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I'm going through a very emotionally difficult time right now. My milk totally dried up three weeks ago, then a few days ago it started hurting sooo much to nurse. It was horrible. I was crying every time we nursed and it was pure torture. I tried all my relaxation and distraction techniques with no luck. So, we're weaning right now. We were down to three a day and now none. It makes us both so sad, but it's just what my body needs right now. As my midwife said, we can take a break for a few then go back to it when my boobies start feeling better if we choose.<br><br>
Anyone else wean?
 

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We did. About a month ago, so DD was about 11 months. I was sad, I really wanted to get to 1 year. DD had only had the occasional EBM bottle but took to the bottle and formula easily and didn't seem too sad. I let her try to nurse every time she wanted but I think it was just too much work for her and the bottle flowed freely. So, we are done - my boobs sure feel better.
 

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hugs momma's<br><br>
my son is nooo where near wanting to wean we did night wean which was huge for both of us and even through he sleeps through the night now finially he will still wake up at 6am to just touch and hold my boob until he goes back to sleep<br><br>
heck he will wake up in the middle of the night sometimes just to hold or touch the boobies hahahhaha soo cute<br><br>
we dont nurse in the moring just nap time and maybe 2 more times after that then of course bed time we nurse i would love to get to 2 times a day but their is noo way to do that with him he will acually scream and cry and just act like it is the end of the world if he doesnt get the boobie
 

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We're very slowly weaning. It's been hard as she's getting her last set of molars (she's 2) so I'm trying to be very understanding. Weaning took months and months with my son and so far we've already nightweaned and are working on cutting down to just 3 or 4 times throughout the day. Nightweaning has been a huge relief to me.<br><br>
It's not an easy thing for the mama or child, be kind to yourselves mamas. I had a really hard time emotionally with my first as he so obviously wanted to nurse (even at 3) but my body was just done! This time it's going a lot easier.
 

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I weaned my first when I was expecting my second because of the pain. Honestly the emotions at the time were intense for me, but it didn't turn out to be a big deal in our lives. He forgot about it so quickly, I was shocked. He adjusted well and just totally never brought it up or seemed worried about it after a week or two. And he didn't seem to notice or care when the baby came that he nursed. He still had his paci and blankie, which were his self-comforting tools, and I still nurtured him in lots of ways.<br><br>
Weaning is always hard and emotional. But I'm sure you are going through it with compassion and gentleness. The tension I had and pain when he nursed was very confusing to him. It's hard on a little one to feel their mother wince and tense up when they latch on. Nurturing, present comfort without the pain is a good alternative at this point. And many children do start nursing again if you want to. I hated weaning, but did not want to nurse my older son again. Many people do and find tandem nursing wonderful for siblings.<br><br>
Either way, the emotions and the stress of this passed much quicker for me and were much less of a big deal than I expected.
 

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I weaned my my dd was I was 9 weeks and she was 22 months. My milk was long gone and I had a lot of trouble bfing from the start and I only nursed on one side. So once I found out I was having twins I didn't see the point in torturing myself through 9 months of preg. when she wasn't getting milk anyway and then have 3 babies to nurse. I had trouble enough keeping up my calorie intake for one. So I just told her baba was broke and had a boo boo. We went in the bathroom and got a bandaid and put it over my nipple and that was it. Easy as pie. Even today when I undress she will point and say ba ba broke, ba ba boo boo. You have to do whats right for your situation.
 

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I think my 12 mo ds is in the process of night weaning, without any prodding from me, which is kinda nice. I still have milk, but it's changed color a little (kind of a yellowish white, collustrum beginning maybe?) He's not nursing as much, but drinking lots from a straw cup and eating a TON! We are still nursing for owies and tantrums and hunger, but the hunger nursing is always followed up by a baby sign request for his cup and then a baby sign request for some food <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">.<br><br>
I don't know if we will make it to tandem nursing, based on his nursing habits right now... if he wants to continue to nurse as the milk dwindles into collustrum, I'm fine with that, but if he becomes disinterested I'm not going to push it kwim?<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> to all the mamas who are going through the difficult process of pregnancy with a nursling, I feel ya, the tandrums are definitely increasing and it's so hard to balance your needs and the needs of your child.
 

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I did about 3 weeks ago. I had been gradually cutting him back and then got rid of the 5:30 am last. It was uncomfortable for me even though I still had milk (and still do) and really just having him on me when I was feeling sooo tired and sick was just too much for me. I was getting frustrated and crabby with him so it was right for us. I would have gladly continued if I wasn't pg. He is sleeping better at night so that's a blessing. He asked for it a few times in the first week, but now seems to have forgotten about it.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> On your decision. I found support and criticism abundant for both sides of the decision. This is my second pg while nursing and I'm planning on continuing through this one, too. Nursing during my last pg was pure hell. It was incredibly painful and ds was so young. It tore me apart physically and emotionally. I was very close to weaning and, for us, it's better that we didn't. It's a tough decision, but you know best what will work for your nursing relationship. Have you read, "Adventures in Tandem Nursing," "Mothering Your Nursing Toddler," and "How Weaning Happens" ? I found them to be really supportive and informative for the choice. They helped me get some clarity to decide whether or not to wean. hth. Good luck!
 

