[asher'smom]

Hi,

We just found out we are expecting our third child mid-January. Still a bit freaked out, but excited. We have a DS who is 3.5 and a DD who is 21 months.

Anyone else?

 

[ehsclt]

Yes, me too! We have two daughters, one who just turned 4 and one who is 22 months old. We are very happy, but also a little freaked out. Everyone says it gets harder when you lose that 1:1 ratio. I think what I am most concerned about is being able to continue to give my children the amount of attention I think they need. I know I worried about this before I had my second, and it all worked out just fine, so I am hoping that will be the case with the third as well.

I am also a little freaked out by what size my baby could be, as my first was 8 lbs 10 oz and my second was 9 lbs 5 oz. Both were delivered naturally and both deliveries were fine, but still, I am a bit concerned about my body, which isn't particularly large and delivering a large baby. I guess that is just one of several concerns, and we all have them, so I just need to trust the process.

Are you needing to get a new car to accomodate your third? We will go from wagon to minivan.

Congrats to you asher'smom and hopefully we can share our concerns and triumphs as we welcome our third children!

Emily

 

[asher'smom]

I have some of the same worries. It is hard now to make sure that everyone is getting the attention they need (including DH). I know it will work out though.

Those are big babies. Are you planning on natural childbirth again? Both of mine were born at home.

We are also moving from a wagon to a minivan. I never thought I would get a minivan. I would love to hear your (or anyone else's thoughts)

I look forward to hearing you thoughts and progress as well.

Good luck,

Krista (Asher'smom)

 

[zjandosmom]

We are going from 3 to 4! I had to add my 2 cents on going from 2 to 3. I truly found it easier than going from 1 to 2! I have enjoyed my 3rd so much. You know what works for you and that extra comfort level is really nice. My ages are 2,4, and 6. #4 will be almost 3 yrs younger than #3 which doesn't thrill me as I wanted them a bit closer, but somethings you can't control KWIM? I didn't want to wean ds3 just to get pg again! He is still nursing and we will just see what happens. Congrats on #3, they are so much fun!

 

[Aurora]

I am going from 3 to 4 as well. I wanted to second what zjandosmom said-going from 2 to 3 was much easier than 1 to 2.

Congratulations!

 

[LolaEight]

We are going from 2 to 3 also!

Thanks for the encouraging words, Mamas! I am like a stalker lady at the park or store or church. If you have 3 kids, I'm going to ask you about how it was going from 2 kids to 3 kids!!! So far, everyone has said it wasn't as tramatic because you already are used to kinda spreading yourself out. I know going from 1 to 2 was a huge adjustment here, and so I really don't think ours will be too bad with this one...

I was freaked out too, because we never actually decided to HAVE a third. And my youngest is 15 months. I am glad to see another mama with that spacing too-mine will be 4, 2 and newborn.

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I am also a little freaked out by what size my baby could be,

I would be too, girl!!! I went to my best friends home birth several weeks ago, and she delivered a 10 pounder. It wasn't exactly easy, but her body really knew what to do. That was comforting!!!

 

[ehsclt]

Thanks Moms of three going to four for your comforting words of wisdom. You eased my anxiety!

Yes, this one will be natural birth as well. I wouldn't have it any other way!!

We are moving from Charlotte to Indianapolis during the pregnancy and I am really excited because I can deliver in a birthing center in Indy. Here I worked with a great CNM and nurse (both of whom had delivered their own babies without medication or medical intervention), but in a hospital setting.

Regarding minivans, we've chosen to get an Odyssey, but we loved both the Odyssey and the Sienna after driving both and looking at safety features, etc. I am easy to please, though, as I give up a ten year old wagon (which I quite like) for a new minivan. I also have a friend who just bought a 1998 Odyssey and absolutely loves it. It seems like all of the minivans have really improved in the last few years. I, too, never really imagined myself in a minivan, but it's that or an SUV, which I would rather avoid at this point.

Lolaeight, I ask everybody about three, too. And I have yet to find anyone who is anything but positive, thank goodness. Soon we'll be answering those questions for people. Hard to imagine, isn't it?

Thanks for the dialogue.

Emily

 

[zjandosmom]

Emily,
Where in Charlotte? We moved from Indian Trail last July to Atlanta. I have to admit I find myself homesick for Charlotte at times. good look on your move to Indy.
Kathy

 

[ehsclt]

I'll pm you, Kathy. Wish you were still in Charlotte; that would be fun!

