Oh I can so relate!! I have cursed biology many times for this exact reason!! It does seem like a cruel trick, that for many women our desire is so intricately related to fluctuating hormones. It's a great source of frustration for me.
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I TOTALLY ONE HUNDRED THOUSAND PERCENT AGREE!
During bfing before I got my cycles back I had zero interest. I couldn't even fathom the idea of it. lol.
Now that my cycles are back, I am SO SO SO in the mood around ovulation and so NOT in the mood on the "safe" days. Especially since the "safe" days tend to be the, uh, dry-ish days.
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Even though we have both LOGICALLY decided to wait til ds is 3 to ttc number 2, i get SO caught up in the hormones that around O i'm always like, well maybe we should just say SCREW it and dtd anyway! lol. Dh looks at my like i'm nuts and totally knows it is the not-safe time to dtd! lol
During bfing before I got my cycles back I had zero interest. I couldn't even fathom the idea of it. lol.
Now that my cycles are back, I am SO SO SO in the mood around ovulation and so NOT in the mood on the "safe" days. Especially since the "safe" days tend to be the, uh, dry-ish days.
Even though we have both LOGICALLY decided to wait til ds is 3 to ttc number 2, i get SO caught up in the hormones that around O i'm always like, well maybe we should just say SCREW it and dtd anyway! lol. Dh looks at my like i'm nuts and totally knows it is the not-safe time to dtd! lol
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THIS EXACTLY!!!
i only really want to do it when i'm totally fertile, of course, and the rest of the time i'm not terribly interested. i just had a pregnancy scare last month and i was so relieved not to be preggers and now i'm getting ready to o and i'm like, well, maybe it wouldn't be that bad to have two close together.... i totally know how my grandma had 8 kids
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Originally Posted by hollytheteacher I TOTALLY ONE HUNDRED THOUSAND PERCENT AGREE! During bfing before I got my cycles back I had zero interest. I couldn't even fathom the idea of it. lol. Now that my cycles are back, I am SO SO SO in the mood around ovulation and so NOT in the mood on the "safe" days. Especially since the "safe" days tend to be the, uh, dry-ish days.
Even though we have both LOGICALLY decided to wait til ds is 3 to ttc number 2, i get SO caught up in the hormones that around O i'm always like, well maybe we should just say SCREW it and dtd anyway! lol. Dh looks at my like i'm nuts and totally knows it is the not-safe time to dtd! lol |
i only really want to do it when i'm totally fertile, of course, and the rest of the time i'm not terribly interested. i just had a pregnancy scare last month and i was so relieved not to be preggers and now i'm getting ready to o and i'm like, well, maybe it wouldn't be that bad to have two close together.... i totally know how my grandma had 8 kids
The first time DH and I DTD (TMI, I know) was the night we got engaged...and I found out a day later that I was O that day! I figured that explained some of it...engaged + O is a potent combination!
Right now I'm still on the Pill, and I'm ALWAYS dry, but at least I'm sometimes interested.
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Right now I'm still on the Pill, and I'm ALWAYS dry, but at least I'm sometimes interested.
Question to you sympathetic mamas, are your DH's supportive of your fluctuating desire? I have explained my cycles and fluctuating libido to my husband many times, and while I think he gets it intellectually, I'm not sure he understands emotionally. Men take it as a little form of rejection, you know? And so usually I'll go through the motions because I'd rather do that than put DH off entirely, but I know he can tell when I'm totally into it and when I'm not. He never forces me or anything, but I can tell he takes it personally when I just cannot for the life of me get turned on. Of course, when I'm ovulating, it's a different story. Lucky us girls, eh? Three days out of the month we're raring to go. The rest of the time, I'll take some chocolate and a good nap over sex.
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We'll see. I think so. We've been long distance so far, and we're moving in together next month. (potential TMI) At least for "dtd" over the phone, he's supportive if I'm not into it. He'll just take care of himself, after spending some time trying to get me into it, if he can't.. In person? We'll see. When I've been with him, I've had no libido issues at all, (some dryness though sometimes. sometimes TOO dry and sometimes TOO wet to feel anything. grr. anyone have that issue?) but I've never been there or him here for more than a week, and its always bee about 6 months since the last time I saw him. We'll see what happens when we're living together.
Originally Posted by sarahope Question to you sympathetic mamas, are your DH's supportive of your fluctuating desire? |
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