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My seven year old son decided that he wants to take ballet this year. He is proud and excited and his dad and I think it is great! I am posting to see if any of you have sons who have done this and how you have supported them. He knows that he will be the only boy in his class but he has a male teacher so he doesn't mind. He has always loved dancing and music and loved watching the men in the Nutcracker last Christmas. He also loves soccer and swimming and baseball - he just loves being active. As far as I am concerned he can do this as long as he likes - one session may be enough for him or he may want to study it for many years. Already he is getting a little more fuss made over him than I am comfortable with. All of the teachers at the ballet school wanted to meet him and make a fuss over him. The store that sells dancing clothes had to specially order his uniform. I just don't want him to feel pressured or scared off dancing because it isn't "typical" for a boy of his age to want to do ballet.
 

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My 4 year old is starting in a couple weeks. His class is a beginning dance class and he needed tap and ballet shoes. Right now he (and 2 yo bro) love wearing the shoes and "plieing" and "jeteing" I am hoping that the "but you're a boy" doesn't start too soon. I haven't even really mentioned that there will probably only be girls in his class (although I can see that would be more important at 7), but all the books movies we have rented have only been little girls (altough we did watch a very censored version of Billy Elliott!)<br><br>
No real help, but I hope they feel comfortable with it too! And won't feel like it is something boys don't do.
 

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My 9 year old is currently taking a break, but has danced for almost 3 years. He auditioned for and was in the local professional production of the Nutcracker last year (he was a ginger, came out from underneath Mother Gingers skirt!).<br><br>
He has always been the only boy in his dance class. I don't think it really bothered him much!<br><br>
I did make it a point to get books from the library on famous male dancers, and we occassionally rented Lord of the Dance or something like it so he could see men dancing. We went and saw Stomp in San Francisco, too. I just tried to expose him to different types of dancing and different people doing it.<br><br>
It has been wonderful for his coordination! He really got a lot out of it.
 

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Oh I think my ds would love Stomp. There aren't any preformances close, but their new imax movie Pulse a Stomp Odessy is at the Natural History Museum.
 

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my dh remembers enjoying ballet as a kid and we plan on enrolling our ds into ballet when he gets a bit older (only 20 months now).<br><br>
I really think the dad is the most important influence on how a boy feels about himself and whether there is a gender identity attached to a sport for a boy. If dad is supportive (sounds like that is true), it will be a lot easier for ds to handle any narrow-mindedness he runs into.<br><br>
edited to add: Ds LOVES stomp. when he was a babe and nothing would put him sleep, we would put a tape of stomp on and you could see his whole body relax and he really got happy...and would be out in 10 minutes. lol. There is a sesame street stomp tape that he likes too...he watches very little tv, but it is the only way to expose him to dance at this stage.
 

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I don't have a son yet, but if/when I do, I will definitely encourage him to take ballet, so I just wanted to write in support of you and your son. When I took ballet when I was little there was a boy in our class. I remember the teacher always saying "alright, now, girls.... and boy..."<br><br>
I remember that, later on, in high school, the boy was always very popular.
 

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Not ballet, but gymnastics. My son, who'll be three at the end of the month wants to take gymnastics so badly. He stands on his head against the wall and in chairs every chance he gets and loves doing somersaults. He recently figured out how to do a backbend. My MIL was commenting on how I needed to get him into sports because he has so much energy; when my husband said gymnastics, she said, "No, no something with balls" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes">: Now if she ever saw him running, jumping and spinning in his pink tutu he picked out that would be a real fun discussion!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/Cuss.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="cuss"> He hasn't started any classes and people already comment on his interest. Absurd. Love him, support him, enjoy his grace and to hell with everyone else.
 

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My son has always enjoyed our annual trip to see the Nutcracker, and two years ago my daughter, his younger sister, started to take ballet. After a year of watching, I guess he decided it looked like fun, so he asked if he could take the class, too -- he was nine. He danced enthusiastically all year, and danced in the year end recital; the only significant difference between him and the girls in his class was that they had feathery skirts over their leotards and he declined on the grounds that they itched. (Lucky boy -- his sister fought wearing hers for the same reason, but lost the argument because she's a girl. Not quite equality.) He'd like to continue with ballet this year, although we're not sure how it's going to work out with his other activities. He was the only boy in the ballet class, but there were three or four other boys in the jazz and tap classes.<br><br>
We've always tried to explain perceived gender roles by telling the children that "some people think this is a girl (or boy) activity, but it's really a matter of whether you want to do it or not," and encouraging them to choose on that basis. We did take all of the children to see a brilliant exhibition of photographs (& some other artwork) of Rudolph Nureyev dancing, but that was more a chance for all of them to see pictures of a brilliant dancer than for my son specifically. In general, we've been pretty lucky -- most people either approved, or they didn't care, or if they disapproved were polite enough to keep their mouths shut. We got some funny looks here and there, but I don't think my son ever noticed.<br><br>
For your amusement ... my son is also a sports enthusiast, especially where football is concerned. (*sigh*) One day I realized that the shirt he had worn to class read, "There is no such thing as too much football." Talk about your clashing stereotypes ...<br><br><b>Absurd. Love him, support him, enjoy his grace and to hell with everyone else.</b> Ayyyy-MEN!
 

