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I feel like a total FREAK (what else is new?) on my mainstream DDC..... it seems like every last baby has a name.<br><br>
We plan to have some sort of list of a bunch of names we like, but we aren't giving the baby a name until we have met him/her. Anyone else, or am I just a total odd ball?
 

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I'm with you on that.<br><br>
It seems a little weird to name a baby that is on the inside to me (sorry moms, just the way I feel, it's not meant as a judgment). With DD I felt so much like we were the same person while she was inside, KWIM? I also don't like to start to imagine what the baby is going to be in anyway. I like to let the baby tell me who she/he is instead. It helps me be more open to things as a parent. (Yes, I know this sounds a little kooky. The mothering experience has definitely opened me up to some kookiness <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">. )<br><br>
DH and I play the name game up to the end but don't really pick one until we meet the little one.
 

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See, what's even wierder is that both of my children were named WELL before birth (DD was named before conception!)<br><br>
I guess I've gotten more crunchy <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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Well, with my first baby, the name I liked best during pregnancy was the one we ended up using, and we saw that it really did fit him after he was born.<br>
With baby # 2, I was so sure I wanted to name her Iris if it was a girl, but then she came out and was not an Iris at all.<br>
#3 was the hardest, and ended up being named something that DH had nixed the first time around.
 

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<span style="color:#808080;">We're going to have a short list of names. We may have a favourite or two, but won't 'decide' until they baby is born.</span>
 

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I think your choice to wait is wonderful!! I know a few friends that have done this and were really happy they did.<br><br>
I grew up with a family who named their son "Patrick" but always really felt he was a Joeseph/Joey. We grew up calling him Joey. It wasn't until we went to school and everyone on our school bus was calling him Pat that I even knew he wasn't Joey. It seems like they might have benefitted from waiting.<br><br>
One reason I like to come up with names beforehand, is that the name is not only who the baby is, but b/c meanings are so important to me, I like to think of my kids' names as a wish or hope for their future, based on the meanings.
 

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We have worked on some lists but have no final decisions and I doubt we will until s/he is here. Of course, not finding out the gender helps when people start asking! But we won't share our options, either, until we know the baby. I have a <i>strong</i> feeling of whom this baby is, but I know that it's always possible to be wrong! (Done that before! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">) So we'll wait and see who this little one is and then declare a name. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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For me, only one name has seemed to fit so that is what we use. For us it just connected earlier. I guess if it really didnt seem to fit after birth, I would consider changing.<br><br>
My old boss (who is pretty mainstream) didnt name either of her children until after they were born. With her first son, she was actually getting in trouble because she was ready to be released from the hospital and she still hadnt chosen a name...they needed the paperwork filled out<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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There are others indeed. I waiting on my #1 and I'm glad I did. THe way the name came was magical and a nice little story for her too someday. So, we're waiting again, but then again, we won't know the gender anyhow to actually choose a name definatively.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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We won't name till we see. We'll have a minimum of 2 boy names and 2 girl names picked (not finding out gender either).<br>
FWIW, with my son we found out he was a boy and picked out a name before the third tri & that was that.
 

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We'll have a short list (I hope - it's not looking too promising at this point) but the name won't be definite until after she's born. We definitely won't announce her name until after she's born.
 

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We have a couple of names we like but we can't seem to settle on anything and I've come to realize we will prob. not know her name until we see her sweet face. I always thought that was strange when ppl did that, and now I understand it and am one of those ppl. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">:
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I always thought that was strange when ppl did that, and now I understand it and am one of those ppl. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">:</div>
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Boy if I had a quarter for every time I've said that in the past 2-3 years I'd be a rich woman.
 

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With dd we had her name picked out to honor my grandmothers and saved the middle name for after we met, thinking we would have some experience during labor/birth that would guide us... well, it didn't. We couldn't come up w/one and after the records dep't made repeat trips to see us "Bee" just came out of the ether. I'm so glad we didn't have the middle name picked out because Bee really suits our dd's personality.<br>
This time we'll have a list but won't make the final decision until after we meet her.
 

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we usually end up with a list of girls names and a list of boys names, but the babe isn't actually named until after birth and even then we've changed it once or twice before the paperwork was filled out.<br><br>
this time around i feel that naming this babe will be close to impossible. all of our children have names that suit them SOOOO well. i just hope we can find one that we agree on and suits our child to a T. because, right now, NOTHING sounds good NOTHING at all!!!!!
 

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I'm not sure what's going to happen. We haven't even really discussed names and we won't be finding out the sex, so I guess we might pick out a few for each gender and decide after the baby is born. Who knows? I'm feeling less pressure to pick out a name this time around. With DS, I felt like I had to have everything (and I mean EVERYTHING) in order before he was born, but with this one, I'm just like, "meh". Whatever happens, happens. I do have a few names in my head, but nothing me and DH have chosen together. You're not a freak though! I think in a lot of ways, it's good to wait until the baby is born to make sure the name fits the baby.
 

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Like others have said, we will probably have a short list and then decide after baby arrives. With Dacey, we had it down to our top three, and then a few minutes after she was born, we decided on Dacey!<br><br>
I don't know, though . . . it might be fun to decide beforehand this time. We'll see!
 

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Don't feel like a freak! We are waiting, too. With our daughter, we had her home for THREE WEEKS before we could decide on a name. I understand that in the US they won't let you leave the hospital until you have decided on a name. Is that true?<br><br>
Anyway, our plan this time is that we will both bring a short list to the hospital and decide hopefully then and there after the birth. We don't want to know the sex either...I'll need some kind of incentive to get through the birth! There is no better surprise in the world, and I just won't ever understand wanting to know that beforehand. Well, to each his own I suppose.
 
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