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I don't know about you, but I have suggestive pain whenever I see a piercing, even when someone just mentions it. I have a real problem with people doing it to babies. Does anyone else have a problem with this? I can't help cringing when a see a baby girl with earrings, and when someone says they're going to pierce their little girl's ears, I want to cry! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/mecry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="crying"><br><br>
Is anyone else bothered by the practice of puncturing part of a baby's body for cosmetic or cultural reasons?
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> Yes, it makes me sad, too. I hate hearing babies cry at the mall or wherever because they are getting their ears pierced. I always thought my dd was beautiful just the way she was (is).
 

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No piercings here.<br><br>
Hmmm, maybe her nose though <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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I didn't. I figure that when she's older, she can decide for herself. My arents pierced my ears when i was a year old. I don't remember, of course but I think that's too young. It's her body. Her choice.
 

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another mama for her body, her choice.<br>
when and if she decides to pierce anything, we only have 3 stipulations:<br>
1. she must be old enough to care for them. i'm thinking at least 6 y.o.<br>
2. she will be pierced by a reputable piercer, not at a mall.<br>
3. everything must be above the neck while under 18. dh is freaked by the idea she might pierce her nipples or something else; he's no against any piercing, he just doesn't want to think of his baby having "sexual" piercings. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hola.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hola">:<br><br>
i'm not, for the same reason i didn't circ. my son: it's not my body, therefore, it's not my choice.<br><br>
i want my children to understand that their bodies are their temples and only they have a say over what happens to any part of it.
 

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I'm with you!<br><br>
My step mom gave dd a pair of ruby earings for Christmas (5 months old!!!) I told her thank you and they would be safe until dd was old enough to "take care" of them.<br><br>
I grew up with people always piercing thier baby's ears and putting those riduculous garter belt looking things around thier heads. I swore that wouldnt be me!
 

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I agree, peircing should be her own choice and I consider it a more "grownup" sort of modification anyway.<br><br>
My daughters will be allowed to get their ears pierced when they are 12 if they choose to do so.<br><br>
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Mine were pierced when I was 3 mos. old. Now, they're all crooked and unusable, anyway. So, bravo to you for not saddling dd with useless damage.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">I'm with you!<br>
I grew up with people always piercing thier baby's ears and putting those riduculous garter belt looking things around thier heads. I swore that wouldnt be me!</div>
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What <i>is</i> the deal with the garter belts? What are they supposed to do?
 

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I agree! But another thing to think about is the fact that "gun" peircings at malls are VERY unsafe. They can't sterilize the gun part of it. They can replace the tips but nothig else is clean. and they are very dull. If a piercer does it, the needles are extremely sharp and therefore hurt less. And the quality of the jewelry is horrible. I could go on and on about the safety issues, not to mention putting your child in pain on purpose just so they look cute.<br>
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Louise: <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/nod.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nod"> and if you take the child in to an actual piercing / body art shop to have their ears done, most responsible piercers will refuse to do the piercing.<br><br>
i personally don't mind the headband stuff, or any other sort of adornment that doesn't involve cutting or poking holes in the child. it's when body modification is involved that i get upset.
 

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If we ever have a DD, she will not have her ears pierced as a babe. However, I vaguely remember reading something somewhere about piercing baby girls' ears as part of a ritual (does ANYone know what I'm talking about here?).<br><br>
To me, that is completely different from piercing so she'll look "cute". Whatever I read portrayed the piercing as being spiritual. Dang, I wish I could remember more about it! It was years ago, though, so I doubt I'll come up w/ any more info.<br><br><br>
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I will not pierce my dd's ears, either! She is 9 mo.s old and I have had family ask me about it already. I refuse to do it, think it's horrible to see little ones with holes in their ears. It will be her choice once she's old enough (and responsible enough) to decide on her own. I haven't figured out what age that will be yet, guess I'll figure it out when she gets there. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> I think it's awesome there are other mothers- like all of you guys- who agree with my outlook on the matter, was beginning to think I was the only one!! LOL
 

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Neither one of my daughters has pierced ears and they are (almost) 20 months and 5.5 months. I can try to understand piercing for cultural reasons, but for the cuteness factor -- blech. I have a friend who seemed to want my permission to pierce her dd's ears and when I told her my views, she got a bit offended. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"><br><br>
One thing I don't get is when people pierce the baby's ears "so they don't look like a boy". I suppose my youngest looks like a boy, but geez, she's a baby who usually has a ton of pink on! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> I *so* wouldn't pierce her ears just because I want other people to recognize her as a girl.
 

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Just chiming in here with agreement. They're not my ears!<br><br>
My mom had my ears pierced when I was 5. It really hurt! Turns out, my ears are very sensitive, and I don't wear earrings anyway.<br><br>
And the holes never really closed up.<br><br><br>
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I'd never have my infant's ears pierced, and the idea really bothers me too. Seeing baby girls with earrings looks really bizarre to me, in the same way that putting lipstick or mascara on them would. Not cute at all, IMO.
 

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Definitely won't be piercing dd's ears. I can't imagine doing that to a baby ~ it hurt when I got mine done by choice. Maybe when she's twelve or thirteen if she wants it but not as a small child. I hate walking past those places while little girls are getting it done and they look just terrified while their parents are laughing at their reaction.
 

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We will have no piercings before their time...and that time is when dd can make that decision, keep track of her earrings and take care of her piercings...I am thinking 10 or 12 years old... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 
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