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I am so glad to be reading this! My daughter just started at a co-op preschool that is probably 2-1 boys to girls. They often have afternoon classes and one that was mentioned at the first parent meeting of the year was ballet, to be taught by a young woman I know because her mom is my LLL leader. After the announcement one of the moms said, "With all the boys in this school, you come up with ballet?" and I stood up and said "Ballet is GREAT for boys!" I'm glad to hear others voice the same opinion. I really hope there is enough interest for the class to go!
 

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I do not have son but a good friend has a 7 yr old in ballet. When he gets teased which does happen he just points out the fact that his father a college linebacker told him, many professional football players take ballet type classed to improve their game. He now gets to practice for football in the off season.
 

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My ds is a little young for ballet as he's only started walking this month, but if he wants to dance I will definately encourage it, and I think his father will too.
 

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I was ordering a book off of Amazon and if I spent a few more dollars it was free shipping so I ordered the Stomp DVD too!<br><br>
My dancer is also a gymnastics enthusiast. He has been able to stand on his head since before he was three and can do backbends too! Just haveing been a gymnist when I was younger (and on highschool gymnastics team) I feel much better about giving any suggestions in that area. But I have never taken a dance class of any kind.<br><br>
I also hadn't thought about if dh is supportive or not, I guess it would have been more of an issue if he wasn't. Just this weekend ds was telling dh that he wanted to climb up to the exposed beams in our living room- and now we have climbing ropes in our living room<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/yikes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="EEK!">
 

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Patrick Swayze started out in ballet and he is HOT! I think that if his parents back him up he will be okay (your son that is, not Patrick)
 

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My son does not take ballet, but he is very much into typically"girly" things. He is 4 wanted a doll house for christmas las tyear(which he got) Last month he needed a new toothbrush, and at the store I told him he could choose whichever one he wanted. He picked up a barie one and said"mom, isn't this beautiful, but it's just for girls", and put it down. I said" you can get the barbie toothbrush if that'as the one you want! It's ok to like whatever things youlike. " Now I have issues with barbie for MANY reasons, but I'll be darned if i wasn't going to encourage him to get it, because he honestl;y felt that he couldn't. A lot of my friends say things like" it hink it's grea that you LET him have a dollhouse, or a barbie toothbrush" we're like"LET?" who are we to tell him he can't have thesethings, or like what he likes? I f i had a girl who wanted a hockey stick, it wouldn't be an issue, so why should this be????
 

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My 3.5 year old son just started taking a begining dance class - a combination of tap/balet/tumbling. He LOVES it, espically the tap shoes! He is the only boy in the class, but has not seemed to 'notice' He just really enjoys it AND the dance studio offers their classes to boys at 1/2 price, so I really could not resist! So far DH is very supportive.
 

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My son is almost two and talks about "when I'm a bigger boy, I can go to school for dancing!" I am a dance teacher, as are my sister and my mom. His uncles 7, & 13 both dance. I teach dance at a high school and my boy percentages are very small, and it is something I constantly try to rectify. My dancers often ask if I'll put him in dance lessons, and I reply yes, if he's interested, just as my DH will teach him to rock climb and paddle whitewater if he seems interested. Our daughter will have the same opportunities-
 

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Dh and I met in ballet class when we were 14.<br>
He is a wonderful man who took away from almost 8 years of ballet class a security and confidence in himself. Yes, he did get teased a little bit form other kids in school, but as he says, no more than any other child does in school. Dance is a wonderful art form, discipline and sport. I remember in high school we had plenty of high school football, hockey, scoccer... players comming in to take a few ballet classes to help them improve their coordination, flexibility and balance. They were all a little uncomfortable at first but they soon relaxed and enjoyed themselves.<br>
Right now ds is too young to take dance class. But he'll be old enough in a few months for a mommy and me ballet class at our community centre. And I am going to be signing us up.
 

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My son would love this. We go over to the community center across the street and he watches the dance class through the window... then we have a fun time hoppping and spinning around the play ground. If he wants to take a class at some point, we'd be delighted to enroll him.
 

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I am thinking of taking my son to lessons.He has special needs so I am not sure if they will take him,I am going to look into it this week
 
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