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during the weekdays???<br><br>
Please tell me I'm not alone!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
My DH absolutely thinks I'm a wasting my time when I spend countless hours browsing the internet, reading forums during the weekdays SAH. I will admit I am getting MUCH better though, I used to be ADDICTED to another smaller crunchy mama site (cloth diaper related) where I would literally leave the computer on ALL day & be on/off with posting ALL day long <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/blush.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="blush"> - I was addicted & couldn't stop.. the minute we got home from an errand, I had to check the boards, it moved so fast & I had to see what was going on with everyone. Like I said, I am WAY better now since I quit my addiction board cold turkey & I'm better with time management now..<br><br>
Anyhow, it bugs my DH nonetheless to know that I am the computer while he is at work making things possible for our family.<br><br>
J/W if any other SAHM's hubbys feel similar.
 

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No! He doesn't care. That is so petty. You need a break every once in a while. He doesn't work for 24 hours a day.
 

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Mine doesn't care because he has his own "forum" that he checks and posts on. So if anything, I get annoyed with him because *I* want to get online to see MDC, the Onion, and the news! Plus email of course.
 

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during the weekdays???<br><br>
I used to be ADDICTED to another smaller crunchy mama site (cloth diaper related) where I would literally leave the computer on ALL day & be on/off with posting ALL day long <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/blush.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="blush"> QUOTE]<br><br>
Uh oh, that counts as addictio huh? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/bag.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Bag">:
 

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I see you've met my dh.<br><br>
I have cut back lately, because I realized that the computer time was affecting how much I got done around here. So as long as all our homeschooling and housework gets done, I don't worry about it.
 

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I'll give up MDC when he gives up World of Warcraft. Or maybe I'll just tell him that <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I have been threatened with getting rid of the computer. I said FINE, as long as you know that the TV and all DVDs will disappear right after it.<br><br>
I use the computer to take online classes, work part time and it is my only source of "adult" conversation at this time. I also let him know that when he makes enough money where I don't have to work, then we can get rid of the computer.
 

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I'm on myself about it way more then DH is. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">:
 

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My dh doesn't complain about the time on the weekdays. If I let myself on too much during evenings and weekends, then he complains. He sees that as family time, and he says that he misses me. Awwwww...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Heh. Mine can take issue with it, when he deletes all his online video game accounts.</div>
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My DH just deleted his WOW account. He played for a while when it was new and he was unemployed, but then got bored and deleted his account. That was ages ago. Then, about 2 months ago I was reading to him some posts from a MDC thread where women were complaining about their husbands playing WOW too much. It inspired him to try it again. After 2 months, he got bored again. When he deleted it a few days ago, he apologised to me for having been playing it. I just shrugged. It didn't bother me. The last thing I want to do at this point is spend the evening entertaining him, when he is perfectly capable of finding his own way to relax and pass the time pleasantly.<br><br>
He DOES play non-online games a lot in the evening, but we have no children yet that need attention. He has no trouble with not playing if he has something else to do, or with stopping to help me with something. If he has a book he wants to read, he will read that in the evening and not even look at the computer. If the weather is nice, he will go out in the yard or for a walk. He doesn't seem addicted to me.<br><br>
He doesn't mind that I spend a lot of time on the internet, but he understands that I am researching, and that it is natural for mothers to have a network of other mothers that help and advise each other. Also, I get my housework done most of the time (unless I don't feel well). I was very glad to get this laptop so that during the bad fatigue time in the first trimester I was able to read MDC. Before we got it, I couldn't do much more than lay on the couch and watch TV for several hours each day. This is much more constructive.<br><br>
His computer is about 3 feet away from the couch. So, while I lay on the couch with the laptop, we are only 3 feet apart and back to back. We spend the whole time talking to each other, and show each other things all the time. (Even when we go to bed we can find ourselves talking for 2 hours, so I guess we like to interact with each other.)
 

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my dh doesn't get it, asks what i'm doing. Uh taking 10 minutes for myself, researching kid products, shopping since I don't go out to shop w/ the kids.
 

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Only when I get excited about some CRAZY idea on MDC!!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
He spends more time on Myspace and talking to his friends, I'm usually the one complaining.<br><br>
We've both gotten better, though.
 

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Mine doesn't so much complain, but I know he gets irritated if he sees me spending a lot of time on the computer. The truth is, we both know the computer can be a real time waster, and I think the reason he doesn't say anything to me is that he knows that even if he starts out "working" on the internet, he inevitably will spend several hours just surfing. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">
 

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Well, he's right--it IS a waste of time. That's why I tell mine I'm "doing schoolwork" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> DH doesn't really seem to care anyway.
 

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I think it only bothers my dh if i'm on the computer when he's home. It did bother him to some extent when i was seriously slacking on my house work, but now i just make sure i get the house work done in my free time before i get on the computer. as long as the kids are happy and the house isnt a disaster, i don't think he cares one way or the other what i do while he's working.<br><br>
(ps- i wondered what had happened to you. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> i can't keep up over there, i just noticed you were gone!)
 

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My DH doesn't care one way or another--if anything, it's me asking him to get off so I can surf. What w/ the draft going on he wants to check every 5 minutes. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
I'm a little surprised at some of the replies where the DH cares if the housework isn't done. What, is he your boss or something? I would be more irritated by that than by anything else.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I'm a little surprised at some of the replies where the DH cares if the housework isn't done. What, is he your boss or something? I would be more irritated by that than by anything else.</div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/yeahthat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="yeah that">: I had the same thought.<br><br>
This thread kinda made me chuckle. I have been very, very sick for many months now. I had surgery with major complications almost two weeks ago and am not allowed to lift anything heavier than two pounds (which means that I can't pour the milk if it's not less than half full!), can't drive, can't be upright more than a few minutes at a time, need a babysitter to shower because my blood pressure is so low and I pass out easily, etc. So I'm mostly helpless, though I'm at the point (thank God!) that I can be home alone and be safe to at least get myself to and from the bathroom and make my own toast and jell-o.<br><br>
Anyway, so I've been living on my couch forever. And it gets boring. I never had bedrest during any of my pregnancies, but now I have a new respect for women who suffer through that. So every morning, after my mom comes over to get youngest DS ready for school, DH sets me up with a bed on the couch w/ tons of pillows and stocks the coffee table up with the phone, the remotes for the TV, cable box, and DVD player, a stack of movies, the books I'm reading, any magazines that my family or friends have dropped off lately, my son's PSP (DH bought me Sims 2), and the laptop (w/ wireless internet). He puts a box of tissues on the back of the couch, a little wastebasket next to me, lines up all my medicine, fills my water bottle, opens the back door and gives me the puppy treats so I can keep the dogs happy from my spot. He stops at the grocery after work almost every day to keep me all stocked up on the things that my frequently-nauseous tummy can tolerate.<br><br>
So no, I'd have to say that my DH does not mind my being on the computer! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> This crap has made me bugshit crazy several times over, and my DH hasn't exactly been perfect, but he has made a huge effort to keep me entertained! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
Who knows? Maybe I'll come out of this whole mess, and FINALLY be a senior member!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I'm a little surprised at some of the replies where the DH cares if the housework isn't done. What, is he your boss or something? I would be more irritated by that than by anything else.</div>
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i think it's only reasonable to clean up after myself and my kids throughout the day. i know i would be irritated if i came home to a disaster. i try to treat him like i would like to be treated, and i know he does the same for me.
 

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Dh likes a clean house, but he also likes a (semi) sane wife. 95% of my socializing takes place online. He hasn't bothered me about it much recently, as he has figured out just how much time dd spends nursing/napping attached, and that is when I am on the computer.
 
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