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<div>Originally Posted by <strong>choli</strong> <a href="/community/forum/post/8906536"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a></div>
<div style="font-style:italic;">Do I have it right that your DD in question is 10? At that age, I would leave the decision whether to attend a religious service up to her, a 10 year old should be able to understand what's being said.</div>
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10 year olds are often impressionable and believe everything they hear. So if you take them to church and the minister or whatever starts spouting nonsense about people who are not of their religion going to hell. This could scare a child of that age. Hell I know it scares adults since I once ran into a woman who grabbed my arm and pulled me on my knees crying her eyes out asking me to teach her how to pray. Apparently she had just gone to church for the first time and was told she was going to hell cause she hadn't been before.<br><br>
My MIL used to send her religious magazines to our house. They would say things on the cover about how the world is coming to an end any day now.. rejoice or some such ridiculousness.<br><br>
Yes a 10 year old is old enough to understand what is being said, and have the living crap scared out of them. It is my job to protect my child from this type of thing. So yes, I am not going to allow her to go to a strange church.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div>Originally Posted by <strong>Spirit Dancer</strong> <a href="/community/forum/post/8912696"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a></div>
<div style="font-style:italic;">WEll I think some of the other issues need to be resolved, IMHO you are way over overreacting on the church thing. When I was 10 we always went to church and when we had friends over we invited them to come along. Why would we want them to leave when we could spend more time with them? We were never trying to convert them.<br>
Not to sound harsh but it always bothers me when parents say they are going to control which religion (or lack of) their children are going to follow. Even as young as 10 but especially as she becomes a teen- isn't the choice hers? I can't see any logical reason why she could not go to church with a friend if she chooses (and without you.). JMO.</div>
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See my reasons above. And a teen is more able to realize what is bull and what isn't. A 10 year old.. not so much.<br><br>
In this instance however, the family did obtain permission from the father. So if you are angry with anyone over this it should be your ex. They did try to do the right thing.<br><br>
In my opinion the sleeping in the same bed with another man would be the thing that would keep me from letting my child go over there again. That is just wrong on so many levels.