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i'm not a large pregnant woman. for the most part, i've kept my pre-pregnancy shape, with the exception of larger breasts
lately, i've been getting some comments about it. one person said to me today, "how DARE you be THAT far along and still so small?"
also i feel like people expect me to *feel* this small... like they think that because i don't look huge then i can do more ~ go quickly, carry more, etc. in the grocery store recently i had my three large cloth bags, which the bagger filled with all of my groceries and left on the counter... while i was paying, i didn't realize that she took my shopping cart, which i was relying on to carry my bags for me, kwim? so after i paid i thanked the cashier, grabbed the bags and swung them around to set them in the cart ~ to realize that the cart was gone. i had to drop them on the floor because i couldn't keep on holding them all at once. the checker asked if i needed some help and i said, "i WOULDN'T except that she TOOK MY CART." (i was pretty mad.) she apologized and found someone else to bring me a cart and take my groceries out for me... but come ON.
i am getting less sympathy than the giant pregnant women i see. some people don't even notice i'm pregnant. one person who works at the local general store keeps bugging me about when i'm going back to college. he was asking me today (again!) if i'll be going back to college during the summer session ~ i had to finally rub my belly and say, "actually i'll be pretty busy taking care of the new baby," and he glanced down and was like, "oh, oh yeah, so, when are you due?" and so i told him and he *finally* dropped it.
i hate that people don't realize that even though i look small, i am still carrying around 20 or so extra pounds of weight all in my belly and breasts, and that's not comfortable! it's not easy work! i'm nine months pregnant and sure i may *look* "good" most days but just because my face isn't puffy and my feet aren't swollen (heck i don't know, what's a pregnant woman "supposed" to look like??) doesn't mean i don't still get tired easily, feel fatigued most of the time, and just generally feel every single inch of bigness that has been added to my form. my abdominal muscles still get sore all the time. i'm short of breath just going up my stairs. i can't sleep. when i sleep it's in short bursts. i've had to start napping every afternoon because i can't sleep at night at all. as soon as i go to the bathroom i have to go again.
i mean, i love being pregnant but that doesn't make it a walk in the park 24/7, no matter *what* size you are. why don't people get that?