 

[My Three Boys]

I'm also going from three to four. The jump from 0-1 and 1 - 2 children was definately harder than 2 - 3. I'm hoping that the jump from 3 - 4 is even easier!!

Regarding big babies - my third was 10 pounds, 2 ounces - no drugs, no nothin'! I needed two stitches in the end, but not bad! I'm tall, but not very big (size 8). I'm just hoping that this next one is smaller! LOL

Jennifer

 

[Mytwokids]

So what is it that is easier going from 2-3 than from going from 1-2. I keep thinking it will be easier because my older two will have each other to entertain each other. Plus my oldest was 27 months when #2 was born and still very dependent on me. My oldest will be almost 6 and my 2nd will be 44 months so I figure they will be easier in that regard. But I am worried about getting out of the house, helping my oldest with school etc with 3. I feel some things will be easier but some will be harder so I just want to hear what you more experienced mommys think was easier. Thanks, Micky

 

[LolaEight]

I LOVE my Odyssey.....!!!!!

 

[Camellia]

I'm expecting number 3 also. I found out about this pregnancy exactly a month ago on May 1st. I've been more anxiety filled than excited so far. Just in the past couple of day's I've started calming down, lol. My biggest worries are caring for two babies and still having enough time to stay in tune with my son. He is at school all day and then the evenings can be hectic. I'm sure it will all work out, but its scary still.

My son is 6 and my daughter is 13 months. We had a sedan until last weekend when we got a volvo wagon. My son is old enough for a booster, so a wagon can accomate all of us well. If I could afford a honda odyssey I would have considered it. I really love volvo's though, so this was a good choice for us.

Congrats to everyone!

 

[AAK]

Going from 2 to 3 here. Excited & nervous about it. When this one is born my oldest will be within a week or two of being 6 and my second child will be a bit more than 3. I would have liked to keep it under 3 years split between #2 & #3 but oh well. (the first two are 2yr8mo apart) I have only found one person who had a harder time adjusting to the third than the second. She was also having health problems though.

Amy

 

[zjandosmom]

Let me try.....When #3 was born ds#1 and 2 were 4 and 2 1/2 (22m between 1 & 2). The older two were so excited to have a baby! There were also really into playing together so they would get their baby "fix" and then go back to playing. They did not care that I was nursiing all day long! The sling was my best friend! Ds#3 didn't come out of his sling until he got too heavy (close to 2yrs old). I can honestly say we have never had a jealousy thing between any of my kids! Hope that holds with #4! I did try really hard to pay them attention when they asked for it and say things like "Owen (the baby) I need to do something for Zach or John right now" if I felt like he could wait just a minute to make the older ones feel that their needs could still come first at times. Does that make sense? I also had help with the house, I found a lady to come in once a week to clean- $10 and hour!!!!!! How I miss her!! That was a HUGE help and I will look into doing that again. When I only had to worry about the kids it was a huge relief. I have rambled on a lot and don't know if it helped or not!
Kathy

 

[megpaw]

We're also expecting #3. Our twin girls will be 2.5 when this bellybean is born. I'm also worried about the transition. I never had to go from 1 to 2, since we had 2 at once!

 

[MamaTaraX]

Expecting #3 here! My boys are 6 yrs and 22 mos currently. I'm excited! We're hoping for a little girl and are planning a homebirth (UC or midwife, not sure yet). We're looking into buying a van as we'll probably add a fourth bundle to the group eventually.

*ehsclt* -- I'm in Indy!! Jusst thought I'd say hello

Namaste, Tara

 

[ehsclt]

Megpaw, a friend of mine who added a third to twins still can't believe how much easier one is than two. She would like a fourth now, which was never part of her plan. I bet you will be amazed at how much easier one baby is at a time!

MamaTaraX, I have seen you around the posts I've read about Indy and I think you are friends with Alexis, who moved to Charlotte and who has been lots of help to me in figuring out where to live, etc in Indy. I hope I get to meet you when I get there! Thanks for saying hi.

Lindsaylou, I am giving up my Volvo wagon for a minivan because my four year old still uses the car seat. I love my wagon. It feels safe and sturdy and yet has great pick up. I bet you will love yours, too.

Emily

 

[MamaTaraX]

Yep, I know her. Miss her a lot. When you said you were in Charlotte I of course wondered if you met her

I'm glad you've been able to learn a lot from her. She's an awesome lady and a great asset to wherever she's living

Namaste,Tara

 

[Nature]

We're expecting #3 as well! We have two girls. Almost 7, and almost 2.