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I'm feeling a little bit panicked about how much stuff I have to do / want to do before the birth and how quickly time is running out! I mostly want to get my house organized but it is starting to feel like a monumental task that will never end!<br>
I want to spend these last months focusing on the baby but instead I feel like I'm trying to catch up so that I can start focusing. We have nothing for the baby (which is ok... we have a shower coming up and kind of want to start out with the bare minimum and add from there) but we don't even have names picked out!<br>
I'm ready to be done moving furniture and painting rooms so that I can start making baby clothes and spend more time welcoming (and trying to even comprehend!) the new critter.<br>
I keep having fears that she'll come early and I'll never get to prepare (mentally).<br>
I'm also trying very hard not to get stressed by this feeling..... I will finish in time.... I will have plenty of time to immerse myself in baby in the last weeks.... babe will not feel unloved if she doesn't have a name right away. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"><br><br>
Anyone else feeling like the time is flying by and you're not ready to be counting down single digit weeks???
 

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Definitely! We don't have a name picked out yet either and that is bugging me. Then the renovation to make our upstairs into a master suite has been delayed two weeks because of all the snow we've been getting. We have to wait until the contractor is finished with that and then DH and I have to install wood floors in the master bedroom and paint the walls before we can move our stuff out of what is supposed to be the nursery. So it's looking like 4 weeks minimum before we even have the baby's room empty then we still have to get it set up. I'm getting really nervous that it's not going to be done in time. It really needs to be because we live away from family so they are all visiting after the baby is born and if things don't get done we will have nowhere to put them. I also still have a bunch of things I need to buy for the baby but can't buy yet because I have nowhere to put it all.
 

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Me!<br><br>
If you walked through our house, there would be pretty much no clues that a baby would be living here in 10ish weeks. We live about 1000 miles away from all of our family/close friends. I'll be flying home for two baby showers next week, but I have no way to get any of the things we receive home with me. I'm going to have to wait until my mom and sister drive down in their truck when I'm 39 weeks. I have a few small pieces of clothes I purchased 2nd hand in case the baby comes before my mom and sister do. I'm very grateful that we will be getting lovely things from my family and friends, but it's really hard not to be able to set anything up. Even the baby's dresser is coming with my mom and sister, so I don't even have anywhere to put the few pieces of clothes I do have.<br><br>
We do have a first name picked out, thankfully. We're still going back and forth on his middle name. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">
 

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i am pretty sure i am never going to feel or be ready. but he is coming no matter what! i just feel totally unprepared to cope with an almost 3 yr old and a new baby by myself all summer while DH is away. ahhhhh!!!!!! but i am sure it will all be fine.... hope hope hope...
 

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Definately. I have a lot of the same issues as you.
 

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You'd think I'd be a pro by now:p But no, we have very little ready. I have enough clothes to get through the first couple of months, and that's it. My house is an utter mess. But I know it will all pan out. It always has in the past. What I found so neat, is I'd feel so frantic right before any of them were born. Nothing ever seemed totally done, and then once they were there, the whole world just slowed down.
 

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I waiver between feeling ready and freaked out. Currently experiencing the latter. ;p I told dh earlier that I wasn't having prodromal labor like I got with dd2. Tonight it started in. I also checked my cervix and while I can't measure dialation, I could tell it was SUPER soft and dialated a bit. Yikes! I know its common for women who have had kids before to dialate some even weeks before the edd, but with my history, it scares me! I want...no, I NEED to have a March baby.<br><br>
Im getting everything ready ASAP, though. In 15 days, I'll be the most pg I've ever been. Speaking of- I better go take my magnesium!
 

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first-timer here asking, what is ready?<br><br>
we're insane, we just hired out 2 big projects in our house - one is a company who will come in to do massive energy changes (attic, walls, windows, crawlspace, installing an attic fan), and another is a renovation knocking out a wall and doing some built-ins in the future kid room. will these projects be done in time? will they trash our house? (of course <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll">).<br><br>
it always seems like there could be one more thing, so i'm trying not to freak either. i think i may start dividing my list into "must do" and "ok if it doesn't get done" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">.<br><br><b>shanti</b>, i'm with you on "catch up in order to focus." i think i'm just going to have to put some focus time aside, if not daily then several times a week ON MY CALENDAR. otherwise, stuff to do always seems to push it out! you can do it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2">.
 

