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And does it stress you out as much as it does me??<br><br>
I'm only 26 weeks pg <note to self: change siggy> but we've known what we're having since 18 weeks and I wanted to name the baby BEFORE we even knew what we were having so being 8 weeks out from our u/s, I am really REALLY wanting this child NAMED.<br><br>
So what's the hold up, huh?? I'll give you ONE GUESS.<br><br>
Yep, that's right, DH!! He's the major malfunction here and it's very upsetting to me because usually he's very "whatever you think" but he's been adamant about all his 'restrictions' when it comes to naming... Of course, I try to give him suggestions but he just shoots me down... if it's not too 'crazy', it'll be hard to spell, hard to read, etc etc etc etc etc etc, it goes on forever...<br><br>
So, what do I try to do but come up with a decent, simple, cute name that I could live with. Doesn't get more simple than Luke <not to mention, this is what the CHILD wants to be named, he told me so!>, yet he doesn't want to name the baby that!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: WTF Man?<br><br>
Is anyone else stressed out over this? I am trying *really hard* to keep my cool and not act like a complete brat about naming the baby but it's getting really *r*e*a*l*l*y* hard!!!!<br><br>
Help?!<br><br>
Alayna
 

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no name (few ideas, only one or two we both kinda "agree" are OK)...not stressed @ 37 wks<br>
plan on going in with a list of names and hashing it out after meeting him
 

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similar deal here at 21 w. dh isn't "ready" tp participate in naming discussions. so he hears my suggestions and shoots some down. he has even shot down several of his own suggestions!! i used to be very upset about it -- now i just tell myself that the babe is named whatever my favorite name is that he has not shot down! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">
 

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Perhaps you could suggest to Dh that if the name is so important to him, maybe he could take a few minutes to sit down and make a list of names that he would like. If he's willing, there just might be a name on that list that you would like as well, but even if not, his list might help give you ideas for names along the lines of what he's thinking that would be to both your liking. Just a thought. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> to you mama! So sorry this is causing you stress!
 

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Oh do I hear u. I am currently 23 wp but found out 2 weeks ago it is a boy. We couldn't agree on a name for a girl but I thought the boy's name was squared away, little did I know dh would change his mind about that too. I am done, I am having the baby so IIIIIIII am naming him! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: I agree with u, I was totaly steressed and had names picked before I was even prego!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> Good Luck
 

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Different but related scenario:<br><br>
Once we found out #2 is a boy, I brought up the naming discussion (really to make sure that DH didn't want to name the boy after his father, who passed away in December ... he doesn't).<br><br>
So, I said, should we recycle some of the names that we had thought about when I was pg with DD. He said, hmmm, like what.<br><br>
I said, well, we had considered Teagan. He said no. I said we had considered ***, and he said YES!. I haven't even been able to get him to consider another name, he is SET on that one. Which is fine, because we both do like it ... but, husbands are funny about naming babies!
 

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I am 40wk 3days and we still don't have names. And we sort of need 2, since we don't know what we're having. I am really not stressed about it though. It took us 2 weeks after the birth to name our last baby.
 

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No name yet.<br><br>
I'm 41w.<br><br>
I want to see the little person, bond and interact before deciding.<br><br>
And I guess I'm the hold up in our situation. We had a name, and then I said I wanted more options, wanted to see it, etc. I keep waiting for the baby to tell me what it wants to be named.
 

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I didn't 'name' DS until I met him - and we waited two days to get to know him.<br>
We had lists - and would talk about the names, I made sure never to take it personally when he didnt like a name. Just as I wouldnt want him to take it personally when I didn't like one of his suggestions.<br><br>
It was really important to me, to Know DS, and his personality, what he looked like. (Came out with black hair, naming him a very Swedish name, probably wouldn't have fit. etc.)<br><br><br>
I wouldn't stress about it. You'll find something.<br>
Don't Settle - and dont let him.
 

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We're 28 weeks, and haven't discussed names since the first 8 weeks. We didn't come up with anything then, and aren't worried about it now. We want to spend some time with the little bugger first- and see who it wants to be...
 

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I'm 33 weeks and we don't have any names picked at all. I'm not worried though, I like to have a short list of names when it comes to the birth so that we can choose the one that fits the babe. The hard thing this time is that I have so girls' names that I like, but almost no boys' names. I have some work to do on that side -- good thing I have about 7 weeks!
 

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We did it very systematically.<br><br>
We decided what characteristics were unacceptable to either of us, and which characteristics were necessary. Then, we made the most inclusive list possible that fit those characteristics, and slowly whittled it down.<br><br>
Then, when we got to about 10 names, i made a chart that listed in the first column the names, in the second possible nick names, and a third for the meanings of the name. Then I had both of us rank them 1-10 for how we liked the sound of the name, the sound of the nicknames, and the meaning of the name. Then, I added the 6 numbers (3 from each of us) to see which one we ranked with the lowest number.<br><br>
Then, we called him that name for a while to see how it felt. It felt right. If it had felt bad, we would have gone back and tried out one of our other highly-liked choices.
 

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<span style="color:#808080;">I feel for you! We find choosing names difficult because we tend to have different tastes and tolerances for levels of popularity. We are also at a similar stage of pg as you. Good luck!</span>
 

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Same here
 

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I think that's a great idea and it's what I'm planning to do someday. He (or she) will let you know his (or her!) name after you bond. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I'm 22 weeks and we haven't really discussed it. We have one or two girl's names that we've talked about briefly, but that's it. I'm not too worried about it. I'd kind of like to see the baby before naming him/her, anyway.
 

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Guess that's another good thing about being a single mama to be. I'm not due for ages and I've already picked out a girl's name and a boy's name, first and middle. Of course, I reserve the right to change my mind. Guess it's easier when there's only one chef in the kitchen.
 

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We didn't name ours until after they were born... we had names in mind, but it took us 3 days with #1, 10 days with #2, and 2 (or was it 3?) weeks with #3.
 
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