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DD weaned all on her own...now she is on formula since she is only almost 10 months old. She didn't even really care at all. It was pretty heartbreaking to me.I am really hoping that she will start nursing again after the new babe is born.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> On your decision. I found support and criticism abundant for both sides of the decision. This is my second pg while nursing and I'm planning on continuing through this one, too. Nursing during my last pg was pure hell. It was incredibly painful and ds was so young. It tore me apart physically and emotionally. I was very close to weaning and, for us, it's better that we didn't. It's a tough decision, but you know best what will work for your nursing relationship. Have you read, "Adventures in Tandem Nursing," "Mothering Your Nursing Toddler," and "How Weaning Happens" ? I found them to be really supportive and informative for the choice. They helped me get some clarity to decide whether or not to wean. hth. Good luck!</div>
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Yes, I've read all the above. I'm a LLL leader <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> I found How Weaning Happens to be no help at all and was very disappointed; I LOVED the other two. We're feeling better about it yesterday and today. And you are so right, only we know what is best for us and our family!<br><br>
I didn't post this experience on other parts of MDC bc I didn't want to hear any criticism bc they aren't me and they can shove it.<br><br>
I feel so happy that you all understand and get how challenging it can be to wean before we're ready and how challenging it is to keep nursing.<br><br>
Right now, I'm hoping my nips feel better in a few weeks. They were getting horribly dry and cracked and on the verge of bleeding. I hope some down time will help. I got my colostrum with my first in the fifth month and that's only a few more weeks away.<br><br>
Thanks again so much!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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We weaned a few weeks ago. I was in terrible pain, my nipples were in bad shape and Nate seemed indifferent. It was hard for me; I wanted to persevere. When I looked within the think I was most down about was that I liked telling people I was sitll nursing my 17 month old even though I was back at work (we go back at 1 year in Canada and that's when a lot of moms wean). I liked advocating for extended BF, YK? I also liked telling people about tandem nursing and seeing the shock in their eyes. Kinda show-offy in a way. Not very honourable. Once I realized that I felt better and have mostly let it go. Totally not your situation, I know, just thought I'd put my personal journey out there.
 

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I don't know if this is because my nipples are more sensitive or if it's due to the fact that ds has 6 teeth now, but I have dark purple streaks from him pulling off without opening his mouth, scraping his teeth down my nipple. It makes me gasp and often say OW very loudly, which will then make ds cry.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
Argh, this part blows. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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Oh mama, I know how hard it is. When I had my ectopic/ miscarriage, I was given a methotrexate injection and I had no idea I couldn't continue to nurse him, especially considering he was 3 years old and had no intention of weaning. It was the most awful thing to be going through, here I am losing my baby and cold turkey weaning my love, it was just so unfair to him, but I couldn't take any chance of him being affected since MTX is a chemo drug. And of course nobody told me and I never saw anything in my research that said after about 4 days you could start nursing again. Again, it was just so awful, the crying & begging in the middle of the night, ugh it just breaks me to think about it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> After about a month or 2 he stopped asking about nursing and I felt guilty b/c of those times I would think "gosh I wish he'd just be done with this already, he's 3!" We can only do what we can do and we make the decision that we feel is for the best <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/grouphug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="grouphug">
 

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My milk was basically gone at just 7wks preg. My DD was 22mths and totally not ready to give up the milk, since I was EPing she really identified with the fact that I made the milk even though my hubby would also give it to her in the bottle. Things have been "different" with us ever since I stopped pumping<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">. She was very very upset with me for not being able to give her milk, she still gets water in her bottle, she is not ready to give that up. But the loss of the milk was a BIG thing for her, a true comfort as I know you all can only understand. She always had a special place for me in her life but now that place has changed and I know its because mommy no longer makes milk for her. It is amazing how their little minds work.<br><br>
She is waiting for the baby to come so she can have milk again, she will tell me that periodically, it's just sad. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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My 20 month old is slowly weaning. It is still so painful for me, that there has been some prodding from me, but nothing really major. We went from 3-4 times a day to now 1-2. The before nap and before bed times are a must, so those have been the last to go. I'm hoping it will start feeling better soon and I won't just cringe to bf'ed and cut him off sooner than he wants. I still have milk in one side at least, he nurses on that side the most. My midwife told me that it does get better around 24 weeks or so, so if he is still nursing by then, I hope it does get better!<br><br>
Good luck to you! You'll have another nursling soon! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 
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