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So, I found out today that my dd1 (10 yo in two weeks) went to church with her bf's family on Sunday. They asked my dd's dad and he said yes, but it's not his decision to make (legally), it's mine. Anyway, I find the mere invitation to be offensive, since we're not religious and it's not their place to expose my dd to religion.<br><br>
Anyway, this was just the final debacle in a series of baaaaad decisions on their part. OK, the pc term would be "decisions that are really different from mine" including taking my dd on motorcycle rides, letting her sleep in their family bed (with dad there) and double-buckling in their car (I still have her in a booster in mine, since our legal weight limit is 60 lbs and she's not there yet). I've set limits on all of this stuff, buy only AFTER I found out and they continue to make these kinds of decisions. There are other examples of things they do, like leave their kids home unsupervised (9, 7 and 5 yo), but of course, they would NEVER leave dd there with their kids unsupervised. Stuff that makes me question their ability to make sound decisions.<br><br>
So, tonight I told my X that I didn't want dd going to their house anymore and I talked to the mom and she was SUPER defensive and very mean.<br><br>
Now, let me add that this girl (oldest of three girls) is my dd's one and only real friend. They've known each other for four years and they are tight. I'm not crazy about her, but my dd loves, loves, loves her. However, we recently moved and my dd is starting a new school, so they won't be in school together and, hopefully, dd will be making some new friends.<br><br>
I know I'm doing the right thing and I know that I'm entitled to make these decisions since I'm the parent, but I feel bad because the mom told me that she wouldn't let her dd come to my house anymore. Anyone BTDT?
Anyway, this was just the final debacle in a series of baaaaad decisions on their part. OK, the pc term would be "decisions that are really different from mine" including taking my dd on motorcycle rides, letting her sleep in their family bed (with dad there) and double-buckling in their car (I still have her in a booster in mine, since our legal weight limit is 60 lbs and she's not there yet). I've set limits on all of this stuff, buy only AFTER I found out and they continue to make these kinds of decisions. There are other examples of things they do, like leave their kids home unsupervised (9, 7 and 5 yo), but of course, they would NEVER leave dd there with their kids unsupervised. Stuff that makes me question their ability to make sound decisions.<br><br>
So, tonight I told my X that I didn't want dd going to their house anymore and I talked to the mom and she was SUPER defensive and very mean.<br><br>
Now, let me add that this girl (oldest of three girls) is my dd's one and only real friend. They've known each other for four years and they are tight. I'm not crazy about her, but my dd loves, loves, loves her. However, we recently moved and my dd is starting a new school, so they won't be in school together and, hopefully, dd will be making some new friends.<br><br>
I know I'm doing the right thing and I know that I'm entitled to make these decisions since I'm the parent, but I feel bad because the mom told me that she wouldn't let her dd come to my house anymore. Anyone BTDT?