect all 9reasonable!) choices.. I mean letting the baby sleep unattended in a closed car. ummm NO but you get the idea!
 

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As I said, I won't be buying a crib. I don't think I will need it, but I never say never!<br><br>
I have assumed the baby cradle may be used heavily for the first couple of months if I worry about baby in between us or if baby really needs some space. We will go from there. By then babe should be in with us full time, or I may need to find a bigger bed than the cradle before baby sits/pulls up.<br><br>
Each kid is so different! And I have to have to have to take my husband into consideration here. If he's having major trouble sleeping, I need to keep the baby out of the bed until something changes.<br><br>
Hubby has such bad allergies and sleep apnea, and sometimes a hard time getting back to sleep. If he's going thru sleep apnea, he needs all the restful sleep he can get. I am worried about his long drives on the freeway, etc.<br><br>
So i am going to play it by ear and assume we will co-sleep, but if it doesn't work, so be it. Babe has me to snuggle all day.
 

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Just leave all your options open at this point. You don't yet know what will work best for you and the new personality that will be joining you! We also sleep with a lot of pillows and dh is not totally comfortable co-sleeping through the night (lightly snoozing in the morning is a different story) So I ended up with the co-sleeper attached to our bed and no pillows between me and the baby and co-sleeper. All the pillows were on the other side of me (except the one I keep between my knees which is not a problem anyway).<br><br>
As long as the way you are sleeping is safe for the baby and you are all actually sleeping, it will be a good solution for your family. Don't let anyone make you feel guilty for not doing things the way *they* think is best!<br><br>
As far as mattresses, I'd love to have organic mattresses for the whole family, but that's just not happening financially...so buy one asap and let it offgas or get a good quality one already used. Or, if your budget can handle the organic/latex etc more power to you, but I have no idea which is best <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:
 

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Well, I'm HOPING to use the crib at least for naps and hopefully I'll have a kid that sleeps thru the night at 8 weeks and likes their crib <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> Believe it or not that DID happen with my first daughter.. I didn't know how nice we had it. My 22 month old still wakes up and crawls in bed with us around 3 am <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">:
 

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Pixie, DD was like that. No CIO, slept through the night at a month in her own crib. She was a dream baby when it came to that stuff...<br><br>
Maisie, I just had to <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> because I have pics of each of my kids sleeping in drawers when they were tiny. Both were on random occasions when visiting someone and just needing a safe small place. We used a firm pillow in place of a mattress and swaddled em each nicely. They are dang cute pics <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 
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