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Just curious. My working is the main reason people (my ex, my mom) keep telling me I wont be able to homeschool my 15 year old. Let me say that my fil is home all day so ds will be home, with access to all his books, computer, etc. And Im home friday, sat and sun. Plus generally home by 4pm, and left to his own devices, he wont get up til noon anyway.<br><br>
I think I can do it. Dd and ds2 seem to be learning just fine. I also think he can do lots of self directed stuff, another thing that everyone (my ex, my mom) think is a bad idea, since he isnt "responsible" (based on him getting behind in school, which is actually from some abscences, he's always been an a/b student). Oh, and not keeping his room clean, such an irresponsible child!<br><br>
Just like to hear some prespectives if anyone else has ever woh and homeschooled a highschooler (or any age for that matter!)<br><br>
Thanks!
 

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I think you can do it. My almost-eleven-year-old does a lot of self-directed stuff, and consults me as necessary. If I couldn't bring him with me to work but had someone to look after him, I'd definitely continue to hs.
 

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Fifteen seems like plenty old to me to be able to accomplish self-directed learning. I don't have a 15 year old, but I remember thinking often when I was 15 (and in highschool) that I could learn SO much more if I could just read books at home instead of sit in school all day.<br><br>
Regarding keeping his room clean, who knows, maybe if you show him you think he is responsible by letting him do most of his learning on his own, he will start being more responsible!<br><br>
Does your son <i>want</i> to be homeschooled? If he really has the desire to learn, then I definitely think you can do it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Oh yes. Ds has wanted to be homeschooled ever since he was about ten and found out that it was possible. He had a friend who was homeschooled and he BEGGED me to hs him. Problem at the time was that I was a single mom with a full time job and nowhere for him to be all day. Plus the only way I could conceptuilized hs back then was the sitting at the kitchen table with the textbooks and basically imitating school. Now I know there are so many approaches plus I have someone at home for him to be with while I work now and I just really think it will work. Also, at the moment his father (my ex) isnt working and is living with his parents while his father is fighting cancer. I know ds can learn there just as well as here and his schedule would allow him MUCH more time to spend there right now because time with his grandfather seems like the important thing to me right now. Wish I'd had more time with mine.<br><br>
Besides, ds learns A LOT on his own already. Hes become a vegateraian and he's always coming to tell me, "Did you know...." and I didnt! He's learning a lot about health, nutrition and biology right now between that and his guinea pigs he is raising and animal rights. So when motivated, you cant STOP him from learning, lol! Soon he'll be driving and can get himself to the library, half price books etc.
 

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Wow, your son sounds like a really terrific kid who has a healthy love of learning...not at all "irresponsible." You must be proud of him. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
I'm no expert, but from what you say I think he'd really flourish with homeschooling. He is already learning stuff without your help anyway! Why don't you give it a try for a month or two and see if it works?
 

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I work 25-35 hours a week and homeschool. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> My hubby works opposite shifts from me that way we don't have to worry about child care and others not understanding that to us, our children come first.<br><br>
On the days that I work late, dh radically unschools our children (who would have thought?! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> Especially since he is a "by the books" kind of guy) On the days that I am off early enough, I use a combination of units and unschooling. It works really well for us. The kids are more relaxed, DS gets to sleep in as late as he wants (which is good because his natural rhythm is a night owl) and I don't have to deal with any more calls from the school about my DS's interests, behaviors, or their rules.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Just curious. My working is the main reason people (my ex, my mom) keep telling me I wont be able to homeschool my 15 year old. Let me say that my fil is home all day so ds will be home, with access to all his books, computer, etc. And Im home friday, sat and sun. Plus generally home by 4pm, and left to his own devices, he wont get up til noon anyway.<br><br>
I think I can do it. Dd and ds2 seem to be learning just fine. I also think he can do lots of self directed stuff, another thing that everyone (my ex, my mom) think is a bad idea, since he isnt "responsible" (based on him getting behind in school, which is actually from some abscences, he's always been an a/b student). Oh, and not keeping his room clean, such an irresponsible child!<br><br>
Just like to hear some prespectives if anyone else has ever woh and homeschooled a highschooler (or any age for that matter!)<br><br>
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I think you can do it and I think you need support though. See if you can find a curricullum that will seem to coincide with your lifestyle and show your family members examples of how homeschooling really is and its benefits. Maybe show them some articles on the benefits of homeschooling and how colleges are now looking at homeschooling with prestige.
 

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Very surprisingly, my dh is all behind this! I was so nervous bringing it up to him. He and ds1 conflict some (being a step parent to a teen cant be easy, being a teen with a stepparent cant be easy) and I figured if my ex (ds1 dad) was blaming ds for problems in school, so would dh for sure. But no. He didnt like school either and he's very behind this. He continually reminds me of why I love him. My best friend is behind it as well. My mom is actually behind it with the younger kids, shes just worried about ds1.<br><br>
Yes, I am proud of ds! He has build a huge guinea pig cage in his room out of parts for shelves from bed, bath and beyond. Waffle shelves I think. He has done tremendous research on whats best for them and though it often drives me nuts (no, the little ones cant feed them crackers, they arent healthy, I have to drive a bit out of my way for the proper organic foods, they can only use certain materials for bedding and the cage must measure properly) I am really proud of how much he's learned, all the work he's done in caring for them and how dedicated and passionate he is about animal rights in general.<br><br>
We are withdrawing from school monday. I called them today to give them the heads up. Now that we are sure we are doing this, I just cant find a reason to wait. My ex really wants him to finish the semester but ds doesnt want to.
 

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Can we go back in time 15 years so you can be my mama? I would have been overjoyed. Yay for you and your son!
 

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I second that! I wish my mom had been as cool as you when I was in highschool! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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ok now, you guys are gonna make me cry! (which is easy to due these days thanks to pregnancy hormones!)
 
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