Mothering Forum banner

1 - 20 of 27 Posts

·
Registered
Joined
·
5,004 Posts
Discussion Starter · #1 ·
Just curious, I have a friend who doesn't. Seemed kinda strange to me at first, I was raised very mainstream and most of my friends are mainstream, other than the co-sleeping and one ex. bf'er. Since having my son and being in LLL though I've met a *lot* of 'crunchy' moms and I'm liking this. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
anyway.....I was just wondering about the spoon-feeding thing. I'm getting away from it a little with DS, he fed himself a whole piece of toast with mashed avocado this morning. (but he's 7 mos. and I started him out with blender-ed everything and rice cereal like my mom did with me, most of my friends do, etc etc....)
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
2,180 Posts
Nah, I've never been a spoon feeder. I've done it before but not often. I've never seen much of a need for mushed up baby food. Both my girls never cared for it. There only interest was/is breast milk and little bits of table food. Also, I see food as fun and experimentation the first year of life. I'd rather my baby play with food and then nurse than fill up on baby food. They are never going to choose to eat pureed carrots as they get older so I don't think that they need that practice. Does that make sense?
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
5,264 Posts
we never did much of it but #3 wouldn't put anything in his mouth (NADA!) from the time he was 6-10mos old or so?? I'm forgetting... but anyway, a long time. No food, on legos, no nothing. If he was eating, we were feeding it. It was bizarre because he really was wanting some food.<br><br>
Now, he does put things in his mouth, but we did spoon feeding for a while bc of that quirk.<br><br>
But get this - he still refuses to tip a cup up to his mouth to drink. What the heck is that about? He'll do it with a huge full tumbler of MY water, but not any of his sippy cups. if *I* tip it up to his mouth, he drinks away. I dunno... it doesn't strike me as a stubbornness thing. It's puzzling, and annoying, bc i'd like to be able to give him drinks at his seat or in the car.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
196 Posts
I was just posting about this!<br><br>
DD is 8.5 mos, and we've been doing finger foods for a while- avocado, banana, plus whatever we're eating. I've even prechewed bllueberries for her, which she loved.<br><br>
We stopped spoon feeding because dd didn't like it, but it rubbed me the wrong way somehow. It seemed like forcefeeding sometimes, and dd has a lot more fun doing it herself. I don't think there's anything wrong with the spoon, but I'm just not into it.
 

·
Premium Member
Joined
·
4,888 Posts
Nope. If there's one thing I hate more than trying to shovel something runny and tasteless into a baby's mouth, it's having that runny and tasteless something reappear all down his chest.<br><br>
But really, I don't spoon feed unless I really have to (say, we're having soup and the babe wants to try it and ends up liking it).<br><br>
And while we're at it - I don't feed them 'cereal' either!<br><br>
I figure, if they can't handle it, they aren't supposed to eat it right now. I'm one of those people who thinks they shouldn't eat until they can sit there and feed themselves. I don't think they should do it cleanly (I think early foods should be a full tactile experience, in fact), I just think that it is silly to force eating a certain way when the kids are so excited about food if you just give it to them in a more interesting way.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
5,004 Posts
Discussion Starter · #6 ·
<div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
<div class="smallfont" style="margin-bottom:2px;">Quote:</div>
<table border="0" cellpadding="6" cellspacing="0" width="99%"><tr><td class="alt2" style="border:1px inset;">
<div>Originally Posted by <strong>NaomiLorelie</strong></div>
<div style="font-style:italic;">They are never going to choose to eat pureed carrots as they get older so I don't think that they need that practice. Does that make sense?</div>
</td>
</tr></table></div>
It does. My idea was they're supposed to get a variety of tastes and the spoon starts them on something other than milk, new taste and texture, having to move their tongue right not to spit it out, etc. But I do see what you mean about the pureed stuff. And it's not getting them used to textures if it's all the SAME texture....blender-smooth.<br><br>
I might have felt differently about *needing* solids if my son would've nursed. I felt like he needed to be getting 'real' food since I was having to supplement with formula and then quit pumping entirely.<br><br>
Now in the last 2 days he has just discovered the FUN of feeding himself! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

