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Especially those that have had 2 or 3 kids already? I don't mean unhappy about it, but just kind of like, okay, I'm doing this again. cool. But not that anxious lump in my throat kind of excitement that I felt with my other 2 kids.<br><br><br>
I think part of my hesitation to be excited is that I am only 11 weeks and I have had a m/c before at 10 weeks, so I try not to get too attached until I know for sure. yk? And I haven't heard the HB, so I guess its just doing its thing in there. . .<br><br><br>
I was initally thrilled about being preggers, and then it sunk in and now I'm just kind of like, meh! I know the realistic timeline now, and the baby will be here sooner than later. There is actually very little time for preparations, IMO. Plus sometimes its a zoo around here with the 2 and I'm adding a third?? We were pretty much done having kids, etc. etc. It can feel overwhelming at times. I look at baby clothes and that doesn't even get me all baby gaw-gaw.<br><br>
Sorry, for the rant. . I just wonder whats going on with me about this <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">:<br><br>
Anyone else?
 

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Well, I'm not feeling on cloud 9 either. I occasionally have moments of pleasure but predominantly I'm just "meh". I AM excited about having the baby but it seems a long long way away & there is so much to cope with until then. I've just started a masters which I'm really struggling with, my parents have just separated, & this pregnancy was not planned. & at the moment DP & I are fighting. So yeah.<br><br>
I am very excited about my scan in three weeks time & seeing the bebe - hoping that that will cement more feelings of happiness than dread.
 

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Not alone. I've had way too many losses to ever feel that again, I think. The only emotion I've had thus far is some "Oh great, I have 3 wild kids already what on earth was I thinking?" moments. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/bag.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Bag">:<br><br>
Still though, I know that should it last long enough, I will be completely in love when he/she arrives.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/luxlove.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="throb">
 

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I have my moments, but even with only one child so far, it's hard to feel euphoric when I can hardly eat because I feel nauseous all day long and have my toddler to chase after! Combine that with a lack of sleep, and I'm just kind of "meh" about it. Heck, DH was even nice enough to clean the kitchen last night because I could hardly stand to even go in there...the tiniest little smells set me off. Hopefully I'll be feeling better in the next few weeks and will be able to feel a little more excited.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Well, I'm not feeling on cloud 9 either. I occasionally have moments of pleasure but predominantly I'm just "meh". I AM excited about having the baby but it seems a long long way away & there is so much to cope with until then. I've just started a masters which I'm really struggling with, my parents have just separated, & this pregnancy was not planned. & at the moment DP & I are fighting. So yeah.<br><br>
I am very excited about my scan in three weeks time & seeing the bebe - hoping that that will cement more feelings of happiness than dread.</div>
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Oh my god I could have written this post myself! (except for the "not planned part) I am in the midst of my first semester of grad school, and it is way more work than I had anticipated. My DP and I are fighting too, all the time actually, for lots of reasons. But mainly because she is starting a major home renovation and paying absolutely NO attention to me or this pregnancy. I know that sounds whiny and childish, but I had this vision of what pregnancy would be like, and it's not turning out that way so far.<br><br>
So I feel sad alot of the time, and I feel sort of jipped and dissappointed.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I am so sorry for the mamas who have had losses.<br><br><br>
I personally am right there with you. Not feeling all the butterly excitement. I think partly because I do have two kiddos who keep me so busy and it makes me nervous to think about having three.<br><br>
I know I will be more excited when I find out the sex and can name the baby. For me that is the turning point of the pregnancy. I know that's probably silly but for some reason it makes it all seem more real to me. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug">
 

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With DS, I spent every day daydreaming about him, reading my pregnancy journal, making lists of everything I'd need to buy...<br><br>
With #2, I'm lucky if I remember I'm pregnant, I'm so busy chasing after my lil toddler! I can't wait to start feel her kicking! That'll be a nice reminder!<br><br>
And yes, I will start to feel much better once the first trimester is over.... come on, Thanksgiving - you can't get here soon enough!!!
 

