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I am so nervous to tell DP. I already know he did not want another baby right now. I understand why he did not, technically I agree with his reasons. But I of course am happy to welcome another lovey into our family, and figure out how to make it work.<br><br>
I guess he will come around eventually, he doesn't really have a choice I think. But...I'm anticipating him being VERY unhappy. Any suggestions on how to tell him to lessen the impact/deal with the aftermath?
 

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I'm nervous also. My husband wanted to wait another year or two to start our family, and this pregnancy is a suprise. I have no idea how he is going to react but I hope he's not too upset. We will see tomorrow when I tell him I guess!
 

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Hi, fellow nurse?<br><br>
How do you plan to tell him, just come straight out and do it? Over the phone, send a picture of the test by text msg <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> That is what I did the last time I was pregnant, he responded what is that? So I had to walk down the hall and explain it to him <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll">
 

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I have not told DH and I'm not sure when I will. His degree of being upset will probably be influenced by the gender... I know he would love a baby boy. But, we were not TTC and in fact were TTA.
 

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Yes I am a fellow nurse!<br><br>
I plan to wait a while after he gets home from work and then show him the tests. This was completely a suprise so I know it will take him some time. I'm just hoping for the best!
 

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Wugh. I'm sorry ya'll are nervous to tell. No real ways to soften the blow. Babies are blessings and they will eventually come around.
 

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If he is mad at you, then that is totally stupid, because last time I checked, it takes TWO to tango. It's not like you were running around the house chasing him with a turkey baster...unless you were. You could gently or not-so-gently remind him of that if he starts throwing a man-fit.
 

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Ours was also a surprise. We dtd 5 days prior to my ovulation, so we knew it was technically possible, but we thought we were still pretty safe. DH is unemployed and we're trying to plan a move oversees, so we were actively avoiding for now.<br><br>
I told DH like this:<br><br>
Me: "I have something to tell you. I took a pregnancy test this morning..." Him: "and..?" Me, nodding: "It's positive." He just laughed, rolled his eyes and said "congrats!"<br><br>
I told him I was so happy he laughed instead of scowled. He said that it was no use being upset. We weren't going to do anything to change the fact. Plus, we wanted another one eventually... Turns out it's been amazingly motivating for him. Suddenly he's job searching with a vigor I hadn't seen previously. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br>
Good luck. Just be straightforward and honest. It will all work out.
 

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Thanks for the replies <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
I don't know that I expect him to be angry with me per se, but just angry in general, or at himself. Dealing with a grumpy man in the house for the next week or so is not pleasant, so I want to make sure AF isn't going to show up late, before I subject myself to that!<br><br>
And I'm still getting light lines/negative digitals, so I want to wait till I feel more secure in this pregnancy before sharing. I'm thinking tomorrow or thursday at the latest...
 

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Yeah I don't think my husband will be upset with me, I think he'll be upset about the situation. I got faint lines again this morning so I'm going to wait and see what happens also.
 

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I am defintely the one that is more worried than my DH. He is way more calm about this than I am.
 

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Well I told him today <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> now that THAT'S out of the way, I'm just settling in to wait for the tension to dissipate, so I can get comfortable with my new lovey.
 

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I am guessing it didn't go too well? Hopefully he'll come around soon. (((hugs)))
 
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