·
Premium Member
Joined
·
9,388 Posts
I don't know. It's quite common in other cultures when babies show an interest in food, for mothers to chew some themselves and then place it in the baby's mouth. Just like spoon-feeding, and just as mashed. Other mammals do it too-- my cat started when her kittens were around 4 years old chewing up bits of cat food and then feeding them to the kittens. That was how she started her weaning process, which was definitely NOT "kitten-led." (When they kept wanting to nurse after she felt it was time they stopped, she used to BITE them and chase them away!) So I don't think spoon feeding and mashed foods are all that unnatural. Yeah, the spoon itself is, but I don't see much of a difference between using my finger to feed DD something, and using a spoon.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
2,180 Posts
I wanted to add that I don't see spoon feeding a wrong or 'unnatural' just never came naturally to us. Like a PP said, it's very normal for a mother to pre-masticate food for a baby which I have done. Spoon feeding is along the same lines.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
7,290 Posts
DS never cared for pureed or mashed foods. He didn't show an interest in solids until 8 months, and then he only wanted little bites of food. I'll chop some veggies and put on his tray and let him eat that. For example, last night's dinner (for both of us) was zucchinni and squash (w/mushrooms for me) sauteed in olive oil, garlic and curry powder. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/yummy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="yummy"> He chowed it down! He followed it up with a banana/sweet potato custard I made (with goats milk) that was thick (and dry <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"> ) enough for him to pick up pieces of. He also likes little bits of ground chicken that have been browned. He eats pretty much anything, and he likes food with lots of flavor and spices. No bland pureed peas for my boy! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
5,004 Posts
Discussion Starter · #10 ·
I think too I'm more paranoid because of ds's having to be on Nutramigen for allergies, coudln't handle soy formula either......so I like to know what I'm giving him is just a veggie or a fruit and try things SLOWLY......no reactions so far! I'm getting a teeny bit less protective as I go...but I still don't just randomly chop up or chew anythign I eat and give it to him....
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
1,310 Posts
I did with my older son, we were very mainstream and just didn't know there were other types of parenting out there. My younger son (7 months old) hasn't had much solids but we've pretty much gone straight to finger foods...he's treid a couple things on a spoon but just doesn't like baby food. That's one wonderfull thing about starting solids later is that you don't have to worry about blending or buying expensive little jars, you can just cook food and cut it into managable bites!
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
18,562 Posts
With Abi I mostly hand-fed her. I used a spoon sometimes but she was a control freak even at that age :LOL and wanted to do it herself or have me hand-feed her. I hand-fed her until she was about 2.5. It's something I picked up from my Indian MIL.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
11,527 Posts
J doesn't care to be spoon fed. Occasionally he will eat some yogurt but other than that I don't really push it. At 9 months he is beginning to eat foods from my plate that I feed him with my fork.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
3,651 Posts
I have thought about this a bit, and I have come to the conclusion that I won't be feeding my baby baby food, homemade or otherwise. I want to keep them EBF as along as possible, and I won't start feeding them bites of anything until they show serious interest. I especially think that when they're young, if you feed them, and they stick their tongues out (tongue thrust reflex), then they're not ready to have anything other than breast milk. However, when they show interest, and don't have the tongue thrust reflex anymore, then I will start feeding them (by placing in front of them baby sized pieces of food) things from our table. But without the spices and such. If we're having carrots for example, then I'll cook some carrots, season them for the adults, but save some unseasoned ones and cut them up into lil chunks, and give them to the baby. I imagine the baby eating at the table with us, on my or dh's lap most of the time.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
5,004 Posts
Discussion Starter · #15 ·
that's what I've started doing as much as possible for ds, he gets sweet potatoes straight out of the oven baked along with ours, squash too. Today for lunch I gave him chunks of s.p. on his tray rather than mashing it up with a fork......He did all right with them but kinda coughed.....he is just getting used to this. I figured if he can eat banana then he can eat s.pot. too. There's A LOT on the floor, I really have no idea how much made it into his mouth! I also spoon-fed a little green beans and apricots.....it's a gradual thing for us, he's been used to the spoon! I'm NEW TO THIS..... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
5,004 Posts
Discussion Starter · #16 ·
Oh I also heard you aren't supposed to feed homemade carrots or spinach because of nitrates? In some areas anyway.....
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
149 Posts
We did some at the beginning, but by 7 months he was all about feeding himself. But, even now at 13 months, we spoon feed some stuff. He's working on using the spoon, but isn't very good at it yet and he loves yogurt and applesauce. Do those who don't use a spoon ever just not give stuff like that?
 

·
Premium Member
Joined
·
4,888 Posts
<div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
<div class="smallfont" style="margin-bottom:2px;">Quote:</div>
<table border="0" cellpadding="6" cellspacing="0" width="99%"><tr><td class="alt2" style="border:1px inset;">
<div>Originally Posted by <strong>KrisM</strong></div>
<div style="font-style:italic;">He's working on using the spoon, but isn't very good at it yet and he loves yogurt and applesauce. Do those who don't use a spoon ever just not give stuff like that?</div>
</td>
</tr></table></div>
Neither of my kids liked applesauce. Yogurt is (usually) thick enough to eat with the hands, as long as you're not mess-a-phobic. And like I said earlier, although I don't purposefully spoon-feed the kids, if I have given them a taste of something that I am eating with a spoon and they are enjoying it, we will continue, so they sometimes get spoon only foods (soup is the only one I can think of right now) that way.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
4,131 Posts
I spoon-fed Ds quite a lot, but Dd was completely uninterested in solid food till about 11mos, at which point she started demanding tastes of our food but refused to tolerate being spoonfed. She only wanted it if she could feed it to herself. I'm sure her strong gag reflex, which was still around at that time, had a lot to do with her desire to control what and how much went into her mouth.<br><br>
(She also only wanted it if it was the same thing one of us was eating. As in, taken directly from our portions before her very eyes. No seperately cooked, bland portions of food for her!)<br><br>
She's 15mos now and still doesn't actually *swallow* much solids, but she really likes sitting in her high chair at mealtimes nibbling and experimenting. She has a stubby little fork she practices skewering food with (and once in a while uses to put a morsel in her mouth). She can feed herself oatmeal and thick yogurt with a short spoon pretty well, although she loses interest in actually eating it after about 3 bites and begins to fingerpaint instead :LOL<br><br>
The past couple weeks she'll occasionally let me help her steer her spoon, full of something runny, to her mouth as she holds on to it. But I think that's the closest she's ever going to get to spoon feeding <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug">
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
7,290 Posts
My DS occasionally takes a couple bites of applesauce but he doesn't really care for it too much. As for yogurt - he's sensitive to both dairy and soy so that is pretty much out. Next time I pick up some goat's milk yogurt from the HFS I might give him a spoonful, I don't know yet. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 
1 - 20 of 27 Posts
Top