[CrunchyChristianMama]

Ah, the joys of holidays with my IL's. More specifically, my DH's gma. Here's the newest comments...

Oh, she's having trouble sleeping because she's breaking two teeth right now? Your really need to give her a tablespoon of cereal at night before bed to help sedate her. Sedate??? Are you kidding me?!?

Upon seeing my daughter's sleep sack she asked where I got it. I let her know and told her how much I like it because she can't kick it off like a blanket and I don't have to worry about it getting over her face. She has another grandbaby on the way and said while she might get one for them, she wants to wait and see if they are into more traditional parenting methods than I tend to do. ???

My almost 7 mo DD is already standing, but sometimes her feet wiggle all over the place when she does. Upon seeing her stand up using the side of her foot for a little while she let me know that DD needs to see the doctor to get some orthopedic shoes so that we can get that fixed. She wasn't kidding.

Ah, what would I do without so much helpful advice. I need to run out now and buy some shoes, baby cereal, and blankets so that I can be more "traditional".

Although really, I've found I kind of like being the wierd one in that bunch...

 

[CrunchyChristianMama]

And I forgot one.

She asked if I was *still* bfing and let me know that I certainly wouldn't be much longer now that DD is getting teeth. They bite and then you have to stop.

This is the woman who (in front of her grown children) let them know that she regrets that she was a SAHM when they were little. Such a waste of her time...

 

[allisonrose]

My annoyance of the day was when my hubby's cousin came over and asked if my MIL could borrow the baby. Not truly a big deal but it bugs me that my MIL doesn't ask me directly. I don't have any problem with her holding him and the only times I've put her off is when a diaper change was necessary first.

Then there was the comment about how the food smelled better than formula. (He's EBF.) And I was informed that "bean soup" and rice are great for babies. Afterwards I finally got from my hubby that "bean soup" is the cooking water from beans - I was confused because I've never seen an adult in his family eating bean soup.

 

[leosmommy]

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[~Megan~]

I've been through it all before so it's nothing new. Yet again fil tried to feed the baby. This time it was whipped cream. Also my 2 year old nephew gave her some animal crackers that she took a bite of before I saw it.

Otherwise things were okay.

 

[honeybee]

The ILs CAN learn. MIL was pretty considerate of ds2's allergy needs. We had a nice dinner.

Of course, MIL still got out a container of "her" applesauce (with hfcs) for ds3, despite the fact that we brought our own (100% apples) and I tried to explain about 5 times that we're trying to introduce 1 food ingredient at a time because of potential food allergies (see ds2 comment above), and corn is another ingredient.

But she's trying!

 

[Super~Single~Mama]

lol...we survived. Everyone is really supportive, but my boyfriends Aunt isn't really all there and asked if I needed to feed Lincoln while we were eating - I said no, he nursed a while ago and he'll tell me when he wants food again - she said "he's not on formula? What about cereal - is he on cereal? He needs to be on something!"

I think she thought I just wasn't feeding him...umm...he's 3 months and weighs 15lbs! He eats plenty! She also called him "little fatty" which I thought was fine until I heard that she called my BIL that until he was 15 when he lost weight....

Oh well, like I said she's not all there and she means well.

 

[CartersMommy]

good thread. I felt like u'r post was my own. so much I could say..but I'll just give ya one. SLOBBERING ALL OVER MY BABIES HANDS! I'm sooooooooo tired of being sweet and nice...no more! THIS TIME I said "don't kiss or TOUCH his hand bc he puts them in his mouth." of course no one listened and I had to say it many times, but I didn't give up this time. Oh and why do people think it's ok to put they slimy gross fingers in a babies mouth to feel his teeth!? people can be so rude. here's another..."is he eating 'real' food yet"...like they don't know he's still basically ebf. some pp just like to get together and gossip...and like u said...i'm ok w/ being the wierd one...i'd rather be "that" then be a lame follower of the crowd.

 

[AndVeeGeeMakes3]

Ugh. I'm still too angry to post.

 

[CallMeMommy]

Uneventful except when my MIL started feeding him mashed potatoes. WITH GRAVY

I told her she didn't need to be dipping the potatoes in gravy and she stopped, though. I know she disapproves of most of my parenting choices but at least she keeps her thoughts to herself most of the time.

 

[CartersMommy]

andveegee...LOVE u'r post. i know...there's so much...i try to let it go and 4get about it...somethings need to be pondered on though so I'm prepared for next time!

 

[nj's_mom]

good ? ...

I survived. it wasn't ILs that were so bad. but my aunt. who has a son 1yr older thn DD, and is vry mainstream, spanks, CIO, all of it. yelled at her DS several times for menial things ... then during dinner while her DS ate mcdonalds chix nuggets asked what my mostly ebf dd was eating .... awkward.

but overall it was great. dd looked super cute.

 

[Funny Face]

Yesterday was probably the best holiday we've had yet. Nobody picked up my stuff and took it to a bedroom so I could 'feed the baby in private'. MIL didn't try to give me a Pearl book or make me listen to their sing a long tape for children. Dh didn't leave me to make conversation with MIL for hours on end and we even played a game without anyone's feelings getting hurt!

A successful day indeed!

 

[LaurenAnanas]

Ugh. I was so optimistic...

Long ahead of time, my hubby and I discussed our strong preferences for limited gifts (MIL grew up poor and unwanted, so she's got some shopping/gifting issues), and for no Easter basket. We discussed it all together and hubby spoke to her privately. So, on Easter morning, we showed up to:

three bibs
six pairs of socks
two complete outfits
a set of alphabet blocks
an Easter basket containing: a pair of leather shoes, a board book, and a toy flower

Then we were forced to drag her on an egg hunt, where our 5-month old daughter "found" a plastic egg containing a $50 bill.

Yes, it's only stuff. But given all the discussions, it was a total slap in the face. Also, my mom tries really hard to go along with our wishes, and if she found out, she'd feel awful.

 

[hotharmony]

I also had trouble with the "stuff" thing, my MIL also has "buying stuff" issues. At Easter DS received two Easter baskets filled with an entire book collection, bath toys, two bibs, one outfit, a letter X and a hat and sun glasses.

We are trying to pack up as much stuff in our house as we don't need right now so we can show our house and sell it, which everyone knows. So I called MIL the next day and told her to come get her basket or it was going to the Salvation Army. All of the goodies he got are on their way to the garage.

 

[Baby_Cakes]

We got a basket full of toys for our DD (6 months) as well, along with 2 bagfuls of clothes for summer. I'm grateful for the clothes but I think she owns every single carters set now, lol.

The only thing that bugged me was that whenever DD fussed and I knew she was hungry, FIL put his hands out to take her and kept trying to take her from me, when all I needed was 5-10 min to give her a good nursing. I had to keep telling him, just let me nurse her and she'll be fine. And I did and she was. But to have to keep saying it was annoying, lol. Just a wee little rant compared to some, but then again I really love my IL's! It's *my* family that I can't stand, lol.

 

[Evelynmia'smom]

we survived....thankfully it was only two days with them. my favorite was when my mil asked if my dd lets me know "when there is no milk left"

when she was fussy while she nursed. I'm so glad that I know better now when she asks stupid questions like that....when she first came to visit when my dd was 7 weeks and very fussy...she asked me if i was sure i made enough milk for her and that she was prob allergic to my milk....not something i was eating, but me...my milk.

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[gagin37]

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Originally Posted by AndVeeGeeMakes3 Ugh. I'm still too angry to post.

yeah, same here... i really can't stand my mil. she means well when it comes to the babe, but she's constantly second guessing me and questioning me. I am his parent, not her, and I know what's best for ds.