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I felt this way with my first pregnancy. I wish I had voiced it better with dh. I guess I've gotten more used to it each time and he has gotten a bit more responsive.<br><br>
Can you pamper yourself? A yoga class helped me. Maybe a pregnancy massage. Something that acknowledges: I'm working hard here inside, I need some special support.<br><br>
Maybe she's focused on the renovation as her way to be preparing as hard as you are?<br><br>
OP: I do relate. How are we all going to fit in our tiny house? But I wanted this one a lot, but there are mixed emotions going on.
 

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I felt this way with my first pregnancy. I wish I had voiced it better with dh. I guess I've gotten more used to it each time and he has gotten a bit more responsive.<br><br>
Can you pamper yourself? A yoga class helped me. Maybe a pregnancy massage. Something that acknowledges: I'm working hard here inside, I need some special support.<br><br>
Maybe she's focused on the renovation as her way to be preparing as hard as you are?<br><br>
OP: I do relate. How are we all going to fit in our tiny house? But I wanted this one a lot, but there are mixed emotions going on.</div>
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I am definitely trying to pamper myself and be really nice and attentive to myself. I guess I pictured her whispering to my stomach and being all over me. Rubbing my belly and making me dinner every night. But instead I'm getting less attention than I used to and she is less tolerant of my "moodiness" than she usually is. So we fight alot. And I still make dinner most nights.<br><br>
I feel like such a crybaby. And sorry to the OP for hijacking your thread! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">
 

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Oh thank you all so much. Phew! glad to know I'm not alone. I was starting to think there was something wrong with me for not being <i>that</i> excited. Thanks for all the support and understanding and allowing me to be honest with out judgement. I feel that these sort of feelings are not shared during pregnancy; like everyone is always SUPER excited about having another baby, etc.etc. I feel better knowing that its not just me. I feel that so much is and also isn't going to change with this baby.
 

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I get excited sometimes, when I think about how cool it'll be to see my babes playing together, but honestly I'm scared shitless right now. Sometimes I dont feel I can handle DS and I think wow what am I going to do with two?!?! But I am really excited to be able to BF this baby for a long time and if its a girl, buying pink diapers <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
I think its different when you have another baby too. Between being sick and chasing Crazy Head I have very little time to reflect.<br><br>
Also I lost a baby at 8 weeks and so I'm very cautious even though I probably shoudnt be. Its just one of those things thats hard to get over.
 

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I totally relate. I have 2 other kids and you're right, with them I was sooooo super excited the entire time. This time, I think I'm just mommy burned out....lol. I have my excited moments.....like today when I was watching A Baby Story. But most of the time I'm so busy caring for my other two and watching the 2 boys that I watch in my home that I'm burnt out and kind of feel like "Eh, whatever"...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I'm not . . . but I'm also very relaxed about it, which I think is a good thing <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Oh Mamas...<br><br>
I feel really off today <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">: It took me 2 weeks to accept that I am pregnant again and I still have really really bad days...<br><br>
Please understand we really really wanted 2 children, but It took me soooo long to keep a baby to term that the plan was to really take the time to enjoy this baby... I feel like a very bad mommy for getting pregnant so soon after his birth... I feel like it is so unfair to him... He deserves a mommy who is not tired and grumpy... I will say that now at 13 weeks I am less tired/grumpy, but still!!!<br><br>
Perrin will only be around 10.5 months old when this baby is born.... How am I going to do this, I am still getting used to being a mommy!!!<br><br>
Sorry for the novel....<br><br>
~Steph
 

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This is my first, and I still don't feel like that. It's weird because I've wanted this since I was 8 years old, but even after an ultrasound and a moving heart-beating fetus on the screen, I don't really believe it. And I hate feeling sick. Maybe the 2nd trimester will bring some of that "cloud 9" feeling, but I haven't felt any yet.<br><br>
My partner, however, who hadn't even decided if she wanted to be a parent until shortly before we started trying, is ecstatic, joyful, dancing around the living room. So are my parents, and her mom. I'm like "okey dokey, that's cool...."
 
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