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Count me among the group not feeling ready! I was borderline panicky last month because I hadn't done ANYTHING to prepare for this baby (no baby stuff, no books, no child birthing classes, etc). Add to that the fact that we're putting our house on the market and have a whole bunch of stuff to take care of on that end, plus I have school things to take care of (giant licensing exam next week!).<br><br>
What made me feel better was to first make a list of every single thing that needed to be done, regardless of the size of the task. I admit it was a little overwhelming to look at that list initially. Then I looked at how many weeks were left before the baby is due, and I divided up the tasks among each week (finishing the major stuff by 38wks in case baby comes early). Can you tell I'm a type A? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
It feels so great to check things off the list, and after only a few weeks (with LOTS of help from DH) we're already ahead of where I thought we'd be. Does this mean I'll be completely ready by the time the baby arrives? Heck no! haha, but it really helps me to not focus on how much still needs to get done since it's all written down for me, and it gives me a systematic approach to dealing with everything.<br><br>
I just try and remind myself that it's completely normal (and healthy) to feel this way. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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I have finally started panicking a bit that I won't have things ready. But I think part of it is because I keep imagining placing a baby into my life RIGHT NOW. If I remind myself of what my life should look like 1-2 months from now, I feel a bit better.<br><br>
We're still in the middle of moving. A lot of boxes of stuff are at our new house, but most of the furniture is at the old house. We're getting the uhaul on Saturday, so I'm hoping I can spend most of Sunday unpacking stuff. It's supposed to be a nice sunny day, so hopefully that will get me in the mood to be productive.<br><br>
We are finally making a bit of progress in the baby's room. We have a changing table, and the walls are painted. My dad put up the <a href="http://www.ikea.com/us/en/catalog/products/50072886" target="_blank">ceiling light</a> that my sister got us at Ikea.<br><br>
We decided not to do the magnetic paint in the room, which did relieve some pressure.<br><br>
We really have most of what this baby will NEED for the first little bit. I just need to get the w/d moved to the house so I can wash baby clothes and diapers.<br><br>
So, when I start to say all of that it seems better.<br><br>
Then I go to either of our houses and look around and start to panic again. BOXES EVERYWHERE! Random junk lying around. EEEEK!
 

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My husband keeps repeating to me "it's not a race to the finish".
 

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Add me to the list!<br><br>
I still have a lot to do. I dragged out all of my totes of cloth diapers and clothes <12mo, but they are still sitting there - unsorted, in the middle of the room! My house desperately needs deep cleaning (not super messy in most areas, but needs a good dusting and scrubbing) and I am only just now feeling the itch to get going on it.<br><br>
DD has been sick this week so I haven't has as much down time to work on things. I am so happy that the sun is out and we are supposed to have really nice weather for the next few days! It inspires me to scrub indoors and also to get moving on the garden a bit. I want to go ahead and get some early crops in now (we planted some potatoes last weekend but that is all so far).<br><br>
Anyway, it is much harder this time getting prepared! I'm more tired, and having another child to take care of really makes it difficult! On the other hand, I have most of what I need for this babe saved from before (though we still don't have a name or a carseat either!) and they really don't need much. I want to prepare though because it will likely be very hard to get anything done after!<br><br>
so <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">: to everyone - you are not alone! And with DD#1, who was born at 40 weeks, I still didn't feel ready either but everything was fine <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I'm "ready" in terms of baby gear/clothes/etc-- I figure all he really needs is some clothes, a car seat, diapers, and breastmilk, and I've got all that (or the means by which to produce it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">).<br><br>
However, emotionally, I'm not ready AT ALL. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> With DD, I spent most of my nesting energy researching/preparing for the birth itself, and even though a little more baby-focus might have been helpful, the post-labor hormones mostly took care of that. This time, however, there is so much to think about (not the least of which is DD) that 90% of my birth and baby emotional prep. has been DDC posting <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"><br><br>
I'm actually hoping that having to deal with the breech situation will help me feel a little more in tune with the baby; we seem to be circling a tiny bit closer around a name conclusion, so I think that will help, too.
 

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I'm not as panicked as I was, because we have a basic stash of clothes now, a couple pairs of shoes, and a decent supply of blankets.<br><br>
But I still need to go shopping for bottles/breastmilk storage bags, breastpads, pads for me for after the birth, the birth kit, etc.<br><br>
We have NO baby gear....no car seat, bouncy, pack n play, crib, stroller, nothing. we NEED a car seat at least and I would really like to have a stroller too so that kind of bugs me.<br><br>
So....not feeling panicked, but to walk into our room you would have no idea there's a baby on the way in 7 weeks unless you opened the drawers and saw the baby clothes.
 

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WAY not ready over here! I don't have a carseat yet (hopefully have one lined up), no birth supplies, and this baby keeps flipping breech/vertex like a little crazything. We have zero baby furniture, but I wasn't going to get any anyway...our bed isn't set up well for cosleeping...need to get birth supplies...<br><br>
*sigh* good thing I expect this baby to stay put another month and a half at LEAST.<br><br>
Thanks for this thread BTW, it's threads like this that make me stop whining about how little I like being pg.
 

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If we had any baby clothes in the house I would feel closer to ready, but pretty panicky at this point. No baby clothes here and not sure if they are still in storage or if they and everything else in the storage unit was sold/trashed due to non payment of rent on the unit. All the baby/infant sized cloth diapers we had left are/were over there along with things like the high chair. Don't know when or if we will have money to pay that bill and get the things out. Without those things I am not even sure where to start on baby clothes at this point. Pretty much starting over if that stuff isn't there or can't be gotten to <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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any idea when you will know? even if you can't pay it off now, could you call them and find out what's going on? that's a phone call i'd hate to make, but maybe it's worth getting some light on the situation, if you can <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 
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