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<p>So, I'm almost half-way through nursing school, and on the fence whether to continue up through this summer or take a break.  While before I was totally gung-ho about becoming a nurse, I now find myself exhausted at the thought of starting another semester--and it is even the semester where we do Labor and Delivery, and that's what I want to do!!!</p>
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<p>I also have a three-year old son at home (goes to preschool) and all I want to do is spend my time with him, and prepare for the new baby.  (wanting to spend time with him is nothing new, it almost stopped me from starting nursing school in the first place!) </p>
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<p>Part of the problem is the massive student loan debt we've racked in... I'm hesitant to take out more loans for this semester when I know how much one more year of preschool for DS and the birth of a new baby will cost (DS was almost $8000!).  The other part of the problem is the shear fact that I've lost my drive. </p>
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<p>Just wondering if any other mamas were in the same boat, feeling like hunkering down and devoting all of your time to being a mama and/or preparing to be one.  Is it biological?!?</p>
 

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<p>Yep. I'm pretty much uninterested in most of my previous interests... I've heard that goes away after the baby is born, but that remains to be seen. LOL</p>
 

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<p>I feel MORE interested in mama stuff - cloth diapering, bed sharing, how to set up our new house to be more Montessori-friendly for a baby, etc. But I am really less interested in day to day stuff. I've got baby on the brain!!</p>
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<p>I am really interested more in knitting (didn't think that was possible!!) but all my yarn and needles are at the new house so I have nothing here to tide me over! I want to knit some longies NOW!</p>
 

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<p>Me me me!! I'm obsessing about baby supplies...maternity clothes...just waiting for a newborn again. Of course with three kiddos that didn't stop as much but I honestly thought I might be done having kids. How sad I would have been if that were true, I would've missed out on all this newbie excitement again. </p>
 

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<p>Me too.  I've just been hunkering down at home with my 2 year old.  I've been researching cloth diapers etc again and trying to figure out what we need.  All I want is for this sweet little baby to be here!  I'm looking forward to feeling better so I can get some things done around here.  I really want to go through all my stuff and get rid of what we don't need.  When I was on my search for my box of maternity clothes the other day, which of course was on the bottom of everything in the storage room!!  Anyway, I had to take about 15 bags of kids clothes out to find them!  So I decided when we find out what this baby is going to be I'm going to get rid of the opposite sex clothing.  This is our last and I really just need to find them a new home.  And yes, it definitely doesn't help that I have been feeling like crap!!</p>
 

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<p>I was in just that possition with my first.  In school doing something that I liked, etc...  I finished the semester when I was 8 months pregnant.  It was hard I had a 40 to 2 hour long commute depending on traffic and if I hit traffic on the way home I would just cry and my body would ache so badly.  All I could think about in class was "can anyone else see that little foot bobbling my belly all around".  No one ever noticed but it was hard to concentrate.  I just tried to go back last semester after being at home with my son for 2 and a half years.  I couldn't do it.  I didn't have any interest in being there and didn't want to be away from my son and I had lots all intrest in my program and just the idea of doing school work.  I can't imagin having to write another paper about something I don't really care about.  So it was kind of a waste for me to push myself to go while I was pregnant.  I also had quite a lot of work to do, at least another 2 years.</p>
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<p>I do have to say that I think school is easier when you are pregnant than work is.  You don't have to work with people so much so you can do things when you want, you can cut class more easily than work, the schedule can often be arranged to be less intense.  I did have to drop one class because by the time I had gone to class for 4 days in a row with the commute I would just fall asleep in class on thursday.  It was art for kids, so it was interesting and where actually doing the art so I don't even really know how I fell asleep while glueing, etc... It was a great class I am sad I missed it though.</p>
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>bumbold</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1291177/anyone-else-stop-caring-about-everything-except-being-a-mama#post_16186074"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border-bottom:0px solid;border-left:0px solid;border-top:0px solid;border-right:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>I was in just that possition with my first.  In school doing something that I liked, etc...  I finished the semester when I was 8 months pregnant.  It was hard I had a 40 to 2 hour long commute depending on traffic and if I hit traffic on the way home I would just cry and my body would ache so badly.  All I could think about in class was "can anyone else see that little foot bobbling my belly all around".  No one ever noticed but it was hard to concentrate.  I just tried to go back last semester after being at home with my son for 2 and a half years.  I couldn't do it.  I didn't have any interest in being there and didn't want to be away from my son and I had lots all intrest in my program and just the idea of doing school work.  I can't imagin having to write another paper about something I don't really care about.  So it was kind of a waste for me to push myself to go while I was pregnant.  I also had quite a lot of work to do, at least another 2 years.</p>
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<p>I do have to say that I think school is easier when you are pregnant than work is.  You don't have to work with people so much so you can do things when you want, you can cut class more easily than work, the schedule can often be arranged to be less intense.  I did have to drop one class because by the time I had gone to class for 4 days in a row with the commute I would just fall asleep in class on thursday.  It was art for kids, so it was interesting and where actually doing the art so I don't even really know how I fell asleep while glueing, etc... It was a great class I am sad I missed it though.</p>
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Ugh, knowing me I'll probably lose all interest in returning to school after baby #2 arrives, however I'm trying to get this semester done now, so that I only have 2 semesters left when I return.  We'll see-- it will be hard to do all that late night studying for nursing when I can't seem to stay awake past 8pm!  Don't know where I'll fit that in, esp. with caring for my 3 year old DS on top of it.  Losing interest in classwork more and more even as I type this! lol.</p>
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<p>Nice to hear from a survivor though!  We're just going to have to take it one day at a time I think...</p>
 

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<p>Ugh, ladies.  All I can think about is not working anymore after this baby comes.  It consumes EVERYTHING about me!!  I've really wanted to be a SAHM since DD was born, but we just couldn't swing it financially.  Not like my measley pay really puts a dent in our bills or anything, but it does help with monthly expenses, shopping at Target, etc.  But I hateeeeee working!  I just want to stay home with my kids!!  HOPEFULLY when I put my foot down this time DH listens and we can figure out how to make it work.  I hated leaving DD when she was 3 months old to go back to work.  I really don't want to leave an infant again (or my first DD!).</p>
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<p>That, and man, I'm obsessed again with baby everything!  I can't read enough birth stories!  All I can think about is this baby and how he or she will add to our family.  Ah, I cannot WAIT! </p>
 

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<p>I go between really not being able to wait.  I just want it to be august NOW and just feeling like I am sick "what baby"  I thougth to myself the other day I should just take the anxiet drugs why wouldn't I.  I am not nursing any more "oh wait baby".</p>
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<p>I just want the pregnancy to be done and to see this beautiful little person. </p>
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<p>I have already put school and career on the back burner while we have small children.  I actually feel like I might want to go back to work when the baby gets a bit older but it has been a long time of staying home.  I think part of it is just being intimidated by the idea of being alone with TWO kids all the time not just my easy going little boy and me any more.</p>
 

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<p>Carrie:</p>
<p>If you don't make much at work, it might actually be less than it'd take for two kids in daycare. Try that angle! :)</p>
 
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