Ahhh, there is HOPE!
Thank youk, thank you, thank you to everyone that has posted. I've even posted the "C'mon, tell me how horrible the transition was" threads and gotten really negative (but REAL and I do need to know REAL) responses. I figured it would do my psyche good to hear the flip side.
Jamama-I am very adept at doing just about anything and nursing!
DS#1 was/is a very spirited child who has had many, many sleep challenges since birth. I walked around the house nursing all the time. In fact, if necessary, I walked about the grovery store nursing, too. It's amazing what you learn you can do. And I'm sure there will be much more for me to learn down the road...
Rissa-Your organizational skills inspire me! I am fairly organized with DS#1 (he'll be 30 months when baby #2 arrives). But I think it's probably WAY easier to feel "prepared" when you have just one. Then again, who knows b/c some of these responses are saying the oppposite. DH currently has a very flexible schedule-which I know will really help (we're not sure how long it will last, though).
Alison-Your description of your DS#1 perfectly describes my boy. I really didn't even KNOW or couldn't comprehend that some babies actually SLEEP and are happy babies until we were out of the woods of the newborn phase with DS and came out of our SHOCK (DS's newborn total non-sleeping phase lasted about 5-6 months-and it wasn't until his 2nd b-day that he actually slept soundly and for the most part many nights, "Thru the night".
Your words of how beautiful their relationship is is exactly what I needed to hear today! I can't wait to see what I truly HOPE develops.
Tracymom-I like what you wrote about your hospital experience. We have thus far not made a huge deal about me being pregnant. Now, as I'm less than 8 weeks away from giving birth and HUGE-we talk about it a little more. He kisses my belly, says that he's going to sleep with the baby, etc (we co-sleep). I've already told him that a new baby cries a lot and nurses a lot. And sometimes I say, "What will our new baby do a lot of after it's born?" And he'll say, "Nurse a lot". So, I think we will handle the hospital situation very much like you did. I don't want to overwhelm him with it-like shove it down his throat sort of thing-. I think sometimes people can make such a HUGE deal about the second baby (even while preggers) that it can really work to do the opposite of what the parents intended.
Sandrine-Glad to know that you've proved all those strangers wrong about getting out and about! I hope to be that mama, too!!
stafl-I am still nursing DS#1, and even though I honestly thought I would wean by this point in the pregnancy, I am content with our nursing relationship now. We nurse for naps and for bedtime/storytime. And I'm imaginging we'll keep this up for some time!
fleurette-Wow-thanks for the good stories of going from 1-3! I think the hitting thing is fairly normal. I have a friend who is going thru something similiar with her toddler and newborn. Thank you for the encouragement.
Thank you ALL for the encouragement. It means A LOT to me. We had a really tough time with DS's newborn months. He can be a challenging child and is really spirited and I'm worried about the transition and this really, really, helps me get my mind around the positive aspects of this new experience.
Keep it cominng! I think I will print these responses out and hang them on my fridge for when I'm